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Welcome my littlest cowboy! Meanwhile, I miss my mare...silly new mommy.

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  • Welcome my littlest cowboy! Meanwhile, I miss my mare...silly new mommy.

    And yes, this is definitely horse-related because GAH I MISS MY MARE! ...even though I am loving my littlest man. I'll get to that in a moment after introducing my little man.

    Please welcome my son Trent William Raymond, born December 13th, 2009 at 8:54pm. My big little man weighed 7lbs 5oz and was 19 3/4" long, and came home with us this past Wednesday. Because of H1N1 concerns, Trent did not meet his big brother Jett (age 3 1/2) until he came home--but he did, and Jett was beside himself.

    A week ago today, I went to labor & delivery for the 4th time with steady contractions. I started them November 30th, but since I was barely 35 weeks, they gave me shots to stop them. Repeat when I went to L&D four days later. Repeat when I went to L&D three days later. Finally, when they took a YOUCH turn, I had reached the magic number of 37 weeks (full term) and they were going to let me go--heck, I was contracting about every 5min and was dilated 4cm--but then they got worried about my son as he had developed an arrhythmia out of nowhere (he'd always been fine!). There was concern labor might be a stress on him ("Or he could be just fine" the OB said--um, is that a gamble we should take??), so all of a sudden I found myself agreeing to a C-section that was an hour away. And, because I have had two back surgeries, I found myself agreeing to general anesthesia (gah) and getting wheeled into an operating room. That whole time was, honestly, terrifying. It was all so sudden, and because they wanted my son to get as little of the medication as possible, they knocked me out at the very last minute. That means I was wide awake for all of the prep...getting my arms tied down, my belly wiped with COLD! iodine, getting shaved, the drape going up (partially covering my face at first)...but, I got a healthy baby boy out of it. Trent's arrhythmia corrected itself after being delivered, something the pediatrician says sometimes happens.

    So I'm home, and being a good girl and following orders to rest. Since I had a C-section, I'm even more limited in what I can do and won't see my mare for at least another week, which is driving me batty. But I feel so horribly neglectful of her. Now, it's silly in the sense that she's in full-care board. She's fed and gets her stall cleaned every day, and is turned out 3x/day. The barn manager, knowing about me being Big Pregnant (and now, having delivered), is also picking her feet for me. So, she's getting basic care, and at nearly 22, it's not like she needs regular schooling or anything. She's got a good head on her, and though her body is getting flabby and flat (I can relate--except for maybe the flat part), I just feel like...well, almost like I don't own her anymore. I miss riding, sure, but also I miss brushing, walking, caring for her...being a horseowner, you know?

    I hope to see her soon. I love, love my boys, but I miss my girl. I think this is something you COTHers would understand better than anyone else. "Um...you just had a baby and you're talking about wanting to be with your HORSE?"

    So...it's one part , one part , one part . But looking at Trent...aw, what else but
    SA Ferrana Moniet 1988-2011
    CP Trilogy 2002-2015
    My bloggity blog: Hobby Horse: Adventures of the Perpetual Newbie
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    And of course, I had to show off a few pictures.

    One of Trent's first pictures--my view from my hospital bed

    Newborn hearing test--he looks like he's rocking out, hee!

    Meeting his over-the-moon-ecstatic big brother Jett
    SA Ferrana Moniet 1988-2011
    CP Trilogy 2002-2015
    My bloggity blog: Hobby Horse: Adventures of the Perpetual Newbie

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    • #3
      What beautiful boys! Congratulations to you and your husband. Jett looks absolutely thrilled (we know that won't last, but hold onto that photo for proof down the road).

      I understand your need to see your horse. I have had multiple surgeries for silly things (back, knee, foot) over the last few years, and each time, I HATE that I can't get out to see my boys. I have two in my backyard, and I hobbled out on crutches--even when I knew I shouldn't.

      Your mare will be just as happy to see you when you get there. I bet she smells you up and down, searching for your baby. Mares are weird that way.
      Proud member of the "Don't rush to kill wildlife" clique!

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      • #4
        Congratulations! What wonderful pictures, especially the third one of the two boys together.
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        • #5
          Congrats!

          The one of the two boys together is adorable!
          Cascadia- OTTB mare. 04/04-05/10
          If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever

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          • #6
            What beautiful boys! That last picture is frameworthy.

