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  • #21
    KBC,

    Good for you! I know you've been working really hard, how wonderful for you that it's paid off!

    One of my favorites: my old mentor, who was famously understated and scant with praise, took me along to ride horses for her while she looked for a client. As I was schooling a very green horse through a gymnastic, the seller said something to my mentor, and her reply was "You're getting a heck of a school on these horses for free. You should be paying her."

    Another good one that requires context: Holding a horse for farrier to the stars, whose daughter catch rode for some BNTs, we're talking about a local upcoming rider, and I asked his opinion. His reply "Oh, she's just like you. Half decent rider whose never had a decent horse or a decent break." It took me until later that evening to understand what a compliment I had been paid, because he referred to a couple of his clients, Olympians both, as "decent riders" and then would proceed to give a complete and accurate analysis of their strengths and weaknesses. Being called a "half decent rider" by that man was high praise.
    The plural of anecdote is not data.

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    • #22
      From my saddle fitter: "No, he looks great. And his back is so healthy!".

      I asked her opinion if my young horse had gotten too chunky while she was adjusting my saddle. It means the work I am doing is correct in developing happy muscles and a correct topline.

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      • #23
        The one that sticks in my mind is many years ago. Riding my little 14.2h grade horse that had learned dressage with me at a schooling show, but with a judge who was then, I think r and later R or S. I thought we had put in a nice test and at the end she called me over and said "You have a fabulous partnership with this horse! People will try to get you to sell to get something bigger and fancier - don't do it! You both are working correctly and have more to teach each other as you move up the levels. "

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        • #24
          From a clinician when I was riding as a teenager: you have an exxxxxcellent seat (assuming he wasn't a perv talking about my butt!)

          That's one of the benefits of growing up riding evil ponies and out-of-control OTTBs.
          "Dogs give and give and give. Cats are the gift that keeps on grifting." –Bradley Trevor Greive

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          • #25
            My favorite compliments are from the horses themselves.
            Don't fall for a girl who fell for a horse just to be number two in her world... ~EFO

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            • #26
              from a trainer I had worked with about oldest daughter who was a natural at equitation ... "I hate to tell you this but your daughter rides much better than what you can afford" ...

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              • #27
                From a couple of different trainers, in different parts of the country, many years ago: "Horses like you...you have feel."

                Still makes me teary to think of it.

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                • #28
                  Grandma said, "you are not half horse, but 99% horse".
                  Not sure it was a compliment.

                  Riding for a BNT, that let me jump his gold medal winner very easy ride, that I had been exercising, over a nation's cup course, "you ride my horse better than I do".

                  He could get more out of any horse than anyone I ever saw.
                  That one horse was a dream to ride, for anyone.
                  He was just being nice, but it sure felt good right then.

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                  • #29
                    This is the first thing that popped into my mind, related to 'horsey compliments.'

                    A gazillion years ago, a friend, a gifted rider and inspiring instructor, asked me to cover a lesson for her. I was NOT an instructor, not in any way up to her level in riding or the knowledge thereof, but she was a good friend. So I said I would.

                    The lesson was with a pre-teen on a elderly Thoroughbred school horse. The girl was small, and the horse was HUGE, sharkfinned, homely, and NOT the most comfortable to ride, but a saint.

                    During the course of the lesson, when I would tell the girl to do something, her mother would leap in with a 'are you listening?/do what she's telling you to/you're doing (whatever) wrong/etc.' It was probably the WORST case of "backseat riding instruction" I've ever experienced, if you know what I mean. As I didn't know the dynamic this mother had with my friend, and I wasn't a regular instructor, I didn't feel comfortable telling her to stop it.

                    But, for every negative or nagging comment the mother made, I made a point of saying something positive to the girl, either about her riding, or how the horse was going for her.

                    When the lesson was done, the girl rode up to me and said, "That was the MOST fun I have ever had!"

                    I credit this to my first English/hunter instructor. She took this only-having-ridden-Western person and started me on the basics. No matter how poorly I did (in my eyes), she ALWAYS found something positive to say to me during/after a lesson. I've tried to incorporate That into everything I do/deal with to this day.
                    "Oh, sure, you may be able to take down one smurf, but mark my words: You bonk one smurf, you better be ready for a blue wave."---Bucky Katt

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                    • #30
                      Two that I'm going to frame:
                      "you are an excellent pupil" - George Morris
                      signed in a copy of Hunter Seat Equitation that I asked if he would sign after a clinic I took with him.
                      Wow!

                      I'd frame the whole book, in a shadow box, open to the fly leaf.
                      The plural of anecdote is not data.

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                      • #31
                        Originally posted by KBC View Post
                        This has been quite the week for me, Fergie and I managed to win Champion at Basic Level Western Dressage last weekend out out Provincial Finals, a thing that had both coach and me crying and hugging!

