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  • My life has become a mess and a dog needs a ride....

    Hey all,

    I thought about changing to an alter but I really don't feel like it so I am posting under ME.

    Well, to get to the major point of this I will post it first then get to the boring background. I think I also posted this because I need to vent.

    Ok I HATE posting this but I need help. Within the last few days my life has been turned upside down. I need to find a place to keep my RB. He is 12 and in great health great with children, dogs, cats (if they don't run from him), horses and was a buddy to a chicken. It can be a temp foster (I should be out of this disaster in 2 months )or if you fall in love I will let him stay. I just want him to be happy. His bday was just October 3 . I am in Ocala area...... please don't flame me things are hard enough as it is. (this was of last night 10/21/13)

    Update:
    I do have a solid lead to take him in VA. I actually grew up with her and know her quite well. I need to find a way to get him up there and have no money for gas. I do have time and a car but no gas. I have emailed the Ridgeback Rescue here in FL just waiting to hear back from them and another rescue here in the area.

    Part 2
    I got laid off my job which happens once or twice a year. NO big deal they always bring me back. (TMI HEADS UP) Well, I went to take my pee drug test to come back and it came back dirty (get ready for TMI). I had sex with my fiancée (Thursday) and took my pee test the next day (Friday) to come back on Monday. Well, I peed dirty for cocaine because I was with him the night before. I thought he was just drunk but it brought out so many other things (not just cocaine but maybe crack but I have no proof. I am sure it is after hearing from other members of the family). So my contractor will not bring me back for 1yr but the company itself will bring me back but it is taking forever. In the meantime the Fiancée just up and left me hanging when he did have a small job and he won't see his two kids. The day after he left the lights were turned off and he was supposed to be paying that bill. I am now back in my parents house and they wont take my dog because he poops in the yard. This dog is the last thing I have in connection to my son that died in 2006. It was his dog...

    I'm telling you I have hit rock bottom. I am behind 3 months on my car, I owe still on the house I was renting (I actually liked it there and want to go back) but the Fiancée told me he was paying these things and wasn't. He even got $10,000 settlement in al of this process and not ONE FREEAKING DIME was put on bills. Now that his drug issue has come to light it explains where it went. WOW. Never in my life did I ever think my world would come crashing down so far. He told me everything I wanted to hear and even was going to put the deposit on the Knabstrupper filly I have wanted. It was all a lie Hopefully you can understand that mess I wrote. I am a bit scatter brained at this point
    Draumr Hesta Farm
    "Wenn Du denkst es geht nicht mehr, kommt von irgendwo ein kleines Licht daher"
    Member of the COTH Ignorant Disrepectful F-bombs!*- 2Dogs Farm

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    I'm north of where you need to get your doggie so I'm not much help for transport but just want to send you hugs.

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    • #3
      I want to send you hugs too, and jingles. I hope and pray you will hear from the rescue group. I am glad you have time and a car. Can your friend in VA send you any money? Are there any organizations in your area that help people with gas money? (A church where I used to live said the only financial help they could give me for my move was money for gas. I was not a member or anything, had visited the church one Sunday not long before I moved.)
      Founder of the People Who Prefer COTH Over FB Clique
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      • #4
        OK, and I thought I was having a bad day. I am so sorry you are going through all this crap. It is too bad that your parents don't understand the connection you have with your son's dog. How long have you been looking for a place for it? Maybe something closer will come up, I hope so. then when things improve, you can get it back. Sorry I can't be of more help that to tell you I'll be thinking of you.
        www.ncsporthorse.com

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        • #5
          Hugs to you!!

          I am willing to drive a 6-8 hour leg if you need. I would offer him a spot here, and I do, but we have a newborn, toddler, 2 dogs and 2 cats... That might be a bit much for him.

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            #6
            I have a 3yr old and a 4yr that love to cover him in the sand (he knows babies/young children and loves them the most).He has been part of a pack of 4 dogs and 6 kids and one Bengal cat.... lol he is very flexible. He is really just sorta goes with the flow kinda pup
            Draumr Hesta Farm
            "Wenn Du denkst es geht nicht mehr, kommt von irgendwo ein kleines Licht daher"
            Member of the COTH Ignorant Disrepectful F-bombs!*- 2Dogs Farm

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            • #7
              Wow I am just so sorry, and sending hugs your way.
              Just like our eyes, our hearts have a way of adjusting to the dark.--Adam Stanley

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                #8
                and now... the company is telling me that they lost funding for the last quarter for me to come back. I am just telling you it gets better and better every hecking day :'(
                Draumr Hesta Farm
                "Wenn Du denkst es geht nicht mehr, kommt von irgendwo ein kleines Licht daher"
                Member of the COTH Ignorant Disrepectful F-bombs!*- 2Dogs Farm

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                • #9
                  Ok does the human society down there take in dogs for people without money? The humane society in Atlanta will keep dogs and cats belonging to homeless people for weeks on end. And the vet hospital that I used in Atlanta, a real vet hospital, would keep homeless cats and dogs and even adopt them out. I don't know your area well, but I'd think that some group down there would help you. What about your vet? My vets, both in Atlanta and Savannah, gave me discounts for all the animals I dragged in there.

