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My horse got hit by a car, Update, He's good, I'm not.

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  • #81
    Kathi -
    Jingles for you and your horse!
    Don't beat yourself up. If it had been necessary you would have kept it together for as long as you needed to.

    Seeing something like that happen is truely terrible. Be sure to take care of yourself.
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    • Original Poster

      #82
      Walker is home, sore but happy to be there. It hurts to eat, you can tell.
      I am still sstttuuuttering like crazy! WTF!!
      I am ready to be normal again. Any body else had this happen to them and when did you get better?
      Poopy butt, I say!
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      • #83
        It will get better but you have to take care of yourself and understand... yourself. Once you have him in your care for a few days and can see how he is feeling and that he is recovering, I think you will feel better too. You are stressed, upset and traumatized and it takes a while to get over that. I KNOW I would be the same way in your situation, I know I would. Sorry I am late to this thread. Many jingles to you and your boy. Hugs to you, you need them.
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        • #84
          Kathi,

          great to hear Walker is home. Sounds to me like he is taking this much easier then you are. Animals live so much more in the moment then we will ever be able to do. I admire them for it. I know some will say it's because they are stupid, but I disagree. They say horses have a memory span of ten years to recognize a person from their past. (That's much longer then I can remember. )

          If having him trying to cheer you up, and I bet he is (horses are just that way), doesn't work, perhaps you could go see your doctor again.

          Maybe asking for a weeks worth of Xanax (the generic is quite inexpensive) should help you with the anxiety you are feeling.

          Give Walker a hug and tell him you love him, cry on his shoulder if you have to. It helps!
          Last edited by luvmytbs; Jul. 1, 2006, 07:24 PM.
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          • #85
            Holy moly...glad to hear you are both doing better. Jingles for continued good recovery.

            "Poopy butt"??? you must be feeling better
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            • #86
              Jingles to you and your boy!! Glad to hear you are both doing better. I can't imagine what you must have and still are going through! Just hang in there and take care of yourself!

              ~Darci~
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              • #87
                Girl, if you can say Poopy Butt ... you're well on your way to recovery!

                You saw something very traumatic, you're probably not only in shock over that, but subconciously blaming yourself and wondering why you broke down in the first place and just sat in the driveway. Hon, that's completely normal. Relax and don't blame yourself for ANYTHING ... accidents happen, no one was seriously injured, your beloved Walker is home where he belongs. HE certainly doesn't blame you for his injury. Hopefully you'll feel better once you realize that all is well.

                Take your time, take care of yourself, don't worry about the stutter - it'll go away soon.


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                • #88
                  You poor thing. Post traumatic stress I imagine.
                  I second talking to your DR about it.
                  Good to hear Walker is on the mend. Now take care of yourself!
                  I\'m not crazy. I\'m just a little unwell.

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                  • #89
                    See if you can get EMDR therapy. It was developed to deal with Vietnam vet's PTSD. It works incredibly well.

                    I can find you a list of practitioners if you are interested. Seven years ago next month my MFT tripped and fell at a canter, and I landed face first and slid through big driveway gravel. They stitched my face back on at the hospital, but for almost 2 years the smell of a horse sent me into a panic attack. And forget about cantering!

                    I'm totally over it now. I can canter and not feel any fear (at least on a well-behaved horse!) Get professional help with this, and I highly recommend EMDR. Don't depend on drugs too much; they treat the "symptoms" but don't fix the "disease."
                    Barbara www.customstockties.com
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                    • Original Poster

                      #90
                      Thank you all. RT66kix I am going to check into that., Also, I don't have a problem with some kind of medicine short term, I know the value of that already.
                      And , to the person who wrote about a friend's horse being killed this week, I am so sorry! I just reread and saw that. I know I was extremely lucky.
                      I hope another good night's sleep will help.
                      You guys all help, too.
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                      • #91
                        When you experience a trauma like that - your body goes into high gear. I bet you released huge amounts of adrenaline and cortisol into your system - it's what your body does. Then you get the crash. This is normal.

                        I am just so grateful your horse is going to be okay.
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                        • #92
                          hit by car

                          This actually happened to my horse back in '85 I think. He slid a bit under the bumnper and ripped up his LH. Got up and continued to run across the road! I caught him and walked back to the barn and kept him walking (shock),waiting for vet. He turned out fine! We had to wrap the leg up over the hock for some time and try to prevent proud flesh. He was sound on a little bute the next day! 9 lives, that one! Had him 14 more years and showed.

