A Thread About Wonderful Partners and Great Relationships (Human that is)

[Pixie Dust]

Sandi ... why on earth are you interested in reading or posting on this thread. The subject matter has absolutely nothing to do with you.

[Equit8tor]

Where do I start?...
My husband and I have been married for 28 years. He is not a horsey person. My engagement gift was a gorgeous 2 year old stallion. (we lost him to leukemia 2 years later). He has given me 4 beautiful daughters (3 of whom are triplets!) and ALL of us shared the passion for/ obsession with horses. He has suppported all of us through everything dealing with these wonderful animals. Given up on his own desires to accommodate ours (including selling his precious Corvette to buy a truck to haul our beasts to shows). He has bought the horses, worked extremely hard to support our passion, and never griped at having to get up at unGodly hours to take us to where we wanted to be. (Our swimming pool was used by neighbours for years- we were never home on weekends!).
Two of our mares have just retired (one prematuely due to rampant arthritis in her knees) and have been bred. His support is still unwavering. We have also just (within the last year) rescued 2 pugs. What more can I say? (And I'm sure I've missed out on tons of accolades that should be going his way).
Have I ever flown on a private jet- NO. But did I get the BEST 50th birthday gift (a month in Tuscany)- YES. Do I attend black tie affairs in Palm Beach- NO. Do I have the best man in the world who truly loves me- YES. What am I missing _ NOTHING!
Bea- a wonderful thread. Thanks for asking.

[Midge]

Janet, I waited until 40 as well. I let someone else train him! I got a 'made packer' after someone else thoght he wasn't good enough.

Fair, the best thing about Dan is when I am headed out the door to a horse show, he has checked over the truck and trailer, tells me to drive carefully, call when I get there and call and tell him how we did.

Much to my shame, he has gone farther for me than I would have for him. When he offered to buy Rudy, I told him, "I just want you to know that if you had wanted to spend this amount of money on your hobby, I would have hit the ceiling.'

Sadly, I can't share a picture of him because I have none scanned. I am scum because I could show you about ten of Rudy. <sigh>

[Karosel]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Pixie Dust:
_Sandi_ ... why on earth are you interested in reading or posting on this thread. The subject matter has absolutely nothing to do with you. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I asked this question a few pages back. She didnt reply to it.

[Bopper]

My hubby is very suportive of the horse thing. He is not very horsey but he has his own horse, he only rides about twice a year, but I really enjoy his horse for trail riding! I made it clear from the beginning that horses are a big part of my life and always will be. He accepted that and now they are part of his life too. He does not have the same love of riding I do but he enjoys being able to share in something I love so much.

As for the other not so on topic posts, I work with a lot of men and yes I have been asked out but only very rarely because I make it clear that I want to be treated professionally and with respect. Treating a women the way Sandi described is VERY DISRESPECTFUL and most of my co-workers (99%) know I would not tolerate that.

[Ridgetop Ghost]

Karosel and Pixie Dust--you're absolutely right, this post has nothing to do with me, the kind of person I am or anything I'm interested in.

Most of you women couldn't do my job for 5 minutes, so snicker all you want if that's how you deal with your insecurity (for one thing, in my job, you can't be scared of the freakin phone). I make more money than most of you-- Hell I probably make more money than you and your husband combined. I have an EXCELLENT job, which is why I don't have to slave away over the household appliances just to keep a man's hairy butt around.

I couldn't imagine waking up each morning next to your husbands--I wouldn't even give guys like that my phone number. No offense, they're just not "my type". I'm not their type either--we would probably come to blows on the first date. That's fine with me--I'll find what I'm looking for some day, and if I don't, it doesn't really matter.

As far as Moesha is concerned, think "he's" great all you want, but I know ghetto trash when I hear it--seems to be played on the radio a lot these days. And "he" started with the name calling by saying I was white trash, in case you can't read.

Make fun of the fancy dinners and private jets all you want--that's what I happen to like in life, whether you agree with it or not. And, for whatever idiot brought it up, Paris Hilton isn't the only rich person in town. I have many friends who are extremely wealthy, I've dated men who were extremely wealthy--I'd be married to one now if I was willing to give up my freedom, which I'm not. Maybe you think I'm awful, but the only reason I can see having a man around is if he's very wealthy--I'm sure I'll marry a rich man someday, but right now I'm not ready to settle down with a pocket full of credit cards. I like working on my career, I enjoy owning my own home and horses, I like my personal time, and, above all else, I like coming and going and doing as I please.

Bottom line is you couldn't do my job if your life depended on it, you couldn't hang with my group of friends, you couldn't date the men I've dated, and you couldn't live my life, period. Hell, you couldn't even ride my horse! Sheesh!

I'm tired of defending myself to you guys, so PLEASE go back to you fantasy world about your terrific hubbies--it's too boring for me to begin to comprehend. I won't bug you on this thread or any other, I promise.

[Fessy's Mom]

Sandi in FLA wrote:

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
I won't bug you on this thread or any other, I promise. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Really?

