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If it weren't for him............a love letter to my dad. (yes, HR)

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  • If it weren't for him............a love letter to my dad. (yes, HR)

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have ever had riding lessons.

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have had the courage to take my first job in the horse business, by moving to Texas to follow my dream.

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have had the money to buy my first horse.

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have recognized a good man when he finally came into my life, and married him.

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have gotten the financial advice (and occasional assistance) to start and maintain my own business.

    If it weren't for my dad, I wouldn't have had a shoulder to cry on when that business went south.

    If it weren't for my dad, I would never have known what a good marriage was, and how a beloved wife should be treated.

    My dad died last Wednesday of a massive stroke. He went, as he lived, peacefully and quietly, without troubling anyone. He is mourned by all who knew him. But he is especially mourned by me as my business advisor, my confidante (when we didn't want to worry Mom), and my friend.

    Please pray for me and my family.
    In loving memory of Laura Jahnke.
    A life lived by example, done too soon.
    www.caringbridge.org/page/laurajahnke/

  • #2
    My condolences.

    Some people are just very good.
    Not because they are family or friends only, but because they are such good people.
    Your father sounds like one of those.

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    • #3
      Sending major hugs your way ESG. I am sooo sorry for your loss.
      I lost my Dad suddenly a year and a half ago and it still feels like yesterday. Believe me when I say the pain never goes away, it just becomes a dull ache. It sounds like my Dad was much like yours...mine was quiet most of the time, but always there when I most needed him...always encouraged and never complained about my horse involvement..would cook breakfast at horse shows..and was always the quiet but strong advisor when I needed him.
      If you ever need to talk to someone who understands, pm me, as I have recently been where you are today and know what it's like to try to get through it.
      (((((((hugs))))))))

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      • #4
        So sorry to hear that. Beautiful tribute to him. Massive hugs and jingles to you and yours.

        P.
        A Wandering Albertan - NEW Africa travel blog!

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        • #5
          You had a good father, ESG. So did I.

          It's awful when you first lose them, but then you realize that you never really did.

          I think a good mom gives you her kindness and a good dad gives you his strength. That strength will get you through the hurt.

          My most sincere condolences.

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          • #6
            (((((((HHHUUUGGGSSS)))))))
            HAS provides hospital care to 340,000 people in Haiti's Artibonite Valley 24/7/365/earthquake/cholera/whatever.
            www.hashaiti.org blog:http://hashaiti.org/blog

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            • #7
              Sincere condolences. I still miss my Dad after 12 plus years of his absence. My entire family misses him so much. So sad for you, but what a blessing that you had a good one! Hugs to you.

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              • #8
                most sincere sympathies......
                i read this a long time ago, don't recall where.....but it has stuck with me,and for me, provides a bit of solace, and food for thought..

                our loved ones remain..invisible, as music..

                but positive, as sound.......

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                • #9
                  My sympathies. It sounds like he was well loved, and loved well.

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                  • #10
                    I am sorry for the unexpected loss of your father. Much of what you wrote described my own Father who passed away in January '09 when he walked away from his home and died in a marsh, he had dementia.

                    Those honest, authentic husbands and daddy's work miracles in the lives of the women whom they know.

                    ((hugs))

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                    • #11
                      {{Hugs}} to you...I lost my dad 3 years ago to a series of small strokes. It was the hardest thing, watching a talented pilot, artist & banjo maker. Those of us who were fortunate enough to have wonderful, loving dads like yours know what a difficult time it is for you. My deepest sympathies for your loss...
                      Crayola posse~ orange yellow, official pilot
                      Proud owner of "High Flight" & "Shorty"

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                      • #12
                        I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It made me cry to see what you wrote about him. I bet he was blessed to have you as his daughter. My condolences to you and your family! God Bless, I am praying for you.

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                        • #13
                          So, so sorry.
                          www.specialhorses.org
                          a 501(c)3 organization helping 501(c)3 equine rescues

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                          • #14
                            ESG - I'm so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to such a great role model. Although he is gone, he will never really die as he lives on in the hearts and minds of all of you that loved him. As you pass on your help and advice to those who need it, as he did for you, so his legacy will live.

                            (((hugs)))

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                            • #15
                              I am so very sorry.

                              I feel as if I know your Dad, because you closely described mine, and I get terrified when I think about his age and fragility.

                              Thoughts and many, many prayers.

                              InnisFailte Pinto Sporthorses & Coloured Cobs
                              ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

                              Bits are like cats, what's one more? (Petstorejunkie)

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                              • #16
                                Sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. This is very timely for me as my dad was diagnosed with canter early this year and begins rad and chemo next week. I want to tell him those things while he is still here.
                                Karma and Drifter girl
                                http://www.horsescanhelp.com
                                http://www.mydriftersjourney.blogspot.com

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                                • #17
                                  So sorry to hear of your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. Strokes claim way to many wonderful lives.
                                  A proud friend of bar.ka.

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                                  • #18
                                    I can only echo what everyone else said. As another Daddy's girl, I can tell you that you will always miss him, but his memory and love will be with you the rest of your life.

                                    Sorry for your loss.

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                                    • #19
                                      I'm sorry for your loss. There's probably nothing I can say to make your pain any less, but I am going to call my dad now. Thanks for the reminder to appreciate him while I have him.

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                                      • #20
                                        Sincere condolences - my Dad died August 3, 2003 and I still miss him.

                                        What helps is he was in our lives and we remember him in our hearts and minds. He continues to teach my siblings and I as we remember the way he lived his life and what he said to us. Sounds like your father left you with great traditions, knowledge, strength and love!
                                        "Never do anything that you have to explain twice to the paramedics."
                                        Courtesy my cousin Tim

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