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Odd Request - Horse-related sympathy gift?

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  • #21
    It's not really horsey, but I came across the idea of wind chimes as a sympathy present, and that seemed like a nice possibility. You could probably find one that has a horsey theme. The one below plays a few notes from Amazing Grace.

    http://www.gifttree.com/p3/6873/Amaz..._Chimes-1.html

    After my dad's funeral, it took a long time for me to see fleshy, bulb-like flowers, especially lilies, as anything but funeral plants, and while I wanted to remember my dad, I didn't particularly want to remember the funeral. If I was sending someone a flower arrangement meant for them to keep in their house, not for use in the funeral, I'd try to choose something that didn't resemble the funeral flowers - which tend to be white and filled with lilies. I would imagine that a baby's funeral would also be filled with pink or baby blue, so again, you might want to avoid those colors.

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    • #22
      The cards idea is beautiful. I'm going to remember that one.

      I also think windchimes are a beautiful idea as well. Maybe you could find a beautiful horse-y one?
      "The nice thing about memories is the good ones are stronger and linger longer than the bad and we sure have some incredibly good memories." - EverythingButWings

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      • #23
        I'm sure I've seen horsey windchimes somewhere....maybe in Wild Horsefeathers or Back in the Saddle magazines??

        I really like that idea - the one about the card every week is nice too. Prayers and hugs to your friend.

        It's so cool you guys have kept in touch like that all these years from being friends at camp - One of my best friends is from camp and we've managed to keep in touch even while living in other countries. She's visiting this weekend, which has been really nice.
        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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        • #24
          I really like the wind chimes, too. That just seems "right." But I also want to say that anything from the heart will likely be appreciated. I lost a child years ago ( 22 years to be exact, you never forget ...) and I remember the most touching gift I received. I was the managing editor for a newspaper at the time and my boss was this great big hulk of a guy, a rich kid who had inherited the paper and was, by and large, socially awkward and kind of a pain in the arse. But he had kids of his own (whom he adored) and the loss of a child just pierced his heart. He came to my door, and I remember it like it was yesterday, with a huge frozen standing rib roast in his arms and tears running down his face. He managed to choke out an "I'm sorry," and "I didn't know what to do, so I thought food would be good," as he shoved the rib roast at me.

          22 years later and I still have tears in my eyes over the loss of our child, and a bit of a smile at the heart-felt gesture of someone who could only imagine our angst and was so distraught he just showed up with a standing rib roast.

          Just don't obsess so much about finding the "right" gift or the right thing to say that you don't say anything. That is the worst thing, when your very closest friends do not share your pain ... you do forgive them, but it does hurt.

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          • #25
            Originally posted by King's Ransom View Post
            my boss ...managed to choke out an "I'm sorry," and "I didn't know what to do, so I thought food would be good," as he shoved the rib roast at me.
            Gosh, that is so sweet!

            Originally posted by lonewolf View Post
            I liked the idea of flowers with a keepsake charm attached. Something like this, maybe? http://www.equestrianjewelry.com/Pro...ductid=EQE0061.
            I loved this. So simple. So sweet. Could you get the baby's name engraved on the back? It would be perfect!

            I also loved the mare and foal pendant on the same website, but I bet you didn't want to spend $1200.

            I also love the wind chime idea. Definitely in "horse."
            I have a Fjord! Life With Oden

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            • #26
              When my aunt lost her horse, I gave her a Leslie Webb wall plaque: http://www.backinthesaddle.com/searc...eslie+Ann+Webb

              She really loved it. I don't see the exact one I got her on the website anymore, but they have a few that may be appropriate.

              Caitlin
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              • #27
                The letter a week idea is incredible. What a great idea. I would do that.

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                • #28
                  something for in the future...

                  littlesomething.com is a handy website to send her something small to let her know you are thinking about her. You just pick it out and pay for it and they do the rest. My condolances for your friend. I can't imagine her grief.
                  If i'm posting on Coth, it's either raining so I can't ride or it's night time and I can't sleep.

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                  • #29
                    Originally posted by Catersun View Post
                    littlesomething.com is a handy website to send her something small to let her know you are thinking about her. You just pick it out and pay for it and they do the rest. My condolances for your friend. I can't imagine her grief.

                    Thank you, Catersun, for this cool (simple!) idea. I just sent something to my mom, who is a recent widow, and will be spending her birthday alone for the first time.
                    I have a Fjord! Life With Oden

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