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  • Equine Sympathy

    I am creating an equine sympathy card to give to a friend who lost her mare yesterday.

    Can anyone point me to some really good quotes... besides the Rainbow Bridge one?

    I know this has been posted before, but I can't find the thread or I just suck with the search feature.

    Dreaming in Color

  • #2

    scroll down to the Stanley Harrison quote - that one always makes me tear up
    *friend of bar.ka*RIP all my lovely boys, gone too soon:
    Steppin' Out 1988-2004
    Hey Vern! 1982-2009, Cash's Bay Threat 1994-2009
    Sam(Jaybee Altair) 1994-2015


    • #3
      Not horse related, but I have always really liked this one... and it can be applied to animals or humans...

      Do not stand at my grave and weep;
      I am not there. I do not sleep.
      I am a thousand winds that blow.
      I am the diamond glints on snow.
      I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
      I am the gentle autumn rain.
      When you awaken in the morning's hush
      I am the swift uplifting rush
      Of quiet birds in circled flight.
      I am the soft stars that shine at night.
      Do not stand at my grave and cry;
      I am not there. I did not die.
      \"For all those men who say, \"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,\" here\'s an update for you: Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it\'s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.\"-


      • #4
        I have this quote over my dog's grave.

        Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.
        -Kahlil Gibran

        This quote is from his work called, "The Prophet"

        When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

        When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your greatest delight.

        Kahlil Gibran
        Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
        Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
        -Rudyard Kipling


        • #5
          Yesterday, my friend went home and I miss him.

          Had I asked him, he would not have left.

          He would have stayed, though his pain was great.

          It is not for him that I cry, as the cruel suffering life gives to some is now done.

          Selfishly, I cry for me.

          His absence is breaking my heart .

          I hope he does not see my tears, as he would halt his journey to comfort me,

          And that is not what I want.

          After all the love and understanding he has given his rest is well earned.

          So, I hope and pray he continues his journey without hesitation.

          In time I will be fine, as time does indeed heal all.

          If I could I would tell him " go on, don't wait for me".

          Yesterday, my friend went home.

          by Gary S. Playsted
          "Concern for animals is a matter of taking the side of the weak against the strong, something the best people have always done." Harriet Beecher Stowe 1811-1896

          Ponies are cool!


          • #6
            Somewhere in time's Own Space
            there must be some sweet pastured place
            Where creeks sing on and tall trees grow -
            Some paradise where horses go.
            For by the love that guides my pen,
            I know great horses live again.

            Can't remember who wrote it... could probably find it on Google.

            err... nevermind - that's the poem 2DogsFarm was referring to.
            Dapplebay - home of original equestrian clothing and accessories.


            • #7
              That Stanley Harrison quote is so comforting. I've written 4 sympathy cards for clients at work this week- 1 cat, 3 horses. I'm going to print out the Harrison quote to use next time....there is a newborn filly in the clinic tonight who is not expected to make it to dawn.


              • #8
                Two other nice ones.

                Don't think of him as gone away-
                his journey's just begun,
                life holds so many facets-
                this earth is only one...
                Just think of him as resting
                from the sorrows and the tears
                in a place of warmth and comfort
                where there are no days and years.
                Think how he must be wishing
                that we could know today
                how nothing but our sadness
                can really pass away.
                And think of him as living
                in the hearts of those he touched...
                for nothing loved is ever lost-
                and he was loved so much.
                E. Brenneman


