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Do people assume "abuse" too often?

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  • #21
    Originally posted by katarine View Post
    Sure it is. The new mare at my house is ear shy. Ample plenty folks would say she'd been eared down. Me, I say on observing her a few days see that the gnats drive her insane, and her ears are full of bloody scabby owies. Some horses get itchy, she's gotten owie. Her ears hurt her. I managed to get some Swat in them, we're sweeping over and past her ears while she eats with a flat palm and a nice smooth motion...and it's going away.

    But yes, plenty of folks would tsk tsk she was abused.
    My 7 yo has aural plaques as the result of gnat irritation. Pretty minor and I keep 'em under control with an antibiotic/fly ointment. I know he needs a hit of ointment when he starts getting a little touchy about putting the bridle on. Simple. And yet I'm sure if someone walked into the barn they'd say 'abuse, must unbuckle bridle and put over head, yada, yada...' Naw.

    In the same vein- from time to time I hear people talk of 'donating a horse to a rescue shelter.' Umm, no. 'Rescue shelters' are not looking for donated horses!

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    • #22
      Agree!

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      • #23
        I have filly and colt that are full siblings.

        I have had them at my house since each of them was weaned.

        They have never been handled roughly or mistreated in any way. The only real problem they have is that they have not been handled as consistently as they should have been for the past year due to injuries and work (me).

        They are 100% polar opposites in personality.

        I am in the process of starting both of them at the moment. Next month the filly will be four and the colt will be three.

        The filly is shy and suspicious of everything. Spooks and runs off at the sign of anyone she doesn't know. She is very difficult to work with and is prone to panicing over things she accepted without an issue the day before. Is terrified of the farrier (even though she has been trimmed regularly all her life and I have been there for almost all the trims)

        The colt is bold and friendly. Always wants to go investigate things and loves new people. Easy to work with and learns quickly. He's still a colt but he is really a very good boy (He gets gelded next week regardless).

        Sometime it is really hard to tell what a horse's background is.

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        • #24
          Absolutely. I think it goes hand in hand with the Black Stallion Syndrome.

          Everyone wants to feel like they are special, like they are saviors of the world. This can often be achieved by either claiming they have a horse whose 'speshul' needs can only be met/understood/regulated/solved by the oh-so-special owner, or said oh-so-special owner has 'rescued' an 'abused' horse. Makes that halo on their head shine a little bit brighter.

          Halo polishers, for the most part.
          Lucy (Precious Star) - 1994 TB mare; happily reunited with her colt Touch the Stars

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          • #25
            I agree that abuse is assumed a little too casually.

            I had heard third hand that my mare was abused in her past. When I got her, she would stand in the back of her stall and shake if you paid any attention to her, or if you tacked her up. She would come after you to bite, then fly back across the stall in expectation of punishment. She would come completely unglued if you came into her stall w/a pitchfork or bag of shavings

            I eventually contacted the person who witnessed her being beaten prior to an auction and purchased her, so I'm pretty confident that this event actually happened.

            On the other hand, as I have gotten to know her, I have realized that a lot of her behavior is just her basic personality, and could have been created without any abusive treatment at all - she is just sensitive and reactive that way. There is no proof that the witnessed incident was any more than a one time cruel act by an auction employee. She lived in a perfectly nice home for 2 years before I got her - they didn't go out of their way to get her over her fears, but they certainly didn't perpetuate them, and she still came to me like that. Quite frankly, she is a bit of a drama queen. There are times of real fear, but there are also times where she has learned (been trained) that fearful behavior serves her well - she gets coddled and cooed over, and not made to do what she doesn't want to do. She is plenty smart enough to have picked up on that!

            We eventually landed with a trainer who taught me the most important thing in dealing with her. Treat her like a horse. Treat her like a horse that has been asked to do something and is expected to do it. Expect her to do it, don't just ask her, hope she feels ok about it, and throw up your hands and say "she was abused" and give up. An unfortunate past situation doesn't need to define her future behavior.

            Honestly, I had to learn to ignore the dramatics and not get sucked into them. The more I expect her to be a real, functional horse, the more she acts like one. These days, she has almost no remnants of that past behavior. (She has even fewer remnants when handled by people who don't know she ever acted like that ) Although she would still like me to believe that at some point, someone cruelly attempted to kill her with a bath

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            • #26
              Originally posted by cowgirljenn View Post
              This one drives me insane. Even the horses who I believe may have been abused don't get a free pass on bad behavior because I believe they were abused. They're not being abused now, and they've got to learn to be good equine citizens and get along with humans.
              This.

              My personal horse was abused undersaddle before I bought him, the people did not mean to do so, but when you spit open the sides of a horses mouth because he is a big mover and you cannot hang w/it and want him to slow down so you put a wire in his mouth and cut it? Yes, that is abuse.

              However.. he is now a dressage horse and that means that he needs to not only seek the bit but love the bit and take the bit out on contact as if it were his best friend. So in spite of his past he had to learn to do this. And he did. If I had played the abuse card throughout his life, he would probably be mostly useless, because no one wants a horse that moves like this unless you do dressage.
              "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
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