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  • #41
    Hm, several come to mind.

    The head of our equine vet clinic told me I was meticulous. Actually I'm OCD!


    When I worked at a local event sending riders to the starting box for X-C one of the Intermediate level riders said I should go work at Rolex! Considering the upper level riders really don't need anyone to send them to the box, that sure made my day!!

    When I got one horse, the head trainer at a private girls school in PA told me I'd get killed on the horse. Two years later when I moved the horse to the Rochester, NY area a very well respected trainer described the horse as a push button baby sitter.
    Sue

    I'm not saying let's go kill all the stupid people...I'm just saying let's remove all the warning labels and let the problem sort itself out.

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    • #42
      OP, what a lovely compliment - you should be vey proud of yourself.

      And to others who posted - I love reading these stories and I'll admit a couple have made me a bit sniffly.

      Best compliment I ever got - "I wish I had 10 yr olds that looked this good." From my vet about my 30 yr old.
      "Cats aren't clean; they're covered with cat spit."
      - John S Nichols (1745-1846,writer/printer)

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      • #43
        2 compliments will always follow me as a rider.
        The one I got from Kyra Kyrklund as a teenager on my fugly horse, that didn’t look like he belonged at the fancy dressage stable and was called a donkey by the other riders. He was a NICE horse in regards to brain and gaits, but he looked like something out of a childrens drawing.
        Kyra watched us go around the arena and turned to the audience, and told them that a talented horse is easy to spot, but to spot a good horse, it takes a rider who can see beyond apperance, and see the soul of the horse.
        she then proceed to praise my fugly horse for his work etics, gaits and his wonderfull brain.
        When my lesson was over, she told the audience, that she really wanted to ride my horse, but that she didn’t think that she had what it took to ride him as good as I did, because “That horse is defying the laws of physics, gravitet and biomechanics, but he doesn’t know that. He is just a horse that loves and trusts his rider so much, that he gives her his heart in every ride”

        It took me about an hour, to stop crying after that compliment.

        The second compliment isn’t from a celeb, but instead from a, then, 6 year old girl at my barn.
        She had a very talented older sister that was bringing home a lot of ribbons. The Girl, who had just gotten her first pony, was asked by her mother, if she was planning to beat her sister in the ribbons department. The Girl paused a moment and then looked up at her mother and said “ I like ribbons, but I want to learn how to ride like SavaLou does. She is always smiling and laughing and her horses are always so happy. I think she knows how to ride her horses to a magical place”

        That compliment is so precious to me and is actually the one I hold most dear. It defines my primary goal, as a rider, and horseowner.
        Last edited by SavaLou; Oct. 8, 2017, 01:53 AM. Reason: spelling

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          #44
          SavaLou those are great ones.
          I'm not sure if I grew out of stupid or ran out of brave.

          Practicing Member of the Not too Klassy for Boxed Wine Clique

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          • #45
            Originally posted by SavaLou View Post
            2 compliments will always follow me as a rider.
            The one I got from Kyra Kyrklund as a teenager on my fugly horse, that didn’t look like he belonged at the fancy dressage stable and was called a donkey by the other riders. He was a NICE horse in regards to brain and gaits, but he looked like something out of a childrens drawing.
            Kyra watched us go around the arena and turned to the audience, and told them that a talented horse is easy to spot, but to spot a good horse, it takes a rider who can see beyond apperance, and see the soul of the horse.
            she then proceed to praise my fugly horse for his work etics, gaits and his wonderfull brain.
            When my lesson was over, she told the audience, that she really wanted to ride my horse, but that she didn’t think that she had what it took to ride him as good as I did, because “That horse is defying the laws of physics, gravitet and biomechanics, but he doesn’t know that. He is just a horse that loves and trusts his rider so much, that he gives her his heart in every ride”

            It took me about an hour, to stop crying after that compliment.

            The second compliment isn’t from a celeb, but instead from a, then, 6 year old girl at my barn.
            She had a very talented older sister that was bringing home a lot of ribbons. The Girl, who had just gotten her first pony, was asked by her mother, if she was planning to beat her sister in the ribbons department. The Girl paused a moment and then looked up at her mother and said “ I like ribbons, but I want to learn how to ride like SavaLou does. She is always smiling and laughing and her horses are always so happy. I think she knows how to ride her horses to a magical place”

            That compliment is so precious to me and is actually the one I hold most dear. It defines my primary goal, as a rider, and horseowner.
            love it!!
            Founding Member: Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique

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            • #46
              Originally posted by Sparrowette View Post

              love it!!
              Me too, those were wonderful.

              So many are, what a good thread this is, makes you smile.

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              • #47
                Just wow! What really great and heartwarming stories...all !

                I've gotten praise along the way, here and there. But the one that stands out to me, is the following -- mostly because it's more about the other person involved.

                Umpteen years ago I was visiting the Walsh family in Southern Pines, and Mickey Walsh Sr. (racing hall of fame steeplechase trainer) was fed up with a certain yearling colt because the colt (turned out with others in a pasture) had gotten increasingly harder to catch -- and finally it got to the point where nobody could catch him. Ever.

