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  • Husbands behind the horsewoman

    I want to hear it for the husbands who support our habit, who trailer us to our shows or help set up and do the little things we may or sometimes forget to do. My husband does a lot for me when I show, he trailers us there, helps set up a big tent so we have shade while I get my draft mare out and ready. He has put up racks on the side of the trailer so we have 6 round pen panels and can make our own pen for Smoke so she has more room to walk around and not tied to the trailer all day. He also has a wonderful job that is well paying so I can now stay home and enjoy my 3 horses and ride more and train and exercise. The hubby also knows how to help me hitch, harness, and saddle up as well as what outfit goes with what.

    So for those who have a great man behind them...lets hear what he does to help you!
    Last edited by SmokenMirrors; Mar. 29, 2009, 11:02 PM.

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    After the day we had today TRYING to get to a schooling session at another barn, I don't know if I'll ever want to trailer WITHOUT my husband! I can't even describe everything he does. I think the thing I love most about him is that he's always clear-headed in situations where I totally panic! Oh, and I love his paycheck too, a lot more than I love my own!

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Belplosh View Post
      So for those who have a great man behind them...lets hear what he does to help you!
      He doesn't complain when I insist on buying customized jigs that make doggie bone shaped dovetail joints. Oh goodie, now I can make.... well... things with doggie bone shaped dovetail joints.

      Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
      Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
      -Rudyard Kipling

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      • #4
        Belplosh, I love your sig line.

        Um, if your husband is ever bored he is WELCOME to come do all that for me, or maybe just give my husband a pep talk as to why he should??? Although my husband doesn't do all that, he does occasionally fix things for me, he's been asking how my horses are recently after I come home from the barn, hasn't complained about the astronomical vet expenses my mare is incurring at the moment, and he has given me money in the past to buy project horses. Not bad considering he doesn't particularly like horses in the first place!!
        Gentleman J - "Junior" - My been-there, done-that jumper

        Send Your Love - "Serena" - Aug 10th 2009, Rest in Peace

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        • #5
          Add me to the list of great horsie husbands.
          He's the one who insisted on selling our very nice home we had recently purchased in order to find a home where we could bring our mare home to. He couldn't stand that he could only get to the boarding barn on weekends due to work. He helped finish the inside of the barn. He's down that barn every single night to give out treats and kisses to the horses. He'll stand for hours hand grazing or grooming for fun. He's bought me TONS of awesome power tools. And for the last few anniversaries I've gotten gifts like a generator, tractor and an F250. (well, a watch for the 10th anniversary. He insisted on something without an engine. I had asked for a pressure washer, LOL!)
          He insists someday he will have either a Lusitano, Andalusion or Friesian of his own. A mare...he loves mares. Those 3 breeds are man-magnets. Must be all the long hair. Although not saying I'd turn down a nice Lusitano.
          You jump in the saddle,
          Hold onto the bridle!
          Jump in the line!
          ...Belefonte

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            #6
            Thanks Veebug...it reminded me so much of my QH gelding Terry, he has so much heart and power and is just full of life, he has taught me patience, calmness, and a light hand on the reins.

            It is good that your husband is asking about your critters. How I got my husband more involved is I was really really busy with being a volunteer EMT and NEVER home. Because I was always going on calls he sat me down and we came to an agreement. He would go to more of my shows if I didn't run so often and was home more, and 4 years later, I only run two nights a month and on occasion during the day when he is at work. Course, there are times I wish he wasn't so involved as he gets way more competitive than I am when I show, I go to learn, to hopefully place well and to enjoy myself.

            JSwan, what are dove tails and jigs and what do you use them for? And mine too tries hard not to say something when I have 3 english saddles, 2 western saddles, two work harnesses, a driving harness, and a plethoria of horse stuff as well as the fore cart and fancy show cart.

            We are lucky woman indeed!!

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            • #7
              I have a fantastic enabler..er...husband! The man is pure gold. Not very interested in horses, but supportive and kind.

              And on a side note, I want to see stuff with doggie bone shaped dovetail joints!
              Don't tell me about what you can't do. That's boring. Show me what you can do. - Mom

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Emryss View Post
                I have a fantastic enabler..er...husband! The man is pure gold. Not very interested in horses, but supportive and kind.

                And on a side note, I want to see stuff with doggie bone shaped dovetail joints!
                I got it home and thought - what the heck am I going to do with this? I got an an entire set. Stars, doggie bones, hearts, really funky designs. Spent part of the day practicing on scraps. You can also use the jigs to create shaped inlays.

                All I've been doing lately is wood duck boxes and bluebird houses. Easy stuff. I guess the birds won't mind if their houses look a little frou frou.

