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  • Thank God that Wingsy has GOOD photos of me. She is now my official photographer! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]
    Now, if only I had a scanner for all those competition proofs!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]
    One thing you can give and still keep is your word.

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      Ahem. suzy, I think you need to look at the picture. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

      It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
      "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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      • Fru fru is only the OUTSIDE!!! There is much more there than the cute blonde wrapper! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

        Aqha Clique
        Can you stress-fracture your brain?

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          Do you feel like a $10 Liz Claiborne sweater at a bargain basement sale filled with deal hunting DQs and HPs? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

          It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
          "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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          • Much easier to be celibate and stay that way when you've made vows. Although, nuns don't event - do they? that's what I'll call my next event horse - The Flying Nun.

            Seriously. Men. Just started casually seeing a friend of mine, and then WHAM! No emails, no calls - he's freaking out and I have no idea why. Why do they run scared like that, without any attempt at communication?

            The convent is looking better and better all the time.

            "Obstacles are those frightening things we see when we take our eyes off our goals." - Anon
            "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." - Thomas Edison

            So, the Zen Buddhist says to the hotdog vendor, "Make me one with everything."

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              eventer_mi--if he really was/is a friend, confront him and get it all out in the open. At least you can then go back to being friends. (What I mean is, if he's not answering the phone, send him an email and tell him this is how you are interpreting his behavior and you want to make sure you are both still on the same page. And if not, clear the air and see where you both end up.)

              tle, I replied on SciFi. I can't believe there aren't more people out here who are SciFi fans. I love that board. I've been on it for at least 10 years. The SciFi Channel has a very relaxed attitude (I'm talking about moderators) and some of the people who post out there are entertainingly obnoxious. Others are just obnoxious--but you can yell back and forth. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] CoTH's bboards are the some of the most restrictive I've ever been on.)

              It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
              "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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              • Hey! I never did see those imfamous DC pictures!
                FW wondering if she WANTS to see those pictures
                ___________________________________________

                Oh Fairest Fairweather, Moesha refuses to show me those pictures. Apparently, I look very scary in them, which is not surprising!

                SciFi board? Cool. I love SciFi.



                "What lamp has destiny to guide her little children stumbling in the dark?"

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                • No!!!!! The infamous DC pictures are the best - my fav is all of us looking quite aggressive outside of the Mayflower!

                  Reed will have to fight the waiter at Skewers for Fairweather's affections - Mo and I forgot to tell you that he asked about you the last time we went in. She left quite the impression on him!

                  And heineken, trust me, pay no attention to that little man behind the wrapper!!!!

                  *Behind every good woman lies a trail of men*

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                  • I'm trying! But it's pretty d*mn hard to communicate with someone who refuses to communicate with you.

                    Wonder how I'll look in black and white?

                    "Obstacles are those frightening things we see when we take our eyes off our goals." - Anon
                    "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." - Thomas Edison

                    So, the Zen Buddhist says to the hotdog vendor, "Make me one with everything."

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                    • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Why do they run scared like that, without any attempt at communication?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                      Honey, I've been looking for an answer to THAT question for quite a while. Scenario: dating this guy pretty heavily although for a fairly short amount of time before he has to go on a business trip (military) to Italy for 4 months. Via the military, I get to talk to him on the phone once or twice/week plus all the emails I can send. Things are going great (so I think) then WHAM! He gets back, things seem fine (pick up where we left off, etc.), then a week later, he drops me off to mess with my truck and I get an email later in the day saying that he doesn't want to see me again ... the kicker... that I should be GRATEFUL since he didn't even send his last girlfriend a message, just disappeared on her. Egads!! There's plenty more to that story, but I'll spare ya'll the details... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] And to make it horsey, this is the guy I met when I literally flew head first into the ground when a horse was spooking and bolting and I, like the dork I am, didn't let go of the lead. Started well enough... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

                      Funny how whenever we start talking about this subject and a guy jumps in at all, they get literally pounced upon! However, just to be fair to Reed (and anyone else who wants to post a pic), mine is below...although ya'll have probably already seen it a number of times.

                      Velvet... I'll have to spend more time on the SciFi boards. Haven't been there except last night.

