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  • Come back to the land of reason. Do you see what you've done here??? You've chased off the few single horse riding guys that we had [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img]
    See what happens when the SANE eventer is gone for the day? The lady DQ's start a fight. Sheesh, I tell ya!

    Anyway Good Luck Duffy on your blind date. Try not to bring up your crazy BB friends or he may run for the hills. Full report expected when you return.

    ~Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?~
    ~Run and Jump!~

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    • And EEEEWWWW!!!

      I won't bore you guys with the gory (sp?) details. Suffice to say that I'm not planning on seeing him again, even though he's left not one, but two messages on my cell phone already. Guess his ego was so big he couldn't see my reactions... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

      I also turned the opposite way upon leaving the restaurant because I was scared that he'd follow me! I went to Target to re-group before facing perfect Pepper and Domino. They get tres upset when their mom is agitated. I also called Sea Urchin, but there was no answer. Hrumph. What good is a friend who isn't there when one calls in need? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] I still managed to break down into tears in the parking lot though.

      Time for horses, pets (including equine [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img] ), children, girlfriends, male FRIENDS, work and celibacy.

      "I can justify anything!"
      \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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      • 2 voice mail messages is only an indication of what the next few weeks will be. Caller ID will be your friend

        Nothing makes a person more productive than the last minute

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        • Ya have to pay your dues, kiss a lot of frogs!! Sorry it went poorly, but you are now ONE person closer to finding the right one!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

          Oh, yeah, and we need deatils!!

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          • If I've told you once, I done told you a million times - men are dorks; desparate men, well, they're even dorkier.

            Would remind you, though, the fact that the man may have been a dork has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him - much as the chip into an oxer has often to do with the horse and not the rider. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

            Ignore the calls, block his number, pretend he doesn't exist - kinda like the Urchinator. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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            • Oh, Elizabeth! Too funny! My "line" on that service is something to the effect that I'm wishing for no more princes turning into frogs!!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

              He seemed fine, even on the phone. He was indeed well over 6' tall, blonde and blue-eyed... It sort of went downhill, so to speak, from there. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

              First, when I pulled into the parking lot of said restaurant, I see who I think is this man, bending over, inspecting some unknown flaw on the surface of his shiney red Lexus sportscar. Then, I learn he just bought a Trailblazer, has a Harley and owns several boat dealerships. Can you say "toys"? He claimed to have "cat(s)" on his profile, but funny, he didn't mention him/her, even after I talked about Pepper and Domino. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

              Then, he proceeded to "analyze" me, or so it felt from my perspective. Oh, and he has a 16 year old daughter who he's not very close too. She has an "eating disorder" and is way overweight and he has trouble accepting that. And, he had the nerve to tell me I should lighten up??? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img]

              When I admitted that I did NOT wish to go somewhere quieter to just talk [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] , he was wanting that bill so quickly, I had to leave about a third of a glass of wine there. It was my second, but STILL! The nerve!

              Then, he said he wanted to walk to me to car, which is when he discovered that I also had a Trailblazer. Eureeka - I do believe that was the first and only thing we had in common!

              After opening my car door and inspecting the dirt, last show's leftover whatever, etc., he proceeded to grab me and kiss me so hard I swear I thought I'd come home to find my lips deformed. Keep in mind it was still daylight out here. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

              I admit to be rather flabbergasted...In retrospect I really should have, at the very least, bitten him. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

              Uggg... I DO have caller ID on my cell phone, thank goodness, which is why I did NOT answer his calls, and he does not have my home phone number.

              Do you suppose he thought I would fall passionately into his arms and change my mind about going home ALONE??? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img]

              Then, to top it all off, I'm such a wuss and wimp that I have yet to e-mail him, giving him my piece of mind... Plus, I don't want to hurt his feelings. Can you say PATHETIC???

              Let's see... One disgusting IM conversation, with follow up, even more disgusting, e-mailed pictures from one man on the service, one very nice and long phone conversation with another man, but he lives in NY, and now this traumatic "date". My odds are not looking so good, methinks. LOL

              Oh well. My new assistant started at the office today and tomorrow I get to school Gramento at Deep Run for practice, so all will be well. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

              Are those enough details? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

              "I can justify anything!"
              \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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              • Thank you, Heidi! You're right, as usual! My new mantra shall be - "That would be YOUR problemo, not mine!"

                "I can justify anything!"
                \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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                • Duffy... so sorry the date didn't go well. I've done a few of those... and had a couple turn out almost the same. *blech*

                  <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>See what happens when the SANE eventer is gone for the day?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  What are you trying to infer here girl? Especially since both Reed and I were still around yesterday... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                  I do agree however, that we need to get a handle on all the DQ-ishness that's floating through this thread. I don't think anything scares off men as much as having to deal with a DQ... you'd think the guys were just slaves to be ordered around, make money, be your sex slave and ... oh wait a minute... perhaps I need to rethink my DQ-ness.