                          The face should heal better and faster. Jingles for you both! You must work on your mind for a while--you will have scary visions and must put them away.
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                          • #93
                            Originally posted by Rt66Kix
                            See if you can get EMDR therapy. It was developed to deal with Vietnam vet's PTSD. It works incredibly well.

                            What Barb said!

                            Well, not only have I been hit by a car while riding a bicycle, but a horse I was riding was hit by a car while I was riding her. And while the physical wounds from BOTH incidents healed very quickly (only the bicycle one required medical intervention - I had a concussion and some nasty contusions), the psychological ones took a long, long time. In part, because I foolishly did not seek help. It actually didn't occur to me either time that I was so badly shaken up that I should talk to someone about it! Stupid.

                            When I got hit by the car, I was in college and after spending a few days recovering, I discovered I could not cross the street by myself. My friends had to be with me and for a while, they would hold my hand. Sounds ridiculous, but every time I got to a corner, I could hear the sound of my body hitting the car. Not a pleasant sound. Bodies hitting cars in the movies still freak me out.

                            But, with patient friends (thank you!) I got to the point where I could cross the road again in about two weeks.

                            With the second accident, neither the horse nor I were injured, thank God, but the horse was one that we would have voted Horse Least Likely On the Entire Planet to Do Something Stupid in Traffic. Wrong! So, I became very fearful of riding in traffic. Frankly, I am not over that. I still don't like to ride on the roads and avoid it like the plague.

                            So, my point is, get help and get it quick! The sooner you find someone who can help you, the sooner you can move on! Take it from someone too stupid to follow that simple advice.
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                            • #94
                              RR is right. When my car was totaled by the 17 yr old cruising at 70+ mph and going through a red light, while she was yakking to her 17 yr old buddies in the car...took me weeks to realize I did not have to stop at green lights to make sure some moron wasn't coming at me. And it took me a month to go back to that Chinese food takeout (I had gotten many quarts of wonton soup, and they were nestled carefully in the front, and my going so slowly to protect the soup was probably what saved my life...the soup, as you might have guessed, didn't make it).
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                              • Original Poster

                                #95
                                Thanks all. I am starting to wonder if I shouldn't go " see someone". One of my best friends is a child phsy... not even going to try to spell that!
                                I will call her.
                                In the past 9 months, I have lost a schoolie to a broken leg, my father, ( that is still hard to see in black and white), a cat, a dog, and Shea, you know, the horse you use for your screen name, because he is your life?
                                So, maybe that has something to do with it? I am also moving out of my old house and trying to build a house from scratch at the barn to live in.
                                Even the old stand by, chocolate, has lost it's appeal.
                                The stuttering and being unable to find the right word is still here today, so I think I'll make some calls tomorrow.
                                I always think I handle things well. Hmmm.
                                I am going to the mall to buy shoes, though.
                                thanks,
                                Kathi
                                www.ncsporthorse.com

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                                • #96
                                  I'm not going to try and one-up you here, just suffice to say I have experienced cumulative losses too and I think at one point your mind just says "Enough!"
                                  Talking to your child psych--- (not going to try for that spelling either)friend is a great idea.
                                  Give yourself some time and remember to breathe and take small steps.
                                  And come here for a cyber-ear/shoulder too - people on this board listen and care
                                  Here's a wish for you and Walker to heal together.
                                  *friend of bar.ka*RIP all my lovely boys, gone too soon:
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                                  • #97
                                    you need a bath a hot one and to relax -- you know why becuase i know as you know debs got almost hit by car and its that releif feeling you alive

                                    sounds weird but it is -- sore but alive thank god -- what you need is a good cry and then move on and try to rest up a bit and just chill out --

                                    take care and jingles to both and haug for walker and a cuddle for you

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                                    • #98
                                      Think of the positive things in your life. Since you are building at the barn soon you will be living there and that is good; and , the most important one your horse. He is home, he will be alright, he's on the road to recovery (just like you).
                                      Take a deep breath, a big sigh of relief and then a smile for Walker is OK and go out and give him a big hug. Give him some scratches to make him feel better too.
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                                      • #99
                                        Jingles from Texas!

                                        Your plate has been overflowing for a while--sounds like body is trying to
                                        tell you it's ready for a "time out."

                                        Glad you boy is doing okay and hope you are soon also!

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                                        • a new pair of shoes

                                          makes me feel better every time
                                          take it easy. time heals. but if you can check w/ a professional that can't hurt either.
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