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  • Added third cat to house. Will they ever get along?

    I brought a third cat into my house this week.

    I have two cats that I have had for a long time. They are both indoor cats. A 14yo boy cat who is a Maine Coon cat type, pretty easy going and still fairly active. And a 12yo girl cat who still runs around the house, she is sensitive and independent.

    The new cat is 3yo girl cat and one that I have known for a couple of years. She was an office cat where I worked (I got laid off recently.) I found her abandoned near the office and took her in. She has not been around other cats.

    We put the new cat into our sun room. She has windows and cat trees so is ok in there. She can see our cats through the glass door. They look at each other and hiss and growl a bit still after 4 days. It's mostly the new cat and our girl cat hissing at each other. They haven't tried to fight through the glass at all. And it's mostly the new cat hissing at both of the other cats. She seems to be an Alpha type and the other cats are more laid back.

    We switch them a few times and put our 12yo girl cat away in the sun room for a while and let the new cat into the rest of the house with the boy cat. Boy cat does not seem to care much and mostly ignores new cat. If he does get curious they do hiss and growl a bit at each other.

    I know this can take a couple weeks to sort out. Is there any hope they might all get along and at least not try to fight and hurt each other?

  • #2
    OMG in my opinion resolution in a couple of weeks is like a record! Give them months IMO.

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    • #3
      There is hope! But yes, it can take quite a bit of time. I would just keep doing what you are, keeping them separately, but switching what rooms they stay in, and in time, they should come around. It took one of my cats 2 months to quit hissing at a newcomer I had brought in.

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      • #4
        Yes, unless you have REALLY crabby cats, but it'll take a while. Personally I practiced the system my friend who had four cats before I had that many recommended: "I let them sort it out." My indoor cats took a couple months to accept the original fourth cat, a small male, despite having seen him through the window, smelled him through the mudroom door, and generally being aware of his existence, while once my oldest cat died and new fourth cat appeared (literally, in the garage, about two weeks after my big fat fluffy cat died) he moved right in after his quarantine and vetting, and it was like he'd always lived there. Meanwhile in the barn after about two years we seem to sort of have achieved cat detente, or at least Tripod and Friday (who switch off being Top Cat) have given up hoping Mr Seven (a quasi-stray tomcat who appears to be related to Bow Tie-we think they both moved in from the former dairy farm up the road) will pack up and leave or get eaten by a coyote or something, while Thursday and Bow Tie (low cats in the pecking order) have decided Mr Seven isn't going to eat them (he's extremely laid-back for an intact male and if anything is a low-status cat like them.) Meal times are finally quiet again.
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          #5
          When they hiss and growl is there anything I should do? Calm them, reassure them, or do nothing?

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          • #6
            I generally distract the hissers, but that's mainly for my benefit, not theirs. I do not want to have to hear an actual cat fight.

            Food is a great equalizer too, especially a treat food like tuna. Funny story, when I moved in with my sisters many years ago, I brought two cats and they had two also. Lots of hissing, screaming and unhappiness. Then I had the idea to give them their wet cat food at four strategically placed bowls in the middle of the kitchen floor -- no one could get pinned against a wall or in a corner, and escape routes were available. The first time I did it, harmony was instantaneous. I said "see, boys, you really are all brothers under the skin" to which my sister replied "oh no, they are brothers under the TIN!!"

            Anyway, I've never had an unsuccessful kitty integration. Last fall I introduced a wee kitten to Terigo (14 at the time) and Burrito (9 at the time). Terigo became depressed and clingy, Burrito played "bowling with kitteh". They are all good buddies now.
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            • #7
              It can happen, unless one of the females is a real bee-yotch. I've found three is a workable number in my house, as long as two are male. We had squabbles but they eventually worked it out. I did try adding a fourth a few years ago, another female. She had to be the Anne Frank cat for a year, living in fear in the attic--if my calico female had the chance, she would literally try to kill the new cat, and the new cat was very shy and pacifist, so she would just lie there and scream and get ripped apart. No amount of Feliway, Prozac, slow introductions, etc., could ever get the calico to accept her, and now she lives with my brother and his more laid-back male cats.

              Spraying Feliway around or using the diffusers can help a lot.
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              • #8
                Bringing in a new cat always upsets the apple cart for a while. How quickly they adjust really depends on the personalities of the cats.

                I have one cat that has very poor social skills...he must give off this vibe because the other cats HATED him when he first came. With him, it took 5 or 6 months for all the other cats to be kinda OK with him. In the meantime, there was a lot of fighting and hissing and growling.

                Another of my cats (a girl kitty that has a fairly alpha personality) came when she was a very young kitten. She was accepted pretty much immediately and I don't think it took more than a couple of weeks for all the kinks to be ironed out.

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                • #9
                  It depends on the cats

                  we brought in an older female that we took in from a shelter. I couldn't stand the thought that she would never get adopted and had lived in a home all her life til her older family died and she went to the shelter.

                  She was not doing well at the shelter, so we brought her home

                  Our one boy, Tommy, got along with anybody. But our original cat (now 18yo) wants NO PART of this usurper. Old cat Jessie hisses and grrrrrrs EVERY time she sees the new one - even now after more than 2 years

                  Even if Jess is just chillin on a chair - If "new" cat Wiggs even walks by its grrr/hisssss time and a bit of whining - "She's looking at me . . . make her stop"

                  Jessie's standard response with the grrrr is "Fie on you, spawn of Satan" and then sometimes Jess runs - which makes Wiggs chase her (classic hunting response) and Wiggs probably weighs twice what Jessie does so when Wiggs rolls Jessie it is not good and reinforces why Jessie HATES Wiggs

                  They will NEVER get along. Good thing Wiggs cannot climb the baby gate we have to separate them over nights (Jessie, the older of the two, can and will climb the gate, but only does if SHE is the one locked out of the main house)

                  I've given up trying to keep things friendly and just try to keep them ignoring each other or apart from each other.

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                  • #10
                    It's been two years since I got the second cat, and my original (female) cat still hates him. Thankfully they are not really fighters, and it never goes beyond making rude noises and smacking each other, but I am definitely over it!

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                      Update: All 3 of the cats are rockstars!

                      It wasn't quite a week and we decided that they had seen each other through the glass enough to try to let them be all together. There has been a little hissing and growling when the new cat gets too close but mostly they seem to be doing great. Our place is big, lots of rooms, windows, and cat trees for all. We only let them together when we are around to supervise, so the new cats goes in her sunroom when we aren't here and at night.

                      Looks like things are going to work out well.

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