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  • TLE: He does meet the first of my two criteria, but appears to fall short of my second criteria. Still, maybe posting a picture would be in order? I am thinking about moving back out West soon. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
    Beside, can't help but think men in uniform are cute.
    I evented just for the Halibut.

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      Reed,

      I have a younger cousin in CO. I haven't spoken with her in many, many years, but recently we've had reason to trade a few emails (family gathering coming up). She isn't into horses, but I could still set you up. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

      Oh, and she did invite me for a visit sometime soon...maybe I could collect on that "ride" when/if I visit? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]

      It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
      "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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      • I've always thought Idaho is quite lovely... *And* he's the right age [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img].

        However, I'm afraid that I'm short and freakishly un-coordinated (yeah, that carpet jumped right up and tripped me...). He might be happier with a tall, athletic girl to keep up with him, as long as she likes dogs!

        Hehe, I used to date a guy who worked for a place called the Geek Squad. I think he was afraid of horses...

        The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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        • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Velvet:

          I have a younger cousin in CO. I haven't spoken with her in many, many years, but recently we've had reason to trade a few emails (family gathering coming up). _<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

          Yea yea, likely story. The REAL reason is that she has said cousin stalking you Reed to see if you are actually competant of giving Velvet the ride of her life [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img] BTW, Velvet I LOVED your Mae West quote and have decided to have it embroidered on a pillow next to the one I already have reading "Rich Men are Never Ugly" (Zsa Zsa Gabor)

          And I think I actually qualify as single by reason of insanity. As tosted to me today by my dear friend Moesha..."And we would never be here today if we had not been similar maniacs"

          Now THAT'S a quote!

          *Behind every good woman lies a trail of men*

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          • I figure my comments would jump start the conversation again. :-) It is interesting to see how the arch of the thread has gone from lament to pride in being single. Not a bad thing! It shows that all of the folks that have commented here are well defined individuals, willing to stay committed to their ideals. I used to think I was an oddball because I felt similarly. It is comforting to me to hear that there are other men and women that feel the same way. I just knew that to question WHY someone was single would bring out the comments because I am the same way. ;-)

            Your theory is NOT that far off, Velvet. As for short guys going for taller women, if I remember correctly, the average height of men in the US is 5'8"-5'9" while for women it is 5'5" thereabouts. Now, going on what you say, Velvet, this automatically means that short men such as yours truely (5'6" on a good day), and other rding males, have no choice but to date taller women. Sociologic studies have shown that, in general, women automatically associate a potential successful mate with their height. While this may not apply to specific individuals, even when the short man was presented as being very successful (e.g. a doctor that cooks, loves children, owns his own home...), the women of the study STILL chose the taller men, even if they were presented as being "less qualified." Even men do this to other men. A taller man is usually considered more successful based on initial impressions.

            Now, Velvet, if you are comfortable about being seen with a shorter man, I'd be honored if you were to come out this way. :-)

            tle, if you brother ever wants to change careers, let me know. I am in the materials science department at Mines and most of my work is funded by NASA, so I have a few connections.


            Reed

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            • NeverTime... I'll see what I can do to dig up a picture (possibly even one of him in uniform... although he has a tendency to scowl at the camera when in uniform [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] ).

              Sister, hehee... I can guarantee you he may be athletic, but he's not exactly what I'd call graceful. I still remember growing up when he played (or attempted to anyway) basketball in Jr. High... all arms and legs and each going in their own direction. And of course, he'd kill me if he knew I was talking on a public bb about him this way. HAHAHA... oh, the sister's revenge (this is for all those times when I couldn't get him back because he's like a foot taller than I am!).

              Reed, I'll let him know, thanks. He gets frustrated with the Air Force from time to time. I think he'd like to stick with it for 20, but he tends to voice his opinions like I do [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] which isn't necessarily great on a military career. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] Luckily his Major's board was moved back 4-6 months (since he JUST moved to Idaho from Colo. Sprgs this spring). Anyway, Thanks.

              As for the height thing... I can see what Velvet is talking about. It does seem that all the tall guys want some petite little thing. Either that or they want some tall model type (5'10" or better). Haven't noticed what the shorter guys want (having tendencies to look for a guy my height or better... about 5'6"). I do have a friend who is 6' (and single if anyone of the guys is interested) and I don't think she really looks at guys much shorter than she is.

              ************
              YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

              If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

              Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
              ************
              "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

              "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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                Hey! I don't remember this starting as a lament, and since I started it, I think I would know! It was more interrogative in form. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                Hmmm...for some reason I have odd images of Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise when I think of our height difference, Reed. Not that we resemble them in any way other than height differences, based upon our photographs. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                If I really do get out to CO, we should at least hook up for swapping horse stories! That is if Rolex doesn't come around first. Then again, if it does, I'm sure no one will remember anything very clearly if we do all the things this group keeps promising, so the stories would still seem fresh and new. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

                It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
                "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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                  This is pretty bizarre, but I thought I'd post it anyway. (I just got it from one of my riding students in an email. *sigh* And they say the students have to put up with the instructors!!)