                        Today I got a message saying that in fact we won High Point for Western Dressage.......WOW...

                        BUT, the thing I keep remembering, after my third test, Coaches husband came into the barn to find me, with the message "Coach says that your last lope work in that test was beautiful and elegant"

                        I've never been an elegant person, I am not a beautiful person, in the conventional measure of beautiful, so this 60 year old Grandmother is just still walking on air at that compliment. It is also helping me work on being even more elegant and beautiful when 2018 show season starts...

                        What's the best or most inspiring compliment that you have received?
                        Congratulations, that is a lovely compliment! Sometimes the compliment is better than any ribbon, but to get both the compliment and the high point is very nice indeed!

                        I have different best compliments ever based on different phases in my riding. One was a dressage test where the judge wrote "a beautiful example of what dressage should be" - I will cherish that always.

                        Another compliment was when I was in a Buck Brannaman clinic and he told me I had good timing. I've held on to that as something to always strive for - to improve my feel and timing.

                        The third was when Lynn Lloyd said "you can really ride!"

                        Of course when my horses nicker at me is a daily compliment that makes me really happy.
                        "A horse's face always conveys clearly whether it is loved by its owner or simply used." - Anja Beran

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                        • #32
                          Congrats! That's so exciting!

                          I raised a percheron weanling, the first horse I'd ever worked with and trained completely on my own start-to-finish to do mostly dressage and had a really unique opportunity to train under the guidance of a HIGHLY accomplished dressage trainer and judge that was someone you really had to work for compliments from. When he was 5 I was in a lesson and she said "you know, I really have to admit that I was skeptical about his abilities purely because he's a full draft. I've trained and shown plenty of draft crosses in my career but I'll tell you, if there is a draft in this world that can do this work and do it well, it's him". I've never been more proud. I had friends that took lessons from her at other farms and they mentioned how she would raved about my gigantic non-traditional dressage mount.

                          In his first schooling show, the judge who again was kind of known for being really old-school and traditional was talking to me after my test and after a few questions about us as a pair and his background, etc. she commented that she loved watching us go because he so clearly enjoys this kind of work. "He's surprisingly very forward and has such a good work ethic - he's always listening to you". Again, super proud to get positive feedback about the first horse I raised.

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                          • #33
                            Originally posted by blitzkrieg View Post
                            Congrats! That's so exciting!

                            I raised a percheron weanling, the first horse I'd ever worked with and trained completely on my own start-to-finish to do mostly dressage and had a really unique opportunity to train under the guidance of a HIGHLY accomplished dressage trainer and judge that was someone you really had to work for compliments from. When he was 5 I was in a lesson and she said "you know, I really have to admit that I was skeptical about his abilities purely because he's a full draft. I've trained and shown plenty of draft crosses in my career but I'll tell you, if there is a draft in this world that can do this work and do it well, it's him". I've never been more proud. I had friends that took lessons from her at other farms and they mentioned how she would raved about my gigantic non-traditional dressage mount.

                            In his first schooling show, the judge who again was kind of known for being really old-school and traditional was talking to me after my test and after a few questions about us as a pair and his background, etc. she commented that she loved watching us go because he so clearly enjoys this kind of work. "He's surprisingly very forward and has such a good work ethic - he's always listening to you". Again, super proud to get positive feedback about the first horse I raised.
                            That is really a superb compliment, not just of the here and now, but for all the years you put in your horse.

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                            • #34
                              How wonderful KBC!
                              I have received a few kind comments that I cherish. When I was a teenager,too poor to own a horse, but who did have an opportunity to show school horses and a few sale horses, I rode an older mare, not a very fancy looking one (but had been a top show horse in her younger years) in an saddle seat equitation class. She had a very sensitive mouth, such that a knowledgeable horseman would know she was not a push-button ride. We did not win , but did place. A trainer I did not even know at the time made a point of coming to find me later, to praise me for my 'good hands'.

                              Later on,still as a teenager,I showed a sale horse, who was a puller and could get really strong at the canter. He had been my assigned 'training' project and he was becoming better at cantering in a collected manner. We won the pleasure class at the county fair. My trainer asked the judge later, curious, as to how and why I won. (Other 'nicer' horses had been in the class also.) The judge said 'That girl made that horse LOOK like a pleasure to ride! (again, obvious to knowledgeable people that he was not a push-button horse at all) I took that to mean that I had successfully stayed one step ahead of him mentally, and did not let him take over and become 'chargey'. Oh yeah, I smiled all through the class too. because he was fun to ride despite not being easy.