                  [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

                  ************
                  YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

                  If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

                  Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
                  ************
                  "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

                  "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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                  • Duffy! Here's hoping there is an improvement soon on the dating front for ALL of us!!!!!

                    As for your yucky date, if you care to email me, I've got a horrible date "line" story that will really make you glad all you got was a kiss!!!!!

                    Aqha Clique
                    Can you stress-fracture your brain?

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                    • Oh come on, Heinekin... tell us all!! We could all use some encouragement (as well as laughter). [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] Dont' tease us this way... spill it!

                      ************
                      YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

                      If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

                      Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
                      ************
                      "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

                      "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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                      • Email me, it is NOT at all appropriate for a public forum, TRUST ME!!!!

                        Aqha Clique
                        Can you stress-fracture your brain?

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                        • That date sounds frighteningly similar to one I had a few years ago with a guy I met online. It was, quite possibly, the most uncomfortable two hours of my entire life (to date, anyway [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]), and I still shudder just remembering it. Nothing made me appreciate being single more than that date did! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

                          DQishness scaring men off? You would think men would *like* a woman who has her own diamonds and appreciates a very stiff whip! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                          The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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                          • Poor Duffy. I feel your pain. Did you just meet him for a DRINK, however?? Seriously, that is how you should do it - just meet for a DRINK the first date, so if they are LOSERS, you can leave within about a half hour!

                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Duffy:
                            Oh well. My new assistant started at the office today and tomorrow I get to school Gramento at Deep Run for practice, so all will be well. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]
                            <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            Good for you. Cinco de Mayo and I will be there tomorrow helping the kiddies, so I will try to identify you and come say "hi."

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                            • All I need is a story like Duffy's, or a nightmare date tale from my single friend Ann, to make me appreciate my independence.

                              I view dating as a rich source of comedy material. My annual crappy date becomes the Christmas letter to my married friends. They love it. And one date a year is more than enough.

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                              • Oh, Duffy, so sorry that your experience was SO negative, but at least it is over and you don't have to bother with that one again! Almost wish I hadn't read your post, however, since I am on one tonight. Good thing he is the friend of a friend, not a random fellow and he comes with high ratings. We shall see. I am not in the mood/groove to be too serious, which I am finding is the hardest thing about dating (especially non-horsey guys). They are interested in the horses, dogs, etc. but (not to sound callous) they have a hard time with where they sometimes fit into the priority list and then they are very insistant that they are perfect for me! Oh well. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

                                And about the sane eventer thing - I, too, was here, so don't be reserving that just for yourselves...... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
                                One thing you can give and still keep is your word.

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                                • I haven't read much of this thread (only the last few pages--which have been interesting) but my goodness Duffy, what a freaking NIGHTMARE! Yuck yuck yuck! He'd already called you twice on the same night that you'd had that horrid date with him? What a creep! Don't respond to any of his calls or emails. Don't give him any reason to hope for future contact with you. Just cut him off. He sounds like a freak! And you deserve soooooo much better.

                                  I have a friend in DC who signed up for a "matchmaking" service that costs her (no kidding, I saw the literature) $1000! Yup, that's right, $1000 and she's set up on a series of lunch dates. So far, she's had 3 dates and they've all stunk! I feel badly for her, she really wants to meet someone (well, if she's paid that much, it's obvious) and has no luck. She was thinking of going the online route. I think I'll avoid telling her your horror story just now. I'd like the poor girl to have some shread of hope at least. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

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                                  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Sister:


                                    DQishness scaring men off? You would think men would *like* a woman who has her own diamonds and appreciates a very stiff whip! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                    Ya, but we eventers come BETTER equipped. We have Gags, Body armour, MULTIPLE whips and spurs for every phase. Right tle???? Not to mention adrenaline junkies that like to do it over 3 days!!!!

                                    ~Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?~
                                    ~Run and Jump!~

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                                    • Now you're scaring ME, xcjumper. ;-)

                                      Reed

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                                      • But hey Reed, it got a response from one of the men not the women [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] I couldn't let the DQ's out do us!!

                                        ~Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?~
                                        ~Run and Jump!~

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                                        • since she was lamenting the fact that this thread had slipped off the front page. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                                          Actually, xcjumper is quite correct... although the way she puts it might even scare me! xcjumper... remember, subtle until they're hooked... THEN you can bring out the whips and spurs. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                                          Reed, my brother sends his thanks, although he's going to wait to see how his major's board goes in the spring. He did, however, ask me how his name got brought up... didn't have the heart to tell him I was posting his pic, etc. on a singles thread.

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                                          YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

                                          If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

                                          Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
                                          ************
                                          "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

                                          "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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