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What did I do wrong? *HAPPY UPDATE! #44*

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  • #41
    Wow! Good for you for sticking it out. I'd say you won today's round.

    I suppose I'd give it a few more rides. I bet he's just buddy sour and he'll come around and be a nice horse.

    But if not? Well, that's the beauty of leasing, idnit?
    I'm not ignoring the rules. I'm interpreting the rules. Tamal, The Great British Baking Show

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      #42
      I'm so glad I found this forum - so many helpful, experienced people to lend advice and encouragement, what more could I ask for!?

      I think the next time I go out I will just lunge him straight away, then groom, tack up, and hand-walk the trail (it's really mainly a network of gravel roads). He was pretty disrespectful to my space on the ground when I was trying to mount, and he needs to learn that I won't tolerate it. I think I nice little bonding walk for us could be good.

      Oh, and I always ALWAYS wear a helmet! I have two little ones depending on my brain to be intact, and I intend to keep in that way. As a young horse-crazy gal, I used to not bat an eye at doing battle with horses while mounted, but there's a lot more at stake now. That, and I feel the soreness a heckuva lot longer than I used to!

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      • #43
        You did good. That food in the stall thing cracked me up - BTDT. He sounds exactly like a horse that's had a couple of months off and is trying you out - a couple more rides and you two might have a decent working relationship - but please, make sure someone is around. The dancing around on the road - if there is car traffic you could get hurt - hand walking at least on the road is a great idea.

        Take a nice hot bath and some Aleve, and have a great time the next time you go out!
        Last edited by ReSomething; Apr. 4, 2010, 10:58 PM. Reason: add a little. and I can't spell.
        Courageous Weenie Eventer Wannabe
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          #44
          A happy update!

          I've been communicating with the horse's owner, and she's been just great. She had her boyfriend take S out alone to see if he would try his tricks, and he did, and he straightened him out! He was able to get him to knock off the antics with just a bit more aggressive approach, and was able to give me some great tips about S's quirks and what works for him. It's so different for every horse!

          I went out this afternoon while the owner and her boyfriend were there and we talked for a bit about what works and what doesn't, and they gave me instruction on how I should respond to him. I got him groomed and tacked up without incident, rode out alone and got just the smallest offer of a refusal when we came to the road. I got after him and he didn't give me a single bit of grief for the rest of the ride!

          We walked along the road, did a bit of trotting, and I even had moments where I could feel my "seat" returning, so that was a real boost for me! And get this: A FIRE ENGINE sped by us, lights and sirens, and S didn't even look at it! I heard it approaching us from the rear on the gravel road, so I put S in the shallow ditch to the side of the road and had him stop, figuring that if he got antsy as it got closer, I would just hop off and hang onto him. Nope, he was far too busy looking at the horses across the fence, and didn't care in the least! He's a GOOD BOY!

          Thank you all again for your wise words and encouragement! I am really, really looking forward to the months of riding ahead of me!

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          • #45
            Good update. Glad to hear you are working things out, and I hope you have a lovely long time of riding ahead.
            There are friends and faces that may be forgotten, but there are horses that never will be. - Andy Adams

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            • #46
              "What did I do wrong?"

              I'm glad you've worked with his owners and called his bluff. He thought he was going to be a big scary horse and get off working but you turned the tables on him and found out how to tell him you're the boss. I'm SO happy for you. Please keep posting your adventures with him. Good job.

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              • #47
                Awesome news!

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                • #48
                  That's awesome! I'm very proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself.

                  I think many (all?) of us have had similar experiences/obstacles, and it is very uplifting to hear about getting over, through, around and PAST them!
                  Shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you? You are at your very best when things are worst.
                  Starman

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                  • #49
                    Originally posted by Kitters View Post
                    I'm still a bit frustrated because in leasing a horse, I really want to just have a pleasant ride and enjoy the company of horses again, but I'm going to talk to his owner ASAP to let her know how he is behaving for me and ask her if she has suggestions. We're doing the lease month-to-month, so terminating at the end of this month would be no problem if we can't work out these issues. I really enjoy him when he's doing what I ask!

                    I see from your later posts that you have made good progress and have the owner's help, so that it great! I just wanted to mention that you shouldn't get too frustrated yet, as long as his evasions are within your skill level. You are just going through his little trial period! He just wants to find out where all those lines are drawn, and what his new rules are, so he may be just trying everything out. He just needs you to tell him. If he's as good a boy as you say, once he knows where the line is, he may never bother trying to cross it again. A self respecting horse has got to at least try it once, though! It sounds like a great situation, where the owner doesn't want him taking the opportunity to walk all over anyone and is willing to check out the issue and help.

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