                              A few years ago, and I am now and was then in my mid-sixties, I had the opportunity to ride a retired from showing 5-gaited horse. In the indoor arena he was a calm steady eddie. Outside though, he became much more energetic and reactive. This particular day, we were outside. The group of riders I was riding with all had stopped, and were talking with the woman who was coaching them. (I was not actually taking a lesson, just had been permitted to exercise the horse.). Something startled him, and he suddenly took off at a wild trot. I was not unseated, and got him back under control quickly. The instructor said to the other riders 'that is what a good seat looks like, ready for any sudden move the horse might make'. She praised me to the young riders, commenting that even though we had been at ease, I had kept my heels down and legs in proper position, so that when he took off, I moved with him.
                              Jeanie
                              RIP Sasha, best dog ever, pictured shortly before she died, Death either by euthanasia or natural causes is only the end of the animal inhabiting its body; I believe the spirit lives on.

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                              • #35
                                At an "A" show years ago back in my junior days...in my eq championship class the judge pinned me second after pinning me first in my previous class - jr. working hunter stake. My father and instructor got permission to talk to the judge after (it was my last class) and asked why second. The judge replied "she doesn't need to try to work at her eq as she's a natural. She just needs to do the course and not think". I remember going into that class questioning my hand position, my leg position, basically everything so yes I was thinking too much. Never made that mistake again

                                At a schooling show in my adult days while training an OTTB for a friend...I was in the warmup (mare was super hot and challenging) and as I passed a couple of girls (teens) on the rail I heard one say to the other "I hope one day I can ride that good". Yes it put a smile on my face.
                                "When a horse greets you with a nicker & regards you with a large & liquid eye, the question of where you want to be & what you want to do has been answered." CANTER New England

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                                • #36
                                  So I'm very insecure about my riding. I'm not a natural and still struggle with basics. Lately I've had several people tell me they like to watch me and my boy, that he seems so happy and relaxed in his work. I don't believe it but it's so encouraging to hear it!

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                                    #37
                                    Oh, I think this is a compliment, I've ridden for the same judge twice this year and both times I got a "tactfully ridden" for one of the tests.....I'm taking it as a compliment.
                                    I'm not sure if I grew out of stupid or ran out of brave.

                                    Practicing Member of the Not too Klassy for Boxed Wine Clique

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                                    • #38
                                      Originally posted by MsM View Post
                                      The one that sticks in my mind is many years ago. Riding my little 14.2h grade horse that had learned dressage with me at a schooling show, but with a judge who was then, I think r and later R or S. I thought we had put in a nice test and at the end she called me over and said "You have a fabulous partnership with this horse! People will try to get you to sell to get something bigger and fancier - don't do it! You both are working correctly and have more to teach each other as you move up the levels. "
                                      I would cry if a judge told me that!

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                                      • #39
                                        Originally posted by KBC View Post
                                        Oh, I think this is a compliment, I've ridden for the same judge twice this year and both times I got a "tactfully ridden" for one of the tests.....I'm taking it as a compliment.
                                        Definitely a compliment, congratulations on a fine ride.

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                                        • #40
                                          Originally posted by SuzieQNutter View Post
                                          I have a few. Not so long ago when I mounted, I heard, "I wish everyone mounted like you."

                                          When I had a lesson there originally I was told I could ride any horse on the property and if I was closer he would have me there teaching.

                                          From when I was a teenager. Pepper and I were showjumping. It was a pick your own course and I picked 10, then a 90 degree angle and one stride to 9 then a 90 degree angle one stride the other way to 8. They were 3 foot jumps and I didn't even know if we were capable of it but I could see it was the winning course. If he did it I thought I would cry.

                                          He not only did it, he did it as if it was the easiest thing in the world. He landed on the correct leads and everything.

                                          My course was then to go down to 5. Turn around come over 5 and go back to 10 and start again, work my way down to 5 then do 4, 3, 2 1 and then 4, 3 2 1 until the time ran out.

                                          Coming into 5 don't ask me what happened. My mind went else where. I was no longer on Pepper showjumping and he knew it and stopped. This brought me back to reality and I patted him on the neck, said "Sorry Pep" I went around the jump and came back over it and continued with my course.

                                          We came 2nd. We would have won if we had gone over that jump.

                                          As I was leaving on a loose rein, this no nonsense old bat of a lady called me over. I was reluctant, I didn't want to go. I knew I had done the wrong thing for Pepper to refuse. I didn't need some stranger telling me what I had done wrong.

                                          But I was a shy child so I turned Pepper towards her before leaving the ring.

                                          She looked me straight in the eye.

                                          "You have no whip, you have no spur, your horse is in a snaffle bit, you have no martingale AND when your horse refused the jump you apologised to him.

                                          I just want you to know that you are my hero."

                                          With that she turned and left and I never saw her again. I will never forget that.
                                          Aww, Suzie, you and Pepper and that little old lady made me cry! (In a good way.)
                                          "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." -- George Bernard Shaw

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