• Welcome to the Chronicle Forums.
    Please complete your profile. The forums and the rest of www.chronofhorse.com has single sign-in, so your log in information for one will automatically work for the other. Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are the views of the individual and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of The Chronicle of the Horse.

Announcement

Collapse

Forum rules and no-advertising policy

As a participant on this forum, it is your responsibility to know and follow our rules. Please read this message in its entirety.

Board Rules

1. You’re responsible for what you say.
As outlined in Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act, The Chronicle of the Horse and its affiliates, as well Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd., the developers of vBulletin, are not legally responsible for statements made in the forums.

This is a public forum viewed by a wide spectrum of people, so please be mindful of what you say and who might be reading it—details of personal disputes are likely better handled privately. While posters are legally responsible for their statements, the moderators may in their discretion remove or edit posts that violate these rules. Users have the ability to modify or delete their own messages after posting, but administrators generally will not delete posts, threads or accounts upon request.

Outright inflammatory, vulgar, harassing, malicious or otherwise inappropriate statements and criminal charges unsubstantiated by a reputable news source or legal documentation will not be tolerated and will be dealt with at the discretion of the moderators.

2. Conversations in horse-related forums should be horse-related.
The forums are a wonderful source of information and support for members of the horse community. While it’s understandably tempting to share information or search for input on other topics upon which members might have a similar level of knowledge, members must maintain the focus on horses.

3. Keep conversations productive, on topic and civil.
Discussion and disagreement are inevitable and encouraged; personal insults, diatribes and sniping comments are unproductive and unacceptable. Whether a subject is light-hearted or serious, keep posts focused on the current topic and of general interest to other participants of that thread. Utilize the private message feature or personal email where appropriate to address side topics or personal issues not related to the topic at large.

4. No advertising in the discussion forums.
Posts in the discussion forums directly or indirectly advertising horses, jobs, items or services for sale or wanted will be removed at the discretion of the moderators. Use of the private messaging feature or email addresses obtained through users’ profiles for unsolicited advertising is not permitted.

Company representatives may participate in discussions and answer questions about their products or services, or suggest their products on recent threads if they fulfill the criteria of a query. False "testimonials" provided by company affiliates posing as general consumers are not appropriate, and self-promotion of sales, ad campaigns, etc. through the discussion forums is not allowed.

Paid advertising is available on our classifieds site and through the purchase of banner ads. The tightly monitored Giveaways forum permits free listings of genuinely free horses and items available or wanted (on a limited basis). Items offered for trade are not allowed.

Advertising Policy Specifics
When in doubt of whether something you want to post constitutes advertising, please contact a moderator privately in advance for further clarification. Refer to the following points for general guidelines:

Horses – Only general discussion about the buying, leasing, selling and pricing of horses is permitted. If the post contains, or links to, the type of specific information typically found in a sales or wanted ad, and it’s related to a horse for sale, regardless of who’s selling it, it doesn’t belong in the discussion forums.

Stallions – Board members may ask for suggestions on breeding stallion recommendations. Stallion owners may reply to such queries by suggesting their own stallions, only if their horse fits the specific criteria of the original poster. Excessive promotion of a stallion by its owner or related parties is not permitted and will be addressed at the discretion of the moderators.

Services – Members may use the forums to ask for general recommendations of trainers, barns, shippers, farriers, etc., and other members may answer those requests by suggesting themselves or their company, if their services fulfill the specific criteria of the original post. Members may not solicit other members for business if it is not in response to a direct, genuine query.

Products – While members may ask for general opinions and suggestions on equipment, trailers, trucks, etc., they may not list the specific attributes for which they are in the market, as such posts serve as wanted ads.

Event Announcements – Members may post one notification of an upcoming event that may be of interest to fellow members, if the original poster does not benefit financially from the event. Such threads may not be “bumped” excessively. Premium members may post their own notices in the Event Announcements forum.

Charities/Rescues – Announcements for charitable or fundraising events can only be made for 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organizations. Special exceptions may be made, at the moderators’ discretion and direction, for board-related events or fundraising activities in extraordinary circumstances.

Occasional posts regarding horses available for adoption through IRS-registered horse rescue or placement programs are permitted in the appropriate forums, but these threads may be limited at the discretion of the moderators. Individuals may not advertise or make announcements for horses in need of rescue, placement or adoption unless the horse is available through a recognized rescue or placement agency or government-run entity or the thread fits the criteria for and is located in the Giveaways forum.

5. Do not post copyrighted photographs unless you have purchased that photo and have permission to do so.

6. Respect other members.
As members are often passionate about their beliefs and intentions can easily be misinterpreted in this type of environment, try to explore or resolve the inevitable disagreements that arise in the course of threads calmly and rationally.

If you see a post that you feel violates the rules of the board, please click the “alert” button (exclamation point inside of a triangle) in the bottom left corner of the post, which will alert ONLY the moderators to the post in question. They will then take whatever action, or no action, as deemed appropriate for the situation at their discretion. Do not air grievances regarding other posters or the moderators in the discussion forums.