                      BTW, anyone else having a royally crappy day (already)? Alarm set for 5:30 so I can take care of Char's leg before work... wake up at 7:20. Manage to get her done (lasering, poulticing, fed) and get home and ready for work and out the door just before 9 (late, but not hugely so). Know I have to get fuel... drive a couple miles down the road (passing a Dairy Mart because the Speedway is cheaper)... get to the Speedway and they're CLOSED FOR RENOVATIONS! Get back on the road and not 1/2 mile later... yep... run out of fuel (diesel fuel). Walk to the Auto Zone to buy a 5 gal can... continue to walk, luckily getting picked up by a very nice person who drove me the rest of the way and back and then to the bank to use their phone because while I could probably manage to get it started, my toolbox is at the barn where I dropped it last week when I washed the truck (with my tools in it which I need to take the turbo cover off to bleed the air from the fuel line). Call the mechanic and he comes and within 2 minutes it's started. Oh and did I mention that I had *just* left the house when I realized I had forgotten my cell phone?

                      Luckily today's Work consists of the company picnic. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

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                      YEA RED WINGS!!! 2002 STANLEY CUP CHAMPIONS!! HOCKEYTOWN FOREVER!!

                      If Dressage is a Symphony... Eventing is Rock & Roll!

                      Survivor thoughts -- Thailand here we come. BTW PICK ME FOR S6!!
                      ************
                      "Of course it's hard. It's supposed to be hard. It's the Hard that makes it great."

                      "Get up... Get out... Get Drunk. Repeat as needed." -- Spike

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                      • No, I just assume that everyone will, at some point in their life, be stranded at one of NYC's fine airports... That said, I'm giving up on this thread for the moment, because I don't have a photo that compares to tle's... you go, girl!

                        PS: Five or six Amstels and a concussion, and I look like Catherine Zeta-Jones... albiet shorter. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]
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                        "It is by no means the privilege of the rider to part with his horse solely by his own will." -- Alois Podhajsky

                        "Go on, Bill... This is no place for a pony."
                        \"It is by no means the privilege of the rider to part with his horse solely by his own will.\" -- Alois Podhajsky

                        \"Go on, Bill... This is no place for a pony.\"

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                        • Entirely my own, culled from watching our male friends dork around for a decade:

                          1. Women feel relieved when they're honest; men feel guilt-ridden and weak;

                          2. Men are predictable;

                          3. Men scare easily;

                          4. Men think they want an independent, smart, successful woman - that's a lie. They mostly want a "dirty nice girl", as a male friend recently explained;

                          5. Men actually thrive on the drama, scenes, ultimatums, and melodrama;

                          6. Men can usually, like Duffy, justify anything;

                          7. Men compartmentalize - it's when the compartments start spewing like a year-old watermelon left on the linoleum counter that they freak and bail.

                          eventer-mi, your friend is most likely scared - fearing that, on the rebound from your divorce, you are seeking a hubby replacement. That you're not probably hasn't entered your mind; that tells me that he's self-centered. I'd also add that, since you stated earlier that you're in your early 30's and had been married a decade, take the time now to discover all that you missed in the Dating Twenties, and to re-discover yourself. It's scary, I'm sure, but have fun.

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                          • MY suggestion is to meet and marry some poor but bookish PhD who is just landing his first academic job. You'll never see him. He'll be doing research and trying to get published. HE's most likley a work a holic.
                            NO money but very few hassles

                            "I've got a holiday, a paid holiday, I've got a holiday in my head"
                            Shoulders back, hands down, leg ON!

                            https://clshrs3.wixsite.com/website

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                            • All I can say ofr TLE is that she just maybe doesn't NOTICE that guys like her :-)

                              While we're on the subject...
                              I'll trade you mine, if he tries to commandeer any of my salary again I'm going to kill him. Flat out cut him up with a dull knife. I pay for the brand new truck that HE drives.. because his commute is shorter... pay for all my horse expenses and he has the f'ing nerve to piss and moan about the fact that "we" aren't saving more money. It's HIS issue that we have 6 months of cash in the bank for reserve... not mine.
                              And the expectation that I will pick up after his fat lazy ass when he's too pathetic to walk 3 steps and toss out the yougart container... groceries guess who bought for him? Oh and the threat hangs over my head daily that we may have to move again next year if the program he oversees isn't accredited. He INSISTED that I quit my past job and get a new one, which I hated and now I'm back driving an hour a day to a job I hate.
                              If he changes jobs again I'm going home to live in a shoe box and I'm taking my truck too and he can kiss my a**.
                              oh wait, did you say you wanted to meet a guy???
                              Why exactly was that ?