[kb]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by sandi in florida:

I won't bug you on this thread or any other, I promise. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

She says that like we should be upset.....

[MissDomi]

sandi in florida wrote:

"I won't bug you on this thread or any other, I promise."

Gee...I think that is the best thing that I have read all day.

Actually, that is the best thing that I have read in quite some time on this board!

I feel that a happy dance is in order! Where is the emotion for that?

[RAyers]

That's it, I am sick of reading sandi's demeaning posts about other people's significant others. I know I can just turn my back but I have never seen a person SO bitter before and it's like watching a dissection in my lab. I can't turn away. If my rant gets me banned, then so be it. It will be worth it, Erin.

She is like a really bad boomerang. You try to chuck the piece of crap in the woods and it just keeps coming back! She is just a bitter, lonely, small person that is full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

Based on her previous posts of course we couldn't ride her horse, by her own admission he is a trail broke saddlebred! Of course she rides him barebacked most of the time and says that has given her very strong leg muscles. I suspect that those legs are strong because she has some battery operated device installed on the poor boy's withers.

Reed

[jilltx]

Sandi in FL wrote:<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> Bottom line is you couldn't do my job if your life depended on it, you couldn't hang with my group of friends, you couldn't date the men I've dated, and you couldn't live my life, period. Hell, you couldn't even ride my horse! Sheesh!
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I know this will probably be lost on you, but did you ever stop to think that we feel this way about you? Different strokes for different folks my friend. GO. Live your life. Please.

[xegeba]

Sandi... I just do not see how being a drug rep can be that taxing and difficult. Now... an exotic dancer on the other hand... which could explain why Sandi has little or no respect for "relationships". And she's right... she probably pulls in at least 100,000.00 a year if she is as cute as she says she is. Sandy, you keep slidin down the poll(pole), your prince will walk through the doors one of these days!

[RAyers' SO]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by RAyers:
That's it, I am sick of reading sandi's demeaning posts about other people's significant others. I know I can just turn my back but I have never seen a person SO bitter before and it's like watching a dissection in my lab. I can't turn away. If my rant gets me banned, then so be it. It will be worth it, Erin.

She is like a really bad boomerang. You try to chuck the piece of crap in the woods and it just keeps coming back! She is just a bitter, lonely, small person that is full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

Based on her previous posts of course we couldn't ride her horse, by her own admission he is a trail broke saddlebred! Of course she rides him barebacked most of the time and says that has given her very strong leg muscles. I suspect that those legs are strong because she has some battery operated device installed on the poor boy's withers.

Reed <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Yea Reed, you tell her because I am tired of her degrading my SO.

[Erin]

sandi, for cripes' sake, CAN YOU NOT TAKE A FREAKIN' HINT?!

What, do you think my requests to keep posts on this thread to the topic at hand were just meant for the OTHER people? Surely they couldn't have been meant for you.

Disruptive behavior is cause for having your posting privileges removed. And yes, THIS MEANS YOU. You can't just bully your way onto any thread you like and insult people. (And I'm not even going to touch the rampant hypocrisy in your last post, where you fault others here for making choices you wouldn't personally make, but yet whine about others "making fun" of your choices.)

The topic of this thread is quite clearly stated in the title. When it has wandered off track, I've posted and asked that it go back to the subject at hand, and everyone (even "trailer trash" Moesha) obliged... everyone but you, that is.

If you can't play well with others, you can't play here. Get that through your thick head.

And if you post on this thread again, I'll delete it and ban you.

As for the rest of you... drop it, and get back to the subject at hand. This is a very nice thread, if you can read in between the sniping, and it'd be a shame to close it.

Thank you.

[NRB]

Sappy Stories continued.......I met my SO when we were both at grad school. I was an anti-grad student (non-degree seeking) in the same class as his mother when he was in a differnt grad program. My So and I kept running into each other at the gym, the pool, the library or the video store. Seems we had the same interests. His mother was the one to suggest to him that he ask me out (he's 4 yr younger than me). We dated for a year, got engaged, got married 5 yrs ago. Since his mother rode and kept horses he was familuar w/ the critters. On his first trip to meet my parents I put him on my mom's wonderful QH packer and we went off into the hills for a trail ride. We got married and settled down. A year or 2 went by and I decided to get back into horses. The first week I had a horse of my own (I had that wonderful QH packer on loan from my mother) I had a fall that sent me to the ER. I have no memory of the event. He was there by my side the entire time in the ER and after. Took me home and made sure I got my meds on time etc etc. Now he come's to the barn when no one else is around to be my groundsperson when I am jumping. He's impressed w/ my dedication to my horses. He lets me take his car to the barn and leave him stranded when I have hooked up my truck to the trailer the night before so that I can leave early for a show. He's my best friend, my confidant. Our relationship isn't perfect, but it is healthy. We are both on the same level of emotional maturity and talk out any issues that come up. We hash things out together, even the ugly things, then we go on. We have very similuar values and morals. We want the same things in life. He has his own hobbies and pursuits that I support but don't get involved in. And I never really thought that I'd ever get married. I was all about me, doing my own thing on my own time. I dated often but infrequnetly. I didn't need a guy around to make life better for me. I traveled the world wide alone and with groups of friends and family. I've done things and traveled to places most people never get a chance to do, and I've been very fortunate in my life. But nothing beats getting married to a wonderful guy and spending the rest of your life with them. Knowing that when the chips are down they are there to help lift you up.

