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  • That was.... odd..

    I get a phone call from this guy that's looking for lessons for his daughter. A friend of hers rides with me already so they wanted to do lessons with me too.

    Here's the catch though. He REALLY wanted me to come to their place to do some lessons with his daughter. I politely explained to him that I just don't have time to go to everyone's places to do private lessons as I work full time & teach at two barns already and try to schedule some life in there somewhere. He got downright pushy with me and just couldn't understand why I couldn't come to their place if I was going out to the barn anyways.

    So I changed my tactic. I said "I know of someone else that might be able to come to your place and do some private lessons with your daughter, here's her number". He said he would contact her and if she couldn't do it then he'd just bring her to our barn for lessons. Made it sound like SUCH an inconvenience.

    It was just odd though. Sorry you're having trouble finding an instructor to come to your place but I need to have a life here too!
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    I would've just hung up on him when he got pushy.
    Tell a Gelding. Ask a Stallion. Discuss it with a Mare... Pray if it's a Pony!

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      #3
      I almost told him to just find someone else and would have had he continued to insist that I come to his barn.
      Sorry guy I've got other horses to ride & stuff to do at the barn, one stop shopping is how I manage to get it all done and not end up absolutely exhausted.
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      • #4
        OP: You're more kind than I.

        "Look. Maybe you didn't hear me about lessons on your farm. The answer is NO".

        Honestly? This 'odd' person sounds like someone who's looking for a lot more than they're saying outright.. whether it's free childcare, or having you catch-ride a wild one.. or do a free evaluation of another. You give a mouse a cookie, he's gonna want some milk.

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          #5
          haha I was almost getting to that point. I don't need people that are hard to deal with.
          I don't think that he realizes that a 1/2 hour private lesson usually ends up taking up 1.5 hours of my time. By the time I get there, we do grooming & tackup if it's not already done, lesson, untacking & grooming & drive home. It's just not worth it for one person.

          He was telling me how they had another instructor lined up to come out on the weekend and the instructor ended up cancelling the morning of the lesson as something had come up. He was telling me how DEVASTATED his daughter was and how you don't just do that to kids, so he graciously went out and saddled the horse and led her around for awhile. Made it sound like a huge deal to go out and do that. Oy vey..
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          • #6
            Probably better to know what he is really like before getting into business with a man like that ~ in other words aren't you glad you said "NO" ?
            Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "

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              YUP! LoL
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              • #8
                You don't owe this guy an explanation that you need a life!

                You just say "No, sorry, my business obligations don't permit me to provide private lessons at any additional facilities. I'd be happy to teach your child at facility XYZ. Otherwise, let me give you some numbers of trainers who might be able to accommodate you."

                It's professional. But it's NO. You don't need to have a long conversation about it. The longer you talk to people like this, the more they think you'll finally just give in . . . IMHO

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                  #9
                  You are very right, the more I talked to him the more I had to resist the urge to just say "Ok fine!" just to get him to stop. LOL
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                  • #10
                    Why don't you simply give him an outrageous price for you to go to his place? Are you not willing to go to his place for $200/lesson, $300/lesson? I know plenty of people who hold some high power job who simply don't have time to drop their kids off to take a lesson. They often ask instructors to come to their place instead. And they expect to pay a premium for that little bit of service. Give him a price where you will be willing to go and if he is willing to pay, well, take it. Or give him a price where you know he will refuse. If he refuse, well, it's his choice.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Gloria View Post
                      Why don't you simply give him an outrageous price for you to go to his place? Are you not willing to go to his place for $200/lesson, $300/lesson? I know plenty of people who hold some high power job who simply don't have time to drop their kids off to take a lesson. They often ask instructors to come to their place instead. And they expect to pay a premium for that little bit of service. Give him a price where you will be willing to go and if he is willing to pay, well, take it. Or give him a price where you know he will refuse. If he refuse, well, it's his choice.
                      This, plus it's always good to be polite (but firm) even if a client is being rude. My business strategy is to never burn any bridges. You never know who might refer business, even someone who you weren't able to work with. I've had people that I had to bite my tongue when dealing with and who later ended up spending more money with me later.

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                        True enough, that might have been a really good way to go too! I thought about it but couldn't think of a price as we were talking. I referred him to another person that I thought would have time to do it and she's going to call him tonight. Definitely a good idea to keep the bridges unburnt! lol
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                        • #13
                          I hear you and I'm glad you got rid of him.

                          Now if he DOES show up, you have fair warning he's speshul and expects to be treated thusly. Oh, I'll treat ya speshul, little one. Real Speshul. You will know it's coming and can plan accordingly. Even if the plan is mostly mental-dental-duct-tape

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                            Originally posted by Brigit View Post
                            He was telling me how they had another instructor lined up to come out on the weekend and the instructor ended up cancelling the morning of the lesson as something had come up. He was telling me how DEVASTATED his daughter was and how you don't just do that to kids, so he graciously went out and saddled the horse and led her around for awhile. Made it sound like a huge deal to go out and do that. Oy vey..
                            ... which hints that he's the type of parent that any error, unplanned event, scheduling blip, natural disaster, act of God, etc., will be taken personally as something done unfairly to the child. Not a desirable client. High maintenance. If he calls back, run; don't walk.
                            "I did know once, only I've sort of forgotten." - Winnie the Pooh

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by katarine View Post
                              I hear you and I'm glad you got rid of him.

                              Now if he DOES show up, you have fair warning he's speshul and expects to be treated thusly. Oh, I'll treat ya speshul, little one. Real Speshul. You will know it's coming and can plan accordingly. Even if the plan is mostly mental-dental-duct-tape

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