            I know you miss your mare. I don't think that there's a COTHer who wouldn't. So, just enjoy your boys, and your rest. And please accept a hearty congratulations from me.
            If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.
            Desmond Tutu

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            • #7
              Congratulations to you Laruffian! You have two adorable boys and will have so much fun with them! And I totally understand the need to spend time with your mare: Even when I vacationed in the Bahamas (the Abacos) I visited the "wild horses" to get my horse fix satisfied. And was so choked up I didn't utter a word the entire time! Geesh.

              Hope you have a speedy and uneventful recovery from the c-section. Enjoy your Christmas cowby!

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              • #8
                It is hard, isn't it? A true horsewoman always feels torn between the two.

                As soon as you can, arrange some time to go see her, even if it's for five minutes. You'll feel so much better.

                Congrats on the new human baby, sounds like things got a little wild there. Good to hear it all ended well!
                "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
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                The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.

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                • #9
                  Your two boys are absolutely beautiful! Congratulations! I love the picture of your older one holding the wee one.

                  I can relate to your feelings, I'm 5 months and my docs are making me be extra careful, so barn time is limited. My almost 23 year old TB is in full board and not really missing me, my husband goes out quite often and horsey likes him better anyway, LOL. But I miss being a horse owner, like you said!

                  Rest up, and take care of yourself. As EqT said, sneak out and give your mare a hug if you can. Horses are good therapy, anyway.

                  Congrats again and enjoy the holidays with your new little addition!
                  We couldn't all be cowboys, so some of us are clowns.

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                  • #10
                    Anything worth saying is worth saying twice... Congratulations!
                    Proud Member: Bull-snap Haters Clique, Michigan Clique, and Appaloosa Clique!

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Lauruffian View Post

                      So...it's one part , one part , one part . But looking at Trent...aw, what else but
                      congrats...

                      when my first child was born (nearly 17yos ago in Jan) I had been home one day after discharge and my sister was there visiting...

                      well,the city was running a tractor outside the window doing something...and while I'm standing there watching,I just start bawling...

                      my sister panics and says "what is wrong??"

                      "BWWWWWWWaAAAAAAAAA.....(shudder,sob,sob,shudd er) I miss my TRA-c-TOR"

                      she looked at me like I was the biggest green turnip in the world : and put me back in bed...
                      Production Acres,Pro A Welsh Cobs
                      I am one of the last 210,000 remaining full time farmers in America.We feed the others.

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                      • #12
                        What a precious small man! Both of them! And that first pic is amazing..he's looking right at you saying, "there's my mama"...sigh.....

                        Yep, I can relate. I missed my horses, since my hubby took over caring for them in my 2nd trimester. He wouldn't let me near them in case something happened to my 'cargo'...It's been over 4 years now, and I still miss them (I do get the occasional ride in when it's not junky weather, like it is NOW, just not full time riding). My time is not my own right now, but it will be again, and I have an amazing small man to teach me all that I forgot while I wait.

                        Congrats to all the family!
                        "As a rule we disbelieve all the facts and theories for which we have no use."- William James
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                        • #13
                          Awww!! he is BEAUTIFUL! And I Love the pic of meeting Big Bro!!! Congratulations!!

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                          • #14
                            Congrats on the little one! Im sure your mare will be happy to see (and the little one?) when you get out to see her.

                            "BWWWWWWWaAAAAAAAAA.....(shudder,sob,sob,shudd er) I miss my TRA-c-TOR"
                            I had to laugh at that Tamara! I do miss the tractor in australia... maybe not quite that much though! lol

                            P.
                            A Wandering Albertan - NEW Africa travel blog!

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                              FlashGordon, congratulations! And, my equine sympathies. I identify with you so very much! This pregnancy wasn't bad, it was just rough. I have been sick time and again (sinus infection, H1N1--yeah, that was fun, bronchitis, overheating, etc.), and everything I felt in my first pregnancy was significantly worse this second time around. Fatigue, heartburn, heart palpitations, swelling, hemorrhoids ( ), insomnia, pelvic pain...gah. This means I was very rarely at the barn.