                  It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
                  "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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                  • Lament? Well... maybe a little. I don't particularly *like* being single. I am happy with my life, don't get me wrong. And I'm happy with the choices I've made along with way. But there is a little lament in there somewhere I suppose... buried between Buffy quotes and harrassing Reed and Matt. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                    Reed, I still think you need to make it out for the USEA Convention. It's gonna be a great party.

                    ************
                    YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

                    If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

                    Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
                    ************
                    "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

                    "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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                    • Y'know, as I get older it becomes more and more clear

                      that at the end of the day, it doesn't matter

                      if you were married or single
                      child-free or mother earth
                      rich or poor
                      or any of the other stuff that looks so important at the start

                      it matters if you lived a mostly happy, fulfilled life
                      if you found your path and followed it
                      if you helped more than you harmed
                      if you grew

                      the rest is lagniappe

                      JMHO, of course.

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                      • It sounds like you have the same height differential with your brother that I do! Mr. Little Brother isn't so little anymore, and with the exception of tae kwon do and video games, the kid has no coordination. Haha, I remember a frisbee game where it was said "Geez, the only thing worse than having Jill on your team is having her brother!" [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

                        The problem with tall guys is finding a horse that fits them; I'm sure GDG could testify to this. Tall guy=tall and/or very substantial horse. I think a full draft might be the answer for a guy just looking to ride for fun, but good luck finding a saddle to fit both the huge horse and the tall guy! I don't hear of many men that like to ride bareback... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                        The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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                        • Velvet, so true about your original intent, but even by the 10th reply, there were rumblings about how there are no good men out there that accept women that ride...etc. turning the thread into a lament of sorts. Hence, why chimed in, attempting to defend the honor of us "good" guys. ;-)

                          But hey, we now have proven His Greyness wrong. From this thread, you have gotten a "date" of sorts. Now we just have to actually meet. I'll be sure to wear my elevator tennis shoes. ;-) I may not be at Rolex next year due to the fact that it is the same week as a major research conference. I'll have to see how things work out.

                          tle, that is was the point of the study I mentioned. Women, generally look for men that are their height or taller. Conversely, men do not do that when considering women. However, when men observe other men such as in a business setting, it is automatically assumed that the taller men are superior to shorter men.

                          Having been a rocket scientist in the DoD in a previous life, and having several friends at the Air Force Academy (a general, colonel, and captain), I know how your brother feels at times.

                          Miniwelsh, mania is a great way to be an individual. Now to find a guy with similar mania... :-)

                          Reed

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                          • though I don't know what the heck lagniappe is!

                            ---------------------------
                            "We are what we repeatedly do.
                            Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
                            Aristotle
                            If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.
                            Desmond Tutu

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                            • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> though I don't know what the heck lagniappe is <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                              Lagniappe - something extra

                              It's French and a common expression in Louisiana.
                              'Computers are useless. They can only give you answers.'
                              - Pablo Picasso

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                              • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Louise:
                                though I don't know what the heck lagniappe is!
                                <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                Lagniappe was the name of the free planner we got at my college! I believe it means "gift" in Creole (although my memory is quite feeble...)

                                The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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                                • In Louisiana, a trifling present given to customers by tradesmen; a gratuity.

                                  Lagniappe . . .is something thrown in, gratis, for good measure. --Mark Twain.

                                  A small gift (especially one given by a merchant to a customer who makes a purchase)

                                  Friendship is Love without his wings
                                  -Lord Byron
                                  "If you would have only one day to live, you should spend at least half of it in the saddle."

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                                  • Now, anybody want to tell me how to pronounce it?

                                    hmmm pt, wonder if the use of this word gives me any more clues about which booger you are?

                                    ---------------------------
                                    "We are what we repeatedly do.
                                    Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
                                    Aristotle
                                    If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.
                                    Desmond Tutu

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                                    • lan yap' - the a in both cases is soft as in ahh
                                      'Computers are useless. They can only give you answers.'
                                      - Pablo Picasso

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                                      • but not participating as I am fiercely independent and happily married, and figured that this isn't the place to gloat (now donning bulolet-proof vest to protect hubby from early widower status). And I know darn well that if I hadn't met him, I'd still be single, because I've met way to many men that can talk the talk but not walk the walk, if you know what I mean.

                                        These would be the men (and women) that think it's great that I have a high power (time consuming) job, and a hobby I love, but expect their SO's to play the more traditional roles. Which is fine, maybe that works for most people, but I know darn well that it won't work for me.

                                        Anyway, what got me to post was actually the number of Mat. Sci. folk here -- Reed, I believe that you work with a colleague of mine from the Steel Research Group at Northwestern...?

                                        --R

                                        Rack me, I'm out.

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                                        • RRB,
                                          I'm afraid not. You colleague probably does work with our department head, Dr. Moore. My focus is materials for tissue engineering of bone and cartilage both in the body and to regenerate limbs out side of the body and to understand bone tissue from a materials/biologic perspective. I know Northwestern has a Biomaterials group out there and I would love to meet with them. Perhaps when I go to the Wayne DuPage Horse Trials? :-)

                                          Reed

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