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  • Looking for a little comfort ...

    I lost one of my kids this morning ... and I'm so sad.

    I've never had to put a horse down so it was pretty tough. I just can't believe that this critter won't be there when I go home.

    When does it stop hurting and when do you stop crying?
    "For God hates utterly
    The bray of bragging tongues."
    Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

  • #2
    It will take time. I'm so sorry and have been there. Not ever easy. Just know you have friends that have walked in your shoes.

    Prayers from VB.............
    Randee Beckman ~Otteridge Farm, LLC (http://on.fb.me/1iJEqvR)~ Marketing Manager - The Clothes Horse & Jennifer Oliver Equine Insurance Specialist

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      #3
      Thanks VB. I guess this is new territory. I can't seem to focus on anything and I keep leaking tears ...
      "For God hates utterly
      The bray of bragging tongues."
      Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

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      • #4
        It takes a long time to heal.. at least it did for me. Huge Hugs to you!! and Godspeed to your friend...
        Hickstead 1996-2011 Godspeed
        " Hickstead is simply the best and He lives forever in our hearts"
        Akasha 1992-2012 - I will always love you sweet girl.

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        • #5
          I'm so sorry. ... just know you have friends and fellow breeders who care and have walked in those shoes. Godspeed your little one.
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          • #6
            I'm sorry. It's always hard to lose one. I lost one of my favorites in 2001 and have never gotten over that horse. He was one in a million and only 4 when I lost him - he broke his shoulder in a freak pasture accident.
            Cloverfox Stables

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            • #7
              I am so sorry. It is a difficult time. They say time heals all, I not sure that's the case, but it softens the bad times and let's you remember the good times. Godspeed to your critter.

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                #8
                Thanks everyone. I guess it hurts so much because they ask for so little ... and give so much. This one was very special and was as sweet and gentle as the day was long.

                So fragile,... they're so very very fragile. Everyone go out and hug hug hug their buddies.
                "For God hates utterly
                The bray of bragging tongues."
                Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

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                • #9
                  They are fragile, OMom. It will get better, but will take a long while. Be gentle with yourself and give it time. Hugs from someone who has been there.
                  Mary Lou
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                  • #10
                    Oh no I am so sorry. Who was it and What happened? It takes a long time to get better but they are always with you. Try to think good memories. I know how well you treat your horses so your baby had an exceptional life. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all............Godspeed young one

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                    • #11
                      OM, I still can't talk about my first pony without getting teary - and she's been gone 4 years now. She was in perfect health so I thought that I would have so much more time.

                      Big hugs from Michigan for you - we truly know what you are going through.
                      Holly
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                        #12
                        I'm at work and I don't want to go home and face the empty stall.
                        "For God hates utterly
                        The bray of bragging tongues."
                        Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

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                        • #13
                          I am so sorry to hear this.

                          I wish I could tell you that you will feel better soon but I would be lying. However... over time, the *immediacy* of your loss will fade

                          Go on and leak tears as long as you need to. Be grateful that big sunglasses are back in style. Try to spend as much time as you can around those (two footed and four) who don't mind when you take the glasses off.
                          "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
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                          The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.

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                          • #14
                            You already know how sorry I am.....but please know once again that all of us at Castle Gate Farm send our deepest sympathies.

                            As I told you...your special kid is in good company over the bridge! I am sure DJ has located all of the best places to graze and she will show the way! RIP Sweet One!
                            PROUD MEMBER OF THE \"OMGiH I LOFF MY MARE\" CLIQUE

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                            • #15
                              {{{{HUGS}}}} OMom!!!!!

                              It is never easy to loose one of your special friends and only time makes it easier. Hug all of those that are still in your life as that is the best 'tonic' for your sadness.
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                              • #16
                                OMOM, I'm so sorry. Whenever the song "Dreamboat Annie" plays on the radio, I still cry. That was my Bee's show name. I don't think it ever gets easier but as time passes, our thoughts tend to linger on the good times and not the bad. My heart goes out to you because I do know how you feel. Big hugs to you and a cyber shoulder to cry on.

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                                \"If you are going through hell, keep going.\" ~Churchill~

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                                  #17
                                  Thanks Tasker, Castlegate, everybody.

                                  It's such a tough initiation into a big big club. I just think of all the threads like this I've read...sometimes posting, sometimes not. Understanding ... but not understanding really. NOW I understand .... and sorely wish I didn't.

                                  It doesn't matter who is was ... the hurt is what it is. God bless the vet—my critter just fell asleep...no convulsion, no fuss, no nothing. Just went to sleep peacefully.
                                  "For God hates utterly
                                  The bray of bragging tongues."
                                  Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

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                                  • #18
                                    I'm so sorry for your loss. It never get easier and it's so hard. When I lost my first one, I was literally inconsolable for quite a while. Would just burst into tears uncontrollably... time does heal, and I found immersing myself with memories instead of avoiding pictures and so forth was much better. My sincerest condolences...
                                    Signature Sporthorses
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                                    • #19
                                      I'm so so sorry for your loss It is never easy, ever. I had my mare put to sleep with a 3 month foal at her side in 2005, she was in absolute agony and I know I was quite literally putting her out of her misery, but it sure was hard to do and even harder to get over.
                                      Celtic Pride Farm
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                                        #20
                                        I guess I'll go home ... thanks everyone. I've printed out your comments as I don't have internet access at home. Thanks for letting me cry on your shoulders.

                                        Bless you all... and many many thanks.

                                        I just noticed I had mud on my knees from hugging my baby ... *bawl*
                                        "For God hates utterly
                                        The bray of bragging tongues."
                                        Sophocles, Antigone Spoken by the Leader of the Chorus of Theban Elders

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