                Oh - for the OP - dovetail joints. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dovetail_joint

                Now imagine those joints are funky shapes.
                Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
                Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
                -Rudyard Kipling

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                • #9
                  I don't know how to describe him, sometimes he's a royal PITA, but as someone whose family burned him out on showing horses and dogs by using him as the home grown groom and lackey, to the point where he rebelled at 16 and moved out, he has driven me to my shows and been helpful and polite, has been concerned about the expense but not b**chy, and is helpful around the trainer's barn (and not help that you really don't need either, dirty, nasty heavy jobs). I'm pretty blessed to have him, so three cheers to the DH's!
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                  • #10
                    Well he doesn't physically do anything, but he has not once suggested getting rid of either of the beasties, even with the bank calling about that late mortgage payment...
                    Founding Member of "I Kept 'Off Topic Day!' Open"

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Crooked Horse View Post
                      Well he doesn't physically do anything, but he has not once suggested getting rid of either of the beasties, even with the bank calling about that late mortgage payment...
                      Hey thats something! Gotta give them credit. Too many times I have heard others complain about their spouse, so I wanted to have a thread that is constructive and compliments them!

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                      • #12
                        Can't do what I do without him - he is my pit crew and my rock......as he like to tell all other dressage husbands "happy wife - happy life"...tee-hee.....

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                        • #13
                          My DH and I just had our offer accepted on an 83 acre farm in Kentucky And while he wants to learn more about the horses he's not yet horsie! He allows me the opportunity to do a lot and have a lot. I am a very lucky wife!!!
                          www.rockhillfarm.net

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                          • #14
                            Hwy, HUGE congrats on the new farm! Seriously jealous over that amount of acreage!
                            You jump in the saddle,
                            Hold onto the bridle!
                            Jump in the line!
                            ...Belefonte

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                              #15
                              Great stories ladies...we all should be proud of our men...be then non horsey or horsey intelligent.

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                              • #16
                                Mine rocks! He enjoys the horses as much as DD & I do - in fact, he stops by to love on them when he's by himself. He will bring things to us when we forget them at home, bring child to the barn, catch & tack DD's pony while I ride.

                                The best part - no matter how tight money gets, he always is supportive of the horses.

                                I love my husband.
                                A proud friend of bar.ka.

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                                • #17
                                  I'm one of the lucky! My DH got me back into horses, loves our horses, does all kinds of horse chores to include stall cleaning and just built a bunch of cross county jumps in our field.

                                  I think his devotion can be marked by the time when (riverpony was boarded) that he pulled up all the rotten urine soaked boards that made up the floor of his stall and replaced them, and cut and placed new stall mats. The barn manager did pay for the stall mats, which was nice. But that was some nasty work....
                                  When I pull on my boots, I know who I am

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                                  • #18
                                    Poor Mr. CH! He got me back into horses 20-some years ago with a birthday gift of riding lessons ... little did he know what he started. Now we live on a little farmlet and while he's still not truly horsey, he does seem rather fond of our mares and has become pretty handy at various chores. He claims a level of discomfort with a lot of things, including blanketing ... but I catch him hand-grazing the girls on the lawn ("to save mowing") and hugging on them or feeding them sunflower seeds regularly.

                                    He's not so much the tag-along-to-shows-and-be-a-gopher-for-the-missus supporter. But when we had a late-night colic, he was rearranging the solar lamps to creat a "runway" showing the vet the way past the house to the barn and standing at the road with a flashlight to make sure she didn't miss the turn into our driveway. This in the cold rain, too. He's a great hay-unloader and -stacker. When I need help with feeding or mucking, he's right there.

                                    And if I REALLY need a hand at a show ... if I ask, he'll be there.
                                    Equinox Equine Massage

                                    In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was in me invincible summer.
                                    -Albert Camus

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                                    • #19
                                      My dear husband deserves a medal. He's done so much, particularly this last year, in so many ways.

                                      Last spring he drove me 13 hours to see my dream horse. He didn't bat an eye when I shipped dream horse up here, and he helped me find a barn that would be comfy and luxurious for our new family member! He helped me pick out new equipment, took time off work so I could be at the barn for various things, and was just as excited as I was about the following year's show season.

                                      The night Dan got sick, he drove me to the barn despite me insisting I would go alone and be fine! (Little did I know.) He walked with Dan and I all night, made sure he had dry blankets to stay warm, made phone calls.... and when Dan died, I think Mr. FG cried as hard as I did.

                                      And then he let me be sad, for weeks, and months. Still, even, he knows some days that I am missing that big red horse desperately, without me even having to say anything.

                                      I will forever be grateful to him for letting me chase my dream, for helping me fulfill it, and for being there when I had to let it go. Someday I hope I can do the same for him.

                                      He's my hero.
                                      We couldn't all be cowboys, so some of us are clowns.

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                                        #20
                                        Flash you made me cry! When my gelding Terry colicked badly, while the vet was putting in the large bore I.V for fluids, he went to the barn, put my hammock up then stood there with me when we finished the IV bag and helped me get settled.

                                        Same with when my draft mare went through the fence and was on the road as she stepped in a nest of ground hornets. I was so worried, getting up every hour to check on her then getting her to the vet when she was worse. He put in a camera system so I could watch the horses in their stalls.

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