                  You need to ask around.
                  Meanwhile, you have a PM coming.

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                  • #10
                    If you have sex with a drug addict you can test positive for the drug?

                    Paula
                    He is total garbage! Quick! Hide him on my trailer (Petstorejunkie).

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by paulaedwina View Post
                      If you have sex with a drug addict you can test positive for the drug?

                      Paula
                      I didn't think so... but maybe we are wrong?
                      No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt
                      For you to insult me, I must first value your opinion - Unknown
                      Pleasure Portrait 1989-2016...sleep well my girl

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Nootka View Post
                        I have a 3yr old and a 4yr that love to cover him in the sand (he knows babies/young children and loves them the most).He has been part of a pack of 4 dogs and 6 kids and one Bengal cat.... lol he is very flexible. He is really just sorta goes with the flow kinda pup
                        If he is safe around kiddos and other dogs, he has a place here. I'll PM you my email and I can send pics of the house and yard. He can either stay here, or we can get him to your friend in VA, we'll be driving that way around Nov. 16th to go home for Thanksgiving.

                        In the meantime, can we arrange some sort of COTH caravan?

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                        • #13
                          Having sex with someone who is a cocaine (or crack) user should not cause you to test positive for a drug test. Even in the unlikely circumstances he had drug traces in any, um, fluid he might have left, you still would've been below the cutoff (these tests aren't zero-tolerance, there's a threshold).

                          Apparently things like amoxicillin, any of the -caine anesthetics, some liver and kidney diseases, and diabetes can all cause false-positives for cocaine, though. So if you truly have not used drugs and you have not taken amoxicillin or an anesthetic recently, you might think about a CBC panel to rule out underlying disease. And/or ask your employer for a second test.

                          Good luck with your dog and getting everything back in order! The whole situation sounds very stressful.

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                          • #14
                            What is an RB?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Houndhill View Post
                              What is an RB?
                              Ridgeback?
                              If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.
                              Desmond Tutu

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                              • #16
                                I am sorry you are in such a rough spot. I hope you find a good situation for you and your kids and can get your dog into a safe spot. I think you need to find another source for your positive test however.
                                McDowell Racing Stables

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                                • #17
                                  Originally posted by Louise View Post
                                  Ridgeback?
                                  Oh, I've always seen "RR" for that....but I think you might be right.

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                                  • #18
                                    Originally posted by Nootka View Post
                                    I went to take my pee drug test to come back and it came back dirty (get ready for TMI). I had sex with my fiancée (Thursday) and took my pee test the next day (Friday) to come back on Monday. Well, I peed dirty for cocaine because I was with him the night before. I thought he was just drunk but it brought out so many other things (not just cocaine but maybe crack but I have no proof.
                                    No. You do not test positive for cocaine by having sex with someone who does cocaine. It's not possible. Just like it's not possible to get drunk by having sex with a drunk person.

                                    There are only two ways to test positive for cocaine on a lab-administered urinalysis:
                                    1. You snorted, smoked, injected, or otherwise ingested cocaine within 3 days before your urinalysis; or
                                    2. Your specimen was mixed up with someone's who did.

                                    I've administered thousands of drug tests over my career and I know of only one case where #2 actually happened (and that was 20 years ago). The person immediately asked to have the other half of his split specimen tested, and it was negative. In hundreds of other cases, people swore there was a mix-up, but then declined to pay to have the other half tested, even though they knew they'd be reimbursed if the result was negative. Which tells you that they knew what the result would be.

                                    I hope you get some help with all that's going wrong in your life. I also hope you're able to find a soft landing for your 12 year old doggie.

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                                    • #19
                                      The parents won't take this 12 year old dog, their deceased grandson's dog, because he "poops in the yard"?

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                                      • #20
                                        I am too far away to help, but I send hugs and jingles.
                                        Can you follow him into the yard, and pick it up? If that is all they are upset about?
                                        Another killer of threads

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