                So, foot in mouth little ole me said, "I'll catch him for you."

                Needless to say I got the eye-roll of the century from Mickey.

                So....I go out in to the pasture wearing my red face -- colt of course ran away -- and I sat down in the pasture and started clapping my hands. Not loud clapping, just non-stop average clapping while not looking at the colt.

                Colt got curious, started to wander over to me. I got up, moved to a different spot, sat down and kept on clapping. Colt got irresistibly curious; came right up to me, nosed me all over, and long story short I caught him -- no fuss no muss -- colt quiet as a lamb.

                When I humbly brought him over to Micky, all Mickey did was grunt me a satisfied 'huh'. Sort of an 'I'll be damned' slash 'good job' rolled into one kind of huh.

                Then he asked who taught me that trick. I told him (another old jumper trainer)....and he nodded -- and then said, 'You know, we've been sitting out there clapping at that colt for weeks." Then he winked at me.

                It was one of those compliments that you don't 'get' until hours later.


                Last edited by danacat; Oct. 8, 2017, 02:22 PM.

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                • #48
                  SavaLou, your stories both caused my eyes to leak, in a good way. I am glad this topic was started, because we often tend to be our own worst critics. It is uplifting, and encouraging to be reminded of the times we did something praiseworthy, and someone noticed.
                  Jeanie
                  RIP Sasha, best dog ever, pictured shortly before she died, Death either by euthanasia or natural causes is only the end of the animal inhabiting its body; I believe the spirit lives on.

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                  • #49
                    The best compliment I ever got was when a very high level clinician who had trained Pan Am silver medalists told me that perhaps my (entirely self trained) 8yo horse wasn't as developed as he could be, but what he did know was correct and i hadn't taught him anything wrong. We were schooling 3rd/4th at the time.

                    I was not in regular training at the time (although I clinicked as much as possible), and the comment gave me the confidence that even if this was my first horse I was taking up the levels in dressage, the general philosophy of get the most you can without tension or confrontation seemed to be adequately shielding us from going down the wrong path. Trying to do this sport by the seat of your pants alone in an indoor most of the time is a breeding ground for nagging doubts, and even if you're not always quite sure what you should be doing, it's nice to hear you're not completely f*g it up.

                    The next best compliment wasn't actually mine to claim, but happened when that same horse and I rode with another clinician. We began, and the clinician said "You have clearly received excellent training." That was nice to hear, but that compliment belongs to the veritable *village* of wonderful people, in hunterland and dressageland alike, who stood in the middle of the arena and taught while my sorry ss rode. I would be nowhere without all that piled up teaching from all of them. Many of them provided me with lists of horses to ride and hours of instruction far beyond my ability to pay.

                    I do my level best to ride how they would approve of and as long as I do that I think I do ok.
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                    • #50
                      Originally posted by RPM View Post

                      Aww, Suzie, you and Pepper and that little old lady made me cry! (In a good way.)
                      I so intend to be that little old lady in the future!
                      It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.

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                        #51
                        Originally posted by SuzieQNutter View Post

                        I so intend to be that little old lady in the future!
                        That is a grand aim, we should all be that all lady

                        I'm not sure if I grew out of stupid or ran out of brave.

                        Practicing Member of the Not too Klassy for Boxed Wine Clique

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                        • #52
                          I adopted a mini about 3 years ago who'd been repeatedly rehomed for a variety of crimes -- mostly fence-busting and intense studdy-ness. He came to my gelding oasis and simmered down a lot because he got to live 24/7 with two mellow boys who let him be the boss, and the fences are 5' pipe panels that didn't seem to tempt him to climb or smash. But, it took a loongggg time to get him to trust me, so his manners were slow to develop -- hated being tied, hated leading, hated being groomed, and loathed the vet and wriggled, stomped, and wrestled us whenever he needed medical care.

                          Two years of mini-wrestle-mania -- he'd manage to pitch a fit even when heavily sedated, particularly for sheath cleaning. Death before dishonor, apparently -- his, or ours. But. In the past year, he's decided it's all good: hoof trimming, fly spray, baths, clippers, teeth floating, shots -- he stands like a champ and doesn't even suggest that he's going to kill you later.

                          The best compliment was when the vet pointed out that I'd reformed him . . . by being very patient. I wasn't a patient kid, teen or young adult rider. I was thrilled to hear that I'd made progress.

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                          • #53
                            I forgot about this one - I went to work for a local dressage trainer several years ago and she had a mare that had been given to her to train. Mare was a Dutch from a line that was known to somewhat difficult and she had decided she did not like this trainer and did not want to be caught. She had a halter on 24/7 and a 20 ft long rope attached to it so she could be caught. Trainer tells me to go get her and LSS, within a couple days, mare had decided I was okay. Trainer had me doing all work with her and finally the day came when she was to have her first day with a rider on. It went very well and trainer told me "that mare likes you, she trusts you, she's come a long way."