                Message from a Horse Spirit written by Katie Graham, aka Coyote
                Where am I, now that I am gone from your life?
                Leaving you lonely and sad, for that I am sorry.
                But this is a warm place, and the pastures are green.
                And now I know just how much you loved me...
                Everyone here shares the kindness of your heart.
                What am I doing, now that I have left your care?
                Racing with wide-eyed foals, orphaned no longer.
                Breathing crisp morning air with wise old work horses, now grown young and strong again.
                Looking at mountains through the eyes of the blind who can see.
                Carrying on my back all of the folk who never had the chance to know the warmth of my sweet horse breath or the thrill of a gallop, but always yearned for it.
                Visiting little girls who dream of beautiful steeds, flying over fences and racing past the finish line, keeping them safe, giving them hope.
                Saddest and sweetest of all, greeting the ones who cross that Rainbow Bridge.
                Some were wild and free on the earth, and they remain wild and free.
                Some were loved and cared for, and they will be well loved and cared for here.
                And some of the horses trotting over that Bridge were neither free nor loved.
                Those are the greatest joy to greet, for now they have the greenest grass and the freshest water, and they will never be sick or in pain or alone ever again.
                And they will always be loved.
                So cry for me as humans do, and then move on to tend to the mortal horses who need your care and kindness.
                And take care of the children; help them find their dreams, nuzzle them for me.
                I will be waiting for you when you come to pass that Rainbow Bridge,
                We will piaffe through the clouds and leap the lightning bolts, and then trot on home together to those green, green fields.


                • #9
                  Try www.petloss.com/poems for some ideas. You are kind to think of your friend this way. God bless.


                  • #10
                    I honestly believe this poem saved my sanity when I lost my beloved mare in a horrible accident. Someone had sent me the poem two weeks before she died and I had saved it because it was so beautiful. Even now, when I reread the poem, I still feel my grief and then I also feel the comfort of these words.

                    I'll lend you for a little while my grandest foal, He said.
                    for you to love while he's alive and mourn when he is dead.
                    It may be one or twenty years, or days or months, you see,
                    but will you, till I take him back, take care of him for me?
                    He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should his stay be brief,
                    you'll have treasured memories as solace for your grief.
                    I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return,
                    but there are lessons taught on earth I want this foal to learn.
                    I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true.
                    And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes, with trust, I've chosen you.
                    Now will you give him total love, not think the labor vain,
                    nor hate me when I come here to take him back again?
                    I know you'll give him tenderness and love will bloom each day,
                    and for the happiness you've known, forever grateful stay
                    But should I come and call for him much sooner than you'd planned,
                    you'll brave the bitter grief that comes, and someday, understand.
                    R.I.P. Ollie (2007-2010) You were small in stature but huge in spirit. You will never be forgotten.

                    Godspeed, Benjamin (1998-2014). A life well-lived. A horse well-loved.


                    • #11
                      I always post this one. Someone sent it to me after I lost Conny.

                      It makes me cry, especially the last stanza, but I love it.

                      Crossing the Bridge

                      I stood beside your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
                      I could see that you were crying; you found it hard to sleep.

                      I whinnied to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
                      "It's me, I haven't left you. I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

                      I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
                      I want to reassure you, that I'm not lying there.

                      I walked with you toward the house, as you fumbled for your key.
                      I put my head against you, nickered and said, "It's me."

                      You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
                      I tried so hard to let you know that I was standing there.

                      It's possible for me to be so near you every day.
                      To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

                      You sat there very quietly, then smiled; I think you knew.
                      In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

                      And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
                      I'll gallop across to greet you, and we'll stand there side by side.

                      I have so many things to show you, there's so much for you to see.
                      Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.
                      Homeopathy claims water can cure you since it once held medicine. That's like saying you can get sustenance from an empty plate because it once held food.


                      • #12
                        Thanks everyone, now I'm sitting here at work wqith tears rolling down my face. I really need to know better than to open these posts at work...
                        *friend of bar.ka

                        "Evidently, I am an unrepentant b*tch, possible trouble maker, and all around super villian"


                        • #13
                          Another good one...

                          "Do not mourn my passing,
                          for if you could only see
                          by slipping all my earthly bonds,
                          I'm young again and free.

                          By day I run the heavenly fields,
                          my body well and strong
                          At night I sleep at angels' feet,
                          lulled by celestial song.

                          So do not mourn my passing,
                          just close your eyes--you'll see
                          I'm once again that gallant horse,
                          as you remember me."

                          - Author Unknown
                          In loving memory of Chutney (1977 - 2008)