                              Whereas with my first, I still managed to get to the barn 3-4 times a week (minimum), this time around I was lucky if it was once a week. I had about a week there at the end (inbetween L&D visits) where I was on bedrest, and then the contractions kicked in and it was all about prepping for baby. Now it's all about recovering from baby. Oh, and an extra joy, my lungs still haven't recovered and my OB wants me to see a respiratory specialist, so who knows what THEY'LL tell me. Still, my mom and sister are coming today--I might get hubby to sneak me over to the barn. I'd feed her yummies and brush her face, then sit down and let him do the rest...but then at least I would have seen her.

                              Tamara, your post cracked me up because it is SO TRUE! I have no tractor to miss, but man I miss being a horsewoman--a hoof-picking, curry-combing, stall-mucking, huntseat-riding, weekend-trail-riding horsewoman. *sniff*

                              Ana met my older boy when he was 2 weeks old. Trent will probably meet her at about the same time. Ana has always been wonderful with my son--we still are very careful, of course, but find he's the one needing more careful attention around her. I trust her more than him when it comes to being safe. Ah, boys.
                              SA Ferrana Moniet 1988-2011
                              CP Trilogy 2002-2015
                              My bloggity blog: Hobby Horse: Adventures of the Perpetual Newbie

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                              • #16
                                Texas sized congrats on your two beautiful boys. Both will be beating off the girls with big sticks when they're of age; especially Jett, with those gorgeous long eyelashes!

                                And C-section babies are always so pretty - guess there's a lot to be said about how stress affects your looks!

                                Merry first Christmas, Trent!
                                In loving memory of Laura Jahnke.
                                A life lived by example, done too soon.
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                                • #17
                                  Originally posted by EqTrainer View Post
                                  It is hard, isn't it? A true horsewoman always feels torn between the two.

                                  As soon as you can, arrange some time to go see her, even if it's for five minutes. You'll feel so much better.
                                  My daughter was 6 days old, we'd only been home from the hospital for two days, I could barely walk up and down steps (C-section) and I said to my husband that morning "you need to take me to see my horse NOW!". So we packed ourselves up and went to the barn to see my horse. I stayed all of 15 minutes before I was exhausted, but we have pics of the baby meeting her "big sister" and I felt SO MUCH BETTER for having gotten out to see her, even though I basically patted her on the nose and gave her treats.

                                  Congrats on your new son!
                                  ~Living the life I imagined~

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                                  • #18
                                    Congratulations! Your boys are adorable - that one of the brothers is priceless! Glad all is well, but it sounds like it was scary indeed.
                                    A proud friend of bar.ka.

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                                    • #19
                                      The pictures are great! There will be tons of time to ride later, enjoy those boys.

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                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by Lauruffian View Post
                                        FlashGordon, congratulations! And, my equine sympathies. I identify with you so very much! This pregnancy wasn't bad, it was just rough. I have been sick time and again (sinus infection, H1N1--yeah, that was fun, bronchitis, overheating, etc.), and everything I felt in my first pregnancy was significantly worse this second time around. Fatigue, heartburn, heart palpitations, swelling, hemorrhoids ( ), insomnia, pelvic pain...gah. This means I was very rarely at the barn.

                                        Whereas with my first, I still managed to get to the barn 3-4 times a week (minimum), this time around I was lucky if it was once a week. I had about a week there at the end (inbetween L&D visits) where I was on bedrest, and then the contractions kicked in and it was all about prepping for baby. Now it's all about recovering from baby. Oh, and an extra joy, my lungs still haven't recovered and my OB wants me to see a respiratory specialist, so who knows what THEY'LL tell me. Still, my mom and sister are coming today--I might get hubby to sneak me over to the barn. I'd feed her yummies and brush her face, then sit down and let him do the rest...but then at least I would have seen her.
                                        Oh dear I know just what you're going through! I'm in the throes of an asthma flare-up and bronchitis, so the cold weather is a huge no-no. The high risk OB told me the asthma was going to be the kicker and I didn't believe him, but gosh was he right! It leaves me feeling exhausted.

                                        It's quite hard, as I've ridden through all sorts of things throughout my life. As a 16 year old I vividly remember convincing an ortho doc not to cast my broken elbow so that I could ride in a big show. And a few years ago I rode through a serious illness despite it being a really poor idea... but honestly it was the only thing that kept me going.

                                        Do take care, especially as your lungs have probably taken a battering above and beyond anything else. But definitely sneak out if you can, even just for a quick snuggle! Will probably make you feel so much better.

                                        Hugs to you and your little ones!!
                                        We couldn't all be cowboys, so some of us are clowns.

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