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RAyers

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#381

Jul. 22, 2002, 01:28 PM

FairWeather, Shiver and I are a pair. You get one, you get both so there! That would be the ultimate test in any relationship I would have, will I let her ride my horse? Hell, Shiver gets more dates than I do. :-)

I want to expand on BarbB's comments to the general ideas here and please correct me if I am wrong. Yes, I am busy, but that is also why I date women that ride. Because it is perhaps the only way we can even spend a significant amount of time together (even if she was a DQ). ;-) I think that is the underlying problem being discussed here. We are all VERY committed to our horses (whether competing at an international level or just taking care of a few pasture ponies). It is because of this commitment that it becomes difficult to meet someone with whom we would connect with on an emotional level outside of the riding world. I always ask myself, what if my real soulmate is an artist in Puenta Arenas? Will I ever meet her because I am committed to my horses? Most likely not.

YES, it is easier for guys that ride ONLY because of the male/female ratio. But the underlying problem about emotion connection remains. Our commitments still inhibit our time to be socially active outside of the barn and meet "Mr./Miss" right. Thus, our pool of potential prospects becomes limited by our lifestyle. I see the same in academia where many of the junior faculty are single because of the time commitment to what they do.

I know I would be very ready and willing to commit to a relationship and would make room for her in my life, if there was the chance that she is right person for me and I'm sure everyone here would do the same so the being busy argument is moot.

It is just harder for the women that ride because of the dearth of men (probably because of the rather poor image that the equestrian industry (other than rodeo) has with men). Yeah, somebody tell me eventing isn't the ORIGINAL extreme sport (other than lion wrestling in Rome). My buddies that play tennis are freaking wusses. ;-)

FYI, I get my relationship advice from the great oracle Bart Simpson, "Understanding women is easy. State capitals are hard." ;-) By the way can someone direct me to the aforementioned men's rooms?

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mbp

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Jul. 22, 2002, 01:38 PM

They are in the state capitols of Wyoming and Rhode Island [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
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RAyers

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#383

Jul. 22, 2002, 02:16 PM

No fair! I told you state capitals are hard! Where is that damn, atlas? Has anybody noticed that Rhode Island is neither a "road" nor island? Cheyenne is only 60 miles up the road. I'll never make it to Providence. Boy you guys get around. Which men's room in Cheyenne? I'll stop by on my way to the Jackson Hole HT in August.

Women. Everything has to be a mystery. Sheesh.

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TrakHack

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#384

Jul. 22, 2002, 02:31 PM

Who wants to take a little trip to Jackson Hole next month? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

Last time I was there I had a splendid time!

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Velvet

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Jul. 22, 2002, 02:36 PM

I'd better go...I'm guessing that I would have a splendid time, if the men actually read the walls. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

So, Reed, ARE you going to Rolex? You say we like a mystery, so I think you should show up and we should all have to go on a hunt for you (no, not like a group of ravening dogs). [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

If you want, we can give you suzy's frying pan for protection. Oh, wait, you aren't a wuss so you wouldn't need that... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

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xcjumper

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Jul. 22, 2002, 02:39 PM

Hhmmm Sister! I'm thinking I should take my new horsie up to Jackson HOle. Maybe I could pick you up on the way. How far IS Nebraska from PHX? See, Reed men suck at state capitols and women suck at geography. But, as I said before I think CO is geographically desirable!! And, I would take the horse along with the man, or is it I would take the man with the horse [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?

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TrakHack

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#387

Jul. 22, 2002, 02:46 PM

xcjumper, we could meet in Denver if that's on your way!

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mbp

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#388

Jul. 22, 2002, 03:01 PM

I volunteer to help Velvet with the Scavenger, uh, Reed Hunt at Rolex [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

We can post Velvet's pics and stats in the porta-s while we are there. Believe you me - there's not much mystery left in life after you visit a porta.
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wanderlust

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#389

Jul. 22, 2002, 03:06 PM

Hmmm... 60 miles, huh? I'm supposed to go visit my brother in Cheyenne in 10 days. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
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xcjumper

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Jul. 22, 2002, 04:47 PM

You may as well not try and get away Reed. Just give in, we'll get the horse and the man one way or another [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]

Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?

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stasha

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#391

Jul. 22, 2002, 04:51 PM

Women are not bad at geography!!! We figure, why bother to memorize what is so easily looked up in a book? (Albert Einstein.)

BTW, PHX is close to 950 miles from NE.

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tle

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#392

Jul. 23, 2002, 06:48 AM

Easy now ladies. You're gonna scare Reed! Besides, you can't possibly go on the "hunt" without properly posting a picture. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

OT -- OMG Velvet!! I heard on the radio this morning that Sarah Michelle Gellar is only doing 1 more season of Buffy!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img] WAAAA!!! Just when I get addicted to the show, the star is wanting to leave! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img]

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If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!

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"Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike
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Velvet

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Jul. 23, 2002, 07:50 AM

tle, did you post this on SciFi? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

I'm not surprised. After the whole "no relationship ever works" thing and then the Buffy has some education, but still works for a fast food joint garbage, I think it might be ready to end. (I blame Joss Whedon. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] )

As for hunting down Reed, don't worry, I'm sure he'll blend in and escape--if he wants to. Heck, all he'd have to do is throw on a brass ring and pretend he's married. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)

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Velvet

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#394

Jul. 23, 2002, 08:31 AM

tle,

I forgot to add that you should go out there and get in on some of the main discussions. You'll get a lot more replies and see some very interesting off shoots. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

I like the new movie and tv discussions and used to hit the Robert Jordan ones as well.

It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)

"And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"
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#395

Jul. 23, 2002, 08:33 AM

This ain't a Buffy board either.

Horses? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]
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SimpsoMatt

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#396

Jul. 23, 2002, 08:50 AM

Can we set a record for the number of times a thread has gone completely off-topic, gotten warned by Erin, veered back towards horses long enough to keep from getting locked, and then gone off-topic again? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
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TrakHack

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#397

Jul. 23, 2002, 08:57 AM

This is bad. This is very, very bad.

I've come to the conclusion that a S.O. is called for in my life so I can get another horse. I've been seriously thinking about this, and Miss H is wonderful in many ways and I don't want to sell her, but I would like another horse. If I can find a guy who likes the occasional trail-ride, Miss H will be perfect for him, and I'm sure she will happily be a "husband horse" (especially if he lets her eat on the trail!).

Of course, if I find a guy that already has a horse or twenty, adding another couple to the group shouldn't be a problem! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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tle

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#398

Jul. 23, 2002, 08:59 AM

For the record, neither my original post nor Velvet's first reply was *completely* off topic... it was just easiest to put the OT stuff in with the other. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] And I've been watching a lot of Buffy lately since Char's on the injured list (mildly sprained suspensory that has taken us out of a Jim Graham clinic this weekend... WAAAAAA!!!!!... as well as Hunter's Run horse trials in 2 weeks). But hey, if I had a guy like Angel or Spike, then I wouldn't even be on this thread (hmmmm... wonder if either of them ride?... )

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YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!

************
"Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

"Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike
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HelenD

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#399

Jul. 23, 2002, 09:16 AM

Horses have been ridden twice that I can think of on Angel, a spin off of Buffy.

Could that count?

(Matt just gets grumpy when BTVS comes up)

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(S)He doth nothing but talk of his horses.
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SimpsoMatt

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Jul. 23, 2002, 09:52 AM

Hey .. I ain't grumpy (He's Grumpy .. I'm Dopey).. nobody's forcing me to read this .. I just think it's amusing the way it keeps cycling on and off topic for so long.
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