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  • Original Poster

    I had that problem in my twenties. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] Older men wanting a young body.

    Now it's young guys liking my old body. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

    Go figure. I've never connected well with men my own age. I've tried going out with older men and that bothered me because they were sexist. I'm thinking younger is better. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

    It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
    "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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    • One advatage to younger, you are in your prime. They are in their prime. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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      • Original Poster

        *guffaw*

        [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]

        The only problem with that is, it'll feel good for a while then I'll be stiff and sore later after all the acrobatics and he'll just feel good and ready to go again. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

        Then again, no pain, no gain. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

        It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
        "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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        • Ah Maria, your houseboys do serve you well!

          The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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          • Like a puppy, you may be able to train a young buck YOUR way. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

            A dear (older, male) friend once told me, "It's imperative to get yourself a young man, because once a man hits a certain age and comes to believe that the world is their oyster, it's too late." *** Of course, same dear friend also told me, "Honey, all you need to know about men is, They will sleep with mud." (Not his exact words, but...)

            *** Hmmmm, maybe the world is MY oyster, and that's why certain men I know who lust after teenagers aren't as appealing as they used to be? Sigh...
            __________

            "It is by no means the privilege of the rider to part with his horse solely by his own will." -- Alois Podhajsky

            "Go on, Bill... This is no place for a pony."

            [This message was edited by InWhyCee on Jul. 19, 2002 at 03:48 PM.]
            \"It is by no means the privilege of the rider to part with his horse solely by his own will.\" -- Alois Podhajsky

            \"Go on, Bill... This is no place for a pony.\"

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            • Ahem... horses?

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              • The same can be said about horses: the younger you get them, the less bad habits have already been formed...You can get them to develop your own special bad habits. Thats why I wanted an unbroke two year old!

                See Erin...it all comes back to horses somehow [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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                • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MargaretF:
                  Oh Fairest Fairweather, Moesha refuses to show me those pictures. Apparently, I look very scary in them, which is not surprising! <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  And to think--i've actually been told that 'those' pictures didnt even exist!

                  "Beer. Now there's a temporary solution."--Homer
                  FairWeather
                  CANTER West Virginia

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                  • Uh-oh Erin. They're talking about sex, you want them to talk about horses, next thing you know, they're gonna go all Catherine The Great on you.

                    [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

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                    • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Sea Urchin:

                      OMG - those pictures that were on the walls of the mens room at Culpeper this past weekend were of you???!

                      [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


                      I better quote this one before it Sea-Urchins on us [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                      Someone BETTER have been charging for those pictures! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]


                      OBHorsey edit: What i'd really like is a "lisamarie8" theory T-shirt:
                      Potential Sugar Daddy's inquire within, fear of commitment preferred
                      "Beer. Now there's a temporary solution."--Homer
                      FairWeather
                      CANTER West Virginia

                      [This message was edited by FairWeather on Jul. 19, 2002 at 04:04 PM.]

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                      • Original Poster

                        Hey, it ALL comes down to horses!

                        Let me see, how do I explain this?

                        Women who ride horses (seriously, not just playing around--they really love their horses and work to improve themselves and their horse in their chosen sport) are:

                        1. Very clear and blunt because that's how you communicate with horses.

                        2. Not easily intimidated because they are used to being around large, unpredictable and potentially dangerous animals.

                        3. They must know how to handle emergency situations while keeping a cool head.

                        4. They know how to size up an animal quickly and learn to pass judgment ruthlessly to avoid expensive (and sometimes painful) mistakes.

                        Maybe this is why we are still single. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                        It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
                        "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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                        • velvet, you hit the nail on the head exactly.
                          and i hafta add - i met my younger than me husband at the age of 38 after a nasty and bitter divorce. i wasn't looking - in fact, it was the last thing on my mind, and he's a keeper. but he
                          needed a tad training to bring him up to grand prix level.
                          www.judyreenesinger.com

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                          • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> 4. They know how to size up an animal quickly and learn to pass judgment ruthlessly to avoid expensive (and sometimes painful) mistakes. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            I think this is the one that causes us the most trouble. We geld. They know we geld. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

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                            • Velvet-I have the same thing happen to me. Whenever I go out I am picked up by the young ones. Of course I do like em a bit younger, but they are not really relationship material if you know what I mean.
                              And for us other singles that didn't post a picture for Reed, Well some of us have to work to pay for our habit!!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]
                              I will see if I can find a picture good enough to compete with tle's. Great Photo!!!!

                              Run fast, Jump high. What else is there?
                              ~Run and Jump!~

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                              • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> I think this is the one that causes us the most trouble. We geld. They know we geld. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                One of the funniest things i have heard all week

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                                • At 36, hadn't had gone out with the same guy for more than two dates in five years (LOTS of blind dates through diligent networking - very few second dates). Went on line to Yahoo personals. Found a guy who lived 20 minutes away. Emailed a few times. Had lunch. Eight months later he proposed. Married last June. Preg with first child now.

                                  He does not ride, but supports my obsession 100% (we are buying 130 acre farm - that's support!). He hikes, loves his dogs, we travel, travel, travel. He's perfect (and I am really, really, really lucky, and thank the heavens everyday for ending up with such a wonderful person).

                                  Bunch of single friends followed suit on different internet sites (Match.com is a favorite). No other weddings, but lots of great dates and some relationships.

                                  Hey, if I were buying a horse, I would start with the classifieds, knowing I was going to see a few (dozen?) losers before I found the horse of my dreams. Not a perfect analogy, but it holds some water.

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                                  • Original Poster

                                    Congrats! And, that's true, it does go with my last point, doesn't it? We often kick quite a few tires. Problem is, it often seems more hazardous than hopping on a horse you've never seen and is grossly misadvertised as being "broke to ride." [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                                    At least, that's what happened with one guy I met. He went nuts. I guess it makes me gun shy. It's easier to get back on a horse after being dumped (most of the time) than going risking repeating psyco dating. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

                                    It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
                                    "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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                                    • Ok, I have resorted to subscribing to an online dating service...How pathetic is that? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

                                      "I can justify anything!"
                                      \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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                                      • ..for the "it all comes down to horses" analogy! It is so Perfect!!!!!

                                        Die hard member of the JESSE fan club!! :-)
                                        Member of the Disgruntled College Student Clique
                                        GO TARHEELS!
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                                        • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by KateDB:
                                          Yes, Reed, super photo: nice horse and nice ride.

                                          So much truth in what you have said.

                                          Crazy Colorado eventer gals don't know what they are missing out on! An articulate person and capable rider, what more could one ask for? I'm with tle, I think you need to make it to the USEA convention [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                          this is your fault Reed, you told me to read this thread.. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] ..I'm sure you knew I couldn't keep my mouth shut [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                                          In defense of Colorado eventer gals - there are more than several of us who appreciate Reed.
                                          He is fun, articulate and generous.
                                          Shiver has his own fan club and the crowd can be heard cheering for them at any horse trial in the region.
                                          He is also a dedicated horseman with a more than full time job outside of horses and if he ever really wants to get serious about a relationship he will have to make time for one - which, to my knowledge, he has not yet done.
                                          I believe this is true of many of us who SAY we want a relationship.
                                          I am also single, work long hours and spend as much time as possible at the barn. It is not enough time to enable me to meet my horse goals - where on earth am I going to find the time to start a relationship?
                                          I would bet, if you admitted it, that this is the real reason many of you are not involved in a relationship. It isn't REALLY a priority - it just seems like a good idea.
                                          [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]
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