[Duffy]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Kirsten:
Before this terrific thread derails into a flaming ball of chaos and gets closed (boo!), I'd like to sing my hubby's praises too.

We got married in September, and our gelding loves him to pieces. They hang out like the dudes they are, as my husband is very game to holding onto the horse in between classes at a show. He's managed not to get stepped on, or even slimed... which is a small miracle.

Here is a pic of my very non-bald, non-fat, adorable husband (oh, and me too) from our wedding a few months ago.

http://www.bendingmoment.com/wedding/pics/dock-veil.jpg <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Ok, I have to just say that the two of you are one of THE most gorgeous couples I have ever seen! AND, it sounds like he's a keeper in all other respects. Good going!

[classicsporthorses]

I'll jump in here. I met my husband of 14 years on a blind date. We had 4 dates and he asked me to marry him-he said he knew from the first date, I on the other hand kept blowing him off. We eloped 6 months to the day and then for my family, who still does not know, had a church wedding the following year.

He is a man, approaching age 50, who adores me, and our daughter. Me-a high strung, very dedicated and hard working little spitfire (Irish, Italian and Swiss heritage)who is as strong (physcially and mentally-okay sometimes stubborn) as an ox but rather a peanut in size. I am seven years young that him and sometimes run circles around him as I am always on the go.

Of all of the relationships I have had with men, he is the only one who grounds me and also knows that no one owns me. A caged bird I am not but I always come back home and feel the most safe just with him. I still crawl into his lap often just to snuggle.

He and I have been through a tremendous amount together in 14+ years. I can tell him anything and even though he may not fully understand, he makes great "listening noises", so I can just vent or process things.

He has always done the dishes and the laundry. Since he is now home full time he also does the cooking and grocery shopping and a million other things.

He was not a horseman but always let me indulge. Now with the new farm this man has learned and loved to be with horses. In the less than 6 months on the farm He has been through putting down horses, ill horses, a mare aborting while I was at work (He is on the farm full time), learning how to put up hay, drive a tractor and haying equipment, converting a cow barn into a horse barn, custom building the stalls (we will have 18), feeding, cleaning stalls, handling babies and the list goes on and on.

The most amazing part is that he keeps telling me how in awe he is of me and how I have built our sport horse business. Personally I think it is the other way around and I tell him that. Last year he could barely lead a horse and I had to tell him that when he said "whoa" to a horse it could not have a question mark at the end.

A year ago this was a man who would wear Kacki's and a polo shirt to the barn where we boarded and would hardly get out of the car as he did not want to get his sneakers dirty. Now I am lucky if I can get him out of jeans, a pocket tee-shirt and his baseball cap. He loves this life.

While He does not ride, he wants to learn if his knees hold up and we got him a clydesdale for that purpose-he is a big man. He wants me to also teach him to drive (two of my horses do). He loves the drive the truck and horse trailer (I will begrudgingly drive the truck but not the truck and trailer) and if he could he would give me the moon.

I love this man and I pray that we have so many more years together. On our first date we talked about marriage, in general terms, I recall saying to him "I do not want a marriage like my parent's marriage" which was full of turmoil. I can say proudly that I do not have my parent's marriage and I would lay down my life for this man I love.

[DMK]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Midge:
I _am_ scum because I could show you about ten of Rudy. &lt;sigh&gt; <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Yea, but you made up for it with the "Short History of a Small Place" relationship test!

[Kirsten]

Duffy and Feenikks, thank you for the lovely compliments! I've shown my husband some of the posts from the last couple of pages... "See honey? These girls think you're cute!"

And Duffy, congratulations on your new "water baby" Canter horse!

With so many stories of personal conflict on the BB, it's certainly uplifting to read about people's happiness.

[Tom King]

I've thought about writing on this thread but decided that it would be too long. In short, we've been best friends and together, mostly 24/7 for 28 years. Wouldn't have it any other way. It's not what she does for me or what I do for her but that together we do more than we could possibly do combined separately. We've raised 2 capable, talented children and been influencial in many of other peoples' children. Pam's as good a child and animal mother as there has ever been. We've done all sorts of stuff together from cllimbing mountains to racing sailboats on a professional series. We've been worse than broke and had more than we need and it hasn't been much different. We have enjoyed each others company so much that our life is relatively stress free and as a result think it shows as no one believes that we are our ages. With her at 50, she's still gorgeous to me and I still enjoy watching her walk into a room.