                            It wasn't a big compliment, but what meant the most to me was the experience with this mare and it meant a lot that she did like me. I liked her - she left the barn shortly thereafter and I never saw her again. Wish I'd had the chance to buy her.
                            "Cats aren't clean; they're covered with cat spit."
                            - John S Nichols (1745-1846,writer/printer)

                            Don't come for me - I didn't send for you.

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                            • #54
                              I was taking a set of lessons with a cross country / 3 day coach at an amazing facility in upstate NY. I was riding a very large very green Irish Sport Horse gelding through the indoor out to the outdoor arena on a crisp October morning while the coach asked me about my riding experience.

                              Said green horse, all 17+ hands of him saw his shadow and reacted by running sideways almost running over the coach and just missing slamming into the wall. I somehow managed to stay on and bring him around.

                              The coach (very Irish) just said, "Leg and seat foundation installed...." and carried on to the outdoor.

                              The second was later on when I was riding a dressage schoolmaster I had no qualifications to even sit on at the extended sitting trot he called over that "He's very happy with your sitting trot."

                              Will never forget that this horse that had more buttons than the space shuttle approved of my seat.

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                              • #55
                                When my now 10 year old mare was getting started under saddle as a 3 year old we took the 4-H club over to the trainer's to watch them work with her. Even though she wasn't owned by me at the time I had been working with her at home (she was bred/owned by my BO) so they asked if I wanted to get on her and see how she was going for myself. I just walked and trotted her around a little bit in their indoor and she was still very green of course but doing quite well for a horse that can be pretty reactive and spooky at times. Anyway, while I was riding I remember the mother of the trainer (who has a lifetime of horse experience herself & taught both of her sons how to ride) telling me "she's even quieter and more comfortable with you on her!". Even though she wasn't mine yet I had bonded with her a lot over the previous months that I had been working with her and that comment sort of justified that for me. Once she came home I had the privilege of continuing her training and when she went up for sale there's no way I was letting her go anywhere. I still think of that comment regularly and it's a good reminder of why she's mine anytime she gives me trouble lol.

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                                • #56
                                  Ahh yes. I love hearing these kinds of stories.

                                  Two experiences come to mind for me.

                                  First was back when I was a nervous wreck about riding (for no good or discernible reason) and my instructor said that I was a much better rider than I gave myself credit for. Really helped my confidence.

                                  And the most recent compliment goes directly to my horse. It happens fairly frequently but never fails to make me smile. People (vets, farriers, other boarders, etc) ask me how old he is and I tell them he's 20. I immediately get a gasp and a double take. They always say they would never have guessed and that he looks much younger.

                                  I love my "old" boy.

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                                  • #57
                                    I got out of horses last year, but for 50+ years trail rode and camped all over the world. I would often ride alone or in groups of many sizes. I always rode fast walking leader type horses and would about 99% of the time, lead the group. I can read a map and lead a group pretty much anywhere and only occasionally get misdirected for a little bit... A fellow trail rider, once said, "She has a GPS in her head." That meant alot to me. Others would say, "I'm riding with Gail cuz I know I'll have a great ride and come home in time.".

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                                    • #58
                                      The judge at a show where I won all 3 o/f classes, after I bombing the flat class, “I was rooting for you, I love you guys together. Too bad he had no intention of playing well with others.”

                                      My gelding has a few issues in hack classes when horses make a lot of sound cantering. He freaks out when he can hear them behind him but can’t see them and it involves some hopping and spinning with the inevitable comment “#123, please retire to the centre” .

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                                      • #59
                                        Op, great job! Lots of good stories here! Go COTH peeps!

                                        my fav is definitely that time I sent a photo in to Jumping Clinic and George Morris wrote that I had a "perfect release" and "you can't get a better picture of jumping out of hand...". Swoon!

                                        it meant a ton to me, particularly because I grew up poor with a western pony in the backyard. I would study the pics in Hunter Seat Equitation and "train" myself by setting up PVC poles from my dad's plumbing work on cinderblocks, jumping them over and over. I would ask my mom to video me, pause it and try to fix everything I did that wasn't like the equitation greats. Which was a lot. But I kept at it and 25 years later, I am still keeping at it to try to make every fence like that. It is a lifelong effort, this sport. GM has always been a hero to me.

                                        here it is: https://practicalhorsemanmag.com/tra...il-2017-rider4

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                                        • #60
                                          My friend had a gelding who had on/off lameness issues. She had a couple farriers, couple vets, x-rays, the whole nine yards, but nothing really seemed to fix the issue.

                                          I trim my own horses hooves successfully, but nothing too fancy. Offered to give it a shot on her gelding. I was nervous, but just kept working at it, little by little. The horse became sound! She'd just had a baby, so she went to find the horse a good home.

                                          The farrier of the new owner complimented on the trim job--said it was really good. I was on cloud nine for weeks. I pretty much taught myself on my patient horse with internet guides. I knew I was doing okay on my own horses, but to hear it from a professional was just so much more rewarding.

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