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  • Help deciding if I should get a second horse ...

    So I'm not quite sure if I should get another horse or not and I'd love to have some input! My husband is all for it (like, saying, so when are we going to get her?). We've already seen this horse and were debating on buying her but we didn't get her at the time since she was only 2 and not started and now she is 3 and has much more work into her (and is a lot cheaper!).

    We are bringing our current mare home in a couple of days and have plenty of pasture for a second horse. My dilemma is that I'm in vet school and although I will have plenty of time this summer to work with two horses, I will be going into clinics in a year and will be super busy. However, the horse is only 3 so she'd be perfectly fine sitting during the winters and would be coming 5 when I graduated. I'm hemming and hawing about having two horses for the attachment factor, too. My current mare is brave and we love her to pieces (she's my forever horse) and hasn't really gotten attached to anybody she's been pastured with, even if it's just her and another horse in the pasture. However, I despise dealing with the attachment factor and really don't want to get a 3rd horse to solve the problem. But - our neighbors have 4 horses and depending on the pasture that they put them in, they are literally like 4 feet away. So theoretically one would be fine in our pasture alone since she can see plenty of other "buddies" in a nearby pasture.

    The positives - my mare would have a buddy, my husband could ride with me (he could ride our current mare and I could ride the new one), and I LOVE training the babies. Plus she's related to our current mare and is a very fancy horse for a great price.

    What to do?!

  • #2
    You are asking a bunch of horse pepole whether you should get a nice mare?
    DH says yes?
    Didja think we would tell ya no?
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Merle View Post
      we didn't get her at the time since she was only 2 and not started and now she is 3 and has much more work into her (and is a lot cheaper!).
      I'd get the horse based on this info alone. As long as you're financially capable of handling 2 horses. I think the age of the horse syncs very well with vet school. And if your husband is that excited, it sounds like he can probably help with them if you're super busy with school.

      Sounds like a great deal. Keep us posted and give us photos if you get her!

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      • #4
        This you ask on COTH?

        Go get the horse. You'll have a graduation present ready and waiting.
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        • #5
          Only one more? PHHHSSSTT, talk to me when you are up to three.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by JohnDeere View Post
            You are asking a bunch of horse pepole whether you should get a nice mare?
            DH says yes?
            Didja think we would tell ya no?




            This!

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            • #7
              Originally posted by dalpal View Post
              Only one more? PHHHSSSTT, talk to me when you are up to three.
              Imagine having four!!! I don't even remember what two is like..

              I vote for the OP getting her
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                #8
                You guys are a hoot! What about them getting attached? I really really hate dealing with that.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Merle View Post
                  You guys are a hoot! What about them getting attached? I really really hate dealing with that.
                  Well, everyone is happier if they have a friend.

                  But, I think the horses in the next pasture should help keep the horses from not being able to cope without one another. Do you have stalls or another turnout where you can put one sometimes to keep them from being together 24/7? If they get used to having one pulled out of the pasture regularly it should help with separation anxiety.

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                  • #10
                    I am not even going to read your post. Yes, get a second horse. Except two is a bad number because one is left alone when you ride. So actually my answer is to get two more horses. Do we get to help pick them out?
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                    • #11
                      I've got seven. Only three are ridable. I just kept getting another one when I retired them. I have one 36 year old gelding that I have owned for 18 years. I have three horses over 20. I've owned the ones I have for a total of 70 years. I keep telling my husband that they can't all last forever but apparently I'm wrong. I love every one of them.

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                      • #12
                        I had two horses. Then, a little over a year ago, I went to a conference. DH stayed at home.
                        I returned. He said "I bought two horses over the internet".

                        Now we have 4 horses. You need at least two more. Why even ask?

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                        • #13
                          I'm with John Deere and everyone else that yes. She sounds like a great addition to your family.

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                          • #14
                            ha ha, you ask that question to a bunch of enablers?? :lolYes, especially if DH is all for it!! Must post pics when you pick her up.

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                            • #15
                              Really you know what we are going to say, buy her!
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                              • #16
                                I think it would be wrong of you not to, just wrong. Your current mare isn't a super-bondy kind of horse right now, but you never know what will happen when you change locales and bring her home. The smart thing to do is to get her this new mare. I can't believe you would even question this. ;-)

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                                • #17
                                  Yeah, you're going to need 3 at home. 2 riding horses and one older that needs a nice retirement home and doesn't mind being alone once in a while. That way you can take one out to ride, or you and another can take the two riding horses out if you luck out and find a third that's cool being alone.
                                  And work often separating them...they can get herd bound quick.
                                  Oh, and then you'll be thinking the old one is lonely so you'll probably look into a mini horse or mini donk. They're so cute, take up little room and can be found at auctions for next to nothing.
                                  Well hell, since they're so cheap and you'll feel bad about leaving another one at the auction, might as well get two of those.
                                  And a goat. Or three.
                                  You'll need new fencing...minis wriggle under things. And goats get oout of anything short of Fort Knox security.
                                  Fresh eggs would be nice...maybe some chickens? When they're little peeps they're pretty hard to resist.
                                  And since you will hear from a friend of a friend that someone's giving a nice horse away for free...or you saw that sad skinny one for $50 on Craig;s list...might as well have hubby start building extra stalls now. Ya know, since he'll be out there building a coop for the chickens and tying cement blocks to the goats in hopes of keeping them in one place for more than 5 minutes.
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                                  Hold onto the bridle!
                                  Jump in the line!
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                                  • #18
                                    I can't think of any objections, and I tried to think of some for you. Go get her. Also, if you find that they do get a bit attached, foster a rescue horse that can't be ridden as your third horse to always be in the pasture. You can do it since you're not boarding and being a vet student you can probably cover all of their care barring any unforseen events. Not only would you get your new prospect, keep your current horse happy but you'd also be doing a good act for horses in general by fostering one and opening up a spot in a rescue!

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                                    • #19
                                      Oh, heck yes, go for it. The one left at home will be fine. They are like toddlers, fuss when you are in earshot and then save their energy for when you are back in earshot. With neighbor horses, might not even have much fussing.

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                                      • #20
                                        I disagree - she's still young and green, and if you can only really work with her consistently for a couple of months out of the year regularly, it's going to be difficult to get her going, I think. If you wanted to get an older BTDT horse or foster a retiree, that would probably work better for your schedule for the next couple of years. When you do have time available during the school year, you'll have to keep deciding between training her, or enjoying your current mare.
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