Please be advised that adding another user to your “Ignore” list via your User Control Panel can be a useful tactic, which blocks posts and private messages by members whose commentary you’d rather avoid reading.

7. We have the right to reproduce statements made in the forums.
The Chronicle of the Horse may copy, quote, link to or otherwise reproduce posts, or portions of posts, in print or online for advertising or editorial purposes, if attributed to their original authors, and by posting in this forum, you hereby grant to The Chronicle of the Horse a perpetual, non-exclusive license under copyright and other rights, to do so.

8. We reserve the right to enforce and amend the rules.
The moderators may delete, edit, move or close any post or thread at any time, or refrain from doing any of the foregoing, in their discretion, and may suspend or revoke a user’s membership privileges at any time to maintain adherence to the rules and the general spirit of the forum. These rules may be amended at any time to address the current needs of the board.

Please see our full Terms of Service and Privacy Policy for more information.

Thanks for being a part of the COTH forums!

(Revised 1/26/16)
See more
See less

Vent: Yet another screaming child

Collapse
X
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Vent: Yet another screaming child

    So my horse is at a new barn and we have fabulous trails access, so I've been taking her out whenever I can find someone to go with. Yesterday we had lovely weather so 4 of us headed for the adjacent state forest. It's quiet during the week, but more busy on the weekends. Maresy can be very looky, and sometimes spooky, so it's good to get her out to see stuff.

    We had some things to get used to, in the form of guys playing paintball (quite scary, though they were polite and ceased their game until we were past), ATVs (definitely worth a worried look, although the ATV-ers were polite and kept their distance), a baby carriage (no particular fear there), two people collecting mushrooms (no problem), lots of mud and water (worth getting snorty about), and...

    Sigh. One completely melting down small child. As in screeching, screaming, yelling, and crying, at enormous volume. We heard the kid well before we saw her. All the horses stopped as the child and its people (another child, an old lady with a cane, and an adult man) emerged from the woods onto the dirt road. The other horses were ahead of us and approached very cautiously, but maresy tried her balk/spin routine. I shouted to the others to hang on, and with a little convincing got her following her buddies once again, albeit at a quick, jiggy walk. And the man had the... ignorance... to ask if they could pet the horses, even though the melting down child was screaming and screeching about how scary they were. Um, whatever, but NO, you may not pet the horses! We rode past as quickly and safely as we could. Hopefully the guy does not think all horsepeople are horribly rude, but.... ugh!

    (and yes, I do know that sometimes kids just melt down... Poor kid!)
    You have to have experiences to gain experience.

    1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"

  • #2
    Glad your mare did ok. Noboby likes a screaming toddler (even when they're yours!)

    Just to be the parental devil's advocate....I'm sure the poor dad was completely non-horsey and just hoped the opportunity to pet the horses might interupt his daughter's meltdown and didn't mean any harm (or realize that it would/could scare the horses). When your kid is melting down in a public place you look for any distraction you can find!

    Comment


    • #3
      Too funny!

      Meltdowns are the worst. I can't stand to be around it. Not sure petting a jigging horse would have helped anyone. A quick apology and exit would have been my response, too!

      We always do stop to visit with children, though. Although when we are out riding our horses are usually in work mode, and not particularly interested in being petted. But I figure it's good for them to stand around now and then while we chat.

      Yesterday we stopped for a carload of kids, when the mom stopped and rolled down the windows.

      Our funniest one was a few weeks ago when we approached a bridge. A guy was there, and held up a huge trout to show us. The horses became wary of the man holding a large fish, and wouldn't go closer. We chatted from a distance about his fishing, then jigged slowly past...

      Comment

      • Original Poster

        #4
        /snicker about the fish.

        Oh, I do understand that sometimes kids do just melt. This state forest borders one urban, poor small city (and a couple more suburban but not wealthy towns) and I am just happy to see anyone getting their family out for some fresh air and a walk in the woods, but my guess is that most of these folks know next to nothing about horses. In general, I'll let anyone who's calm pet my horse. She likes the attention!
        You have to have experiences to gain experience.

        1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"

        Comment


        • #5
          North Reading by chance?

          Comment

          • Original Poster

            #6
            No, this is the Lowell/Dracut/Tyngsboro State Forest, so I was talking about Lowell. I don't think North Reading is especially urban or poor!
            You have to have experiences to gain experience.

            1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"

            Comment


            • #7
              Children are evil. They are the spawn of the devil. Especially when they reach 15. Everything in the world that is wrong is their fault.

              can you tell what kind of day I have had so far
              I Loff My Quarter Horse & I love Fenway Bartholomule cliques

              Just somebody with a positive outlook on life...go ahead...hate me for that.