                              "I've got a holiday, a paid holiday, I've got a holiday in my head"
                              Shoulders back, hands down, leg ON!

                              https://clshrs3.wixsite.com/website

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                              • I travelled cross-country *with* a guy without previously seeing him. Now, we had been e-mailing for nearly a year, and at that point I knew that I liked him and it didn't really matter what he looked like. I'm not sure if men are the same way, but people become attractive to me when I like their personalities.

                                The relative unimportance of appearance was really driven home to me with my horse. She was at the same barn as the horse I was leasing, which was a pretty grey gelding who had swiss cheese for a brain. She is such a plain Jane little horse I didn't even know who people were talking about when they suggested that I consider buying her. She might not be flashy or the least bit remarkable, but she's perfect for me [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img].

                                tle, I've also had a rather craptastic morning... Nothing as bad as yours, but you're not alone out there! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

                                The Panchen Lama of DQs! (Second only to Velvet, the undisputed Dalai Lama of DQs.)

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                                • eventer_mi: if you ever want to move out to the west coast, my little neighborhood is filled with single 30-somethings, some of whom are divorced, all with active social and dating lives. At just barely 25, I am the baby of the neighborhood, and living with these people (our neighborhood is a one-block side street that is a cross between Melrose Place and a college dorm) has given me a really interesting and unique perspective on dating.

                                  At a time when most of my high school and college friends from back east are getting married and starting families (as they are expected to, because that is the cultural norm in all places outside of NYC and coastal California), and will probably be divorced in the next 7-10 years, I am spending time meeting and learning about people from all walks of life. I am taking time to explore the different activities that catch my interest. Through this, I am learning a great deal about myself and what I want. I consciously choose to bypass what is more and more frequently being called a "starter" marriage, which, much like a "starter" house, is something you grow out of over time. I've seen enough people go through them, and the subsequent divorce, that I want absolutely no part of it. No marriage for me until I feel like I've reached a stable place in life all by myself. Until then, I'd rather have the horses.

                                  So Reed, TLE, Velvet, etc... good for you.

                                  eventer_mi, take heart- it won't be as difficult as you think it will. In fact, one of my neighbors is a 31-year old divorced gentleman, and any of us girls in the neighborhood would love to date him. Unfortunately, another girl snagged him shortly before he moved in. Oh well... we'll wait her out. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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                                  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Sister:
                                    I knew that I liked him and it didn't really matter what he looked like. I'm not sure if men are the same way,
                                    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                    They're not.

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                                    • Char is fabulous (and you look great, too!) [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                                      Friendship is Love without his wings
                                      -Lord Byron
                                      "If you would have only one day to live, you should spend at least half of it in the saddle."

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                                        You know another thing I've noticed lately? Young guys (up to 15 years younger than I am) are giving me the eye. They are also friendly and flirtatious. They don't seem to be afraid of an independent woman.

                                        Maybe I'm looking for the wrong type of guy. Maybe I need a young one! Heck, I have never felt my age anyway. I always believe that you have to grow old, but you never have to grow up! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] (Besides, they have nice bodies...usually. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] )

                                        I think somewhere down the line I bought into that double standard where I had to go for a guy my age or OLDER. If you look at match.com, most guys are looking for someone younger than they are--and I mean a LOT younger!

                                        It's all about ME, ME, ME!!! (The only signature worthy of a real DQ.)
                                        "And I'm thinking you weren't burdened with an overabundance of schooling." - Capt Reynolds "Firefly"

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                                        • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Velvet:
                                          You know another thing I've noticed lately? Young guys (up to 15 years younger than I am) are giving me the eye. They are also friendly and flirtatious. They don't seem to be afraid of an independent woman.
                                          <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                          I have the opposite problem. Men 20+ years my senior and in no position to be my sugar daddy are the ones making comments in the street.

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