              Comment


              • #8
                At the moment, I hate children. All of them. My neighborhood is coalescing into a "childless versus breeders of hellspawn" polarity right now because of about 5 families.
                One of the little monsters unscrewed the cap to the sewer cleanout in my yard and threw a brick and all manner of debris into it, causing the sewer to back up into the yard. (Yes, my husband caught the brat shoving a stick down the pipe and ran him off. Of course hindsight is 20/20 and we now wish we'd marched him back over to his house to confront the parents. But DH had somewhere to be. . .)
                It cost $300 to get the debris cleaned out. Now the parents are hiding every time they see us, and they won't answer their door.

                Hope the little twit gets a case of e coli that makes him good and sick for a few days.

                Comment


                • #9
                  Originally posted by equineartworks View Post
                  Children are evil. They are the spawn of the devil. Especially when they reach 15. Everything in the world that is wrong is their fault.

                  can you tell what kind of day I have had so far
                  Debbie Hanson
                  www.ratemyhorsepro.com


                  Comment


                  • #10
                    Ah, the spawn of the loins of the idiot masses. E-coli would be good!
                    What would you try if you knew you would not fail?

                    Comment


                    • #11
                      Too bad you didn't get a chance to say, 'Sorry, the horses are scared of the baby crying, if we make them get up close one of us will get thrown off and hurt'. A French parent without a sobbing child told me once the difference between the crying kid and the not crying kid - 'La routine, la routine, la routine'. Kids get tired, get melt downs.

                      sadly for the band camp story haters, this will force me recall my gelding, who used to run toward any crying child and start nuzzling them(well....any NON crying child as well). Generally brought about even louder cries - of terror.

                      Comment


                      • #12
                        Funny, my horses are undisturbed by crying children, perhaps they recognize that all young things are vulnerable..

                        but they dislike whining, near-hysterical over-horsed adults. After all, they trust us to give them an example.
                        "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
                        ---
                        The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.

                        Comment


                        • #13
                          TOO Funny !!!

                          Originally posted by equineartworks View Post
                          Children are evil. They are the spawn of the devil. Especially when they reach 15. Everything in the world that is wrong is their fault.

                          can you tell what kind of day I have had so far
                          I can relate ~ I am allergic to screaming children actually to most children ~ having been a teacher at one point for tooo long!!!
                          Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "

                          Comment


                          • #14
                            That's not a screaming child problem. That's a stupid parent problem.
                            Head Geek at The Saddle Geek Blog http://www.thesaddlegeek.com/

                            Comment


                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Zu Zu View Post
                              I can relate ~ I am allergic to screaming children actually to most children ~ having been a teacher at one point for tooo long!!!
                              Lucky for me DD is an absolute doll for about 360 days of the year.
                              I Loff My Quarter Horse & I love Fenway Bartholomule cliques

                              Just somebody with a positive outlook on life...go ahead...hate me for that.

                              Comment


                              • #16
                                Originally posted by equineartworks View Post
                                Children are evil. They are the spawn of the devil. Especially when they reach 15. Everything in the world that is wrong is their fault.

                                can you tell what kind of day I have had so far


                                The really little ones are often sticky.
                                Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
                                Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
                                -Rudyard Kipling

                                Comment


                                • #17
                                  Originally posted by JSwan View Post
                                  The really little ones are often sticky.
                                  I hear they are delicious tho...
                                  I Loff My Quarter Horse & I love Fenway Bartholomule cliques

                                  Just somebody with a positive outlook on life...go ahead...hate me for that.

                                  Comment


                                  • #18
                                    Originally posted by equineartworks View Post
                                    Children are evil. They are the spawn of the devil. Especially when they reach 15. Everything in the world that is wrong is their fault.

                                    can you tell what kind of day I have had so far
                                    Mine is turning 15 today - I so hope I can be "right" again! I have been wrong with DD since conception - it is slowly improving.

                                    Back when there was a Solid Gold Futurity in Springfield, IL. every fall my Husband decided to handle a meltdown in the area under the cement bleachers in the Colosseum. I was riding a spendy client horse and having a great ride when the melt down occurred. It had been brewing all day. I begged DH to take the child to the truck and "let it all happen". But he was certain I needed video of my ride. I could hear the child wailing and the grumbling of the crowd. But i just loped along pretending it was not my kid.
                                    I was third
                                    "If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there"

                                    Comment


                                    • #19
                                      Originally posted by jn4jenny View Post
                                      That's not a screaming child problem. That's a stupid parent problem.
                                      Got to agree here! Though having said that, the opportunity to pet a "horsie" would dry up my little girl's tears in a snap. DH is already resigned to the fact that she'll be getting a pony in a year or so.

                                      Comment


                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by gieriscm View Post
                                        Got to agree here! Though having said that, the opportunity to pet a "horsie" would dry up my little girl's tears in a snap. DH is already resigned to the fact that she'll be getting a pony in a year or so.
                                        My DH wouldn't even let me get "can we get a..." out of my mouth for 18 years. Now he says "geez, why wouldn't you let DD get a horse all those years. You're so mean".
                                        I Loff My Quarter Horse & I love Fenway Bartholomule cliques

                                        Just somebody with a positive outlook on life...go ahead...hate me for that.

                                        Comment

                                        Working...
                                        X