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Have We Lost Our Minds...Or Did You Have a Similar Experience After Losing a Horse?

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  • Have We Lost Our Minds...Or Did You Have a Similar Experience After Losing a Horse?

    Our beloved Eli passed a week ago today after a severe colic. I know so many of you have also lost special, beloved horses and I'm wondering if anyone else has had some of these same experiences ... or if DH and I have finally gone over the edge.

    We buried Elijah on the farm, beside King, in their most favorite spot in the field ... near the house, under a small shade tree.

    When King passed, I felt truly alone ... I felt his loss as an emptiness, as if he were truly gone.

    But it's different now.

    Not only do I not feel like Elijah is gone, I feel like they are both here. Please tell me I am not crazy ... I just "feel" them both here. There is a peace, calmness and comfort that I cannot describe.

    And DH says he sees them in the evening when he goes out to feed the others. He says it's like a fleeting image out the corner of his eye, enough that it makes him turn to look. And of course, they are not there, but he feels like he saw them.

    I understand this could just be our minds playing tricks, but neither of us is "like that." We are very pragmatic business people, not ones who frequent the fortune teller or howl at the moon, you know?

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    I have had that feeling, not with a horse but with dogs who have passed. I agree that it was not at all an eerie feeling, but one of calm.

    There may be some rational, scientific explanation for the feeling, but I have preferred to believe that the dog is simply still with me in some undefinable way.
    "The formula 'Two and two make five' is not without its attractions." --Dostoevsky

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    • #3
      Well it has to be a comforting feeling! Whatever you/husband think you see and feel, it is fine to feel and think that way. Never had it happen to me so far. We have a number of old horses buried here, would be fun to catch that glimpse of them playing in the field!

      Being practical, pragmatic, doesn't mean you don't have a sensitive side too. I would just enjoy those nice feelings, smile if I caught the glimpse of horses. Sounds like you both are accepting of things that happened, have worked your feelings out in a really nice way!

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      • #4
        Yes.

        Many times.
        More often with smaller animals and people.

        Just out of reach of perception, but the feeling of uplifting serenity, sometimes even quirkiness or some other facet of the personality is very comforting.

        Have had 'them' cause uneasiness and alert me and make me investigate and find something amiss on the place, too.

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        • #5
          That just happens.

          When our 30 year old had a catastrophic pasture accident and had to be euthanized, it was so sudden and unexpected, we thought at his age he would decline first, he was not looking or feeling any older than half his age.
          It was hard not to still see him here and there, at feeding time, sneaking over to the gate that we had not shut good enough, to let himself out, napping on the sand pile right along with the others.

          Yes, our minds keep trying so hard to find them there.

          Somehow, that didn't happen with my other old ranch horse, that after getting worse by the day with his bad stifle, we finally eased him out of his pain and truly had time to work up to his end.

          Now a few years later, I still may find myself looking again, when I seem to see either of them where they used to be, like eating watermelon in the afternoon sun.

          In a way, they never left, they still live in our memories.

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          • #6
            I think there a number of things that I do not understand, and that just because I don't understand them, doesn't mean they aren't real.

            I totally admit this might sound strange to people who know me because I'm generally fact-driven and pragmatic.

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            • #7
              OP, I don't think you or your DH have lost your minds. I think what is happening is wonderful. If it happened to me, I might initially be spooked a bit, but then I would feel as you do.

              Also, I am sorry for your losses. RIP King and Elijah. May they continue to "haunt" you.
              "Cats aren't clean; they're covered with cat spit."
              - John S Nichols (1745-1846,writer/printer)

              Don't come for me - I didn't send for you.

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              • #8
                No, you're not crazy. I've had similar experiences. My favorite dog used to go to the barn with me when I fed, and then grab my sleeve gently and sort of escort me back to the house. A few days after I lost him, I went to feed, walked back to the house - and felt something tugging at my sleeve. That continued for quite some time. I think it was him, letting me know he was still there.

                A friend used to dream about the animals she lost - she claimed that a day or two after losing them, they would come to her in a dream that was peaceful and always outdoors (even her indoor cats). She always thought they were telling her they were okay.

                And though I don't sense Bodie, we're nearly six weeks after his death, and Alex still acts weird when he has to go out into their paddock, like he's seeing something I can't.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Alex and Bodie's Mom View Post
                  No, you're not crazy. I've had similar experiences. My favorite dog used to go to the barn with me when I fed, and then grab my sleeve gently and sort of escort me back to the house. A few days after I lost him, I went to feed, walked back to the house - and felt something tugging at my sleeve. That continued for quite some time. I think it was him, letting me know he was still there.

                  A friend used to dream about the animals she lost - she claimed that a day or two after losing them, they would come to her in a dream that was peaceful and always outdoors (even her indoor cats). She always thought they were telling her they were okay.

                  And though I don't sense Bodie, we're nearly six weeks after his death, and Alex still acts weird when he has to go out into their paddock, like he's seeing something I can't.
                  I believe that animals can do this because they are not as separated from the other dimensions as humans are. I don't even believe there is an "other dimension" -- I think that is just a false separation humans believe exists because many of us are out of touch with the fullness of the world.

                  I can't explain it, because I don't understand it (because I am human). All I can do so far is believe it because sometimes I can sense it. Humans' senses of smell, hearing, and sight are so inferior to animals' that we just don't grasp the whole of creation. So we think there is only one dimension, that which we can see, hear, smell.

                  I believe animals know more.

                  (I could go into this in more detail but I'm not gonna sidetrack this thread. Suffice it to say that I believe King's Ransom and her DH are not imagining things.)
                  "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." -- George Bernard Shaw

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                  • #10
                    After my first horse was euthanized I used to see him in the pasture as you describe. Out of the corner of my eye, large as life. Sometimes I'd turn and there once be another horse there, other times nothing. Once I turned and found the white pony standing where I'd glimpsed my red horse.

                    My third horse knew me before we met after he was born. The first time I saw him he was all over me wanting to know what took me so long to arrive (all 36 hours of his life! ). He is very like my first horse in very many ways.

                    And I never glimpsed my first horse in the pasture again after my third was born.

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                    • #11
                      It has happened to me with my favorite cat that passed away. I would see him out of the corner of my eye once in awhile and once I saw him scoot around a corner into the bedroom. This still happens and he has been gone 18 years.
                      I had an old pony, Doodles, who passed away last year and I feel his presence VERY strongly out in the barn. Almost like he is watching me. So I think what you are experiencing is legitimate.
                      There are animals we have lost that I wished to have that connection with, but never felt it and I often wonder why it is there with some and not others. I do not feel it with Bitty, who, as you know, we lost the same day as your Eli.

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                      • #12
                        This is a 'real' and spiritual connection, not a figment of our or your imagination. If you are open to it (not all humans are), yes there will often be some residual communication or connection.

                        I don't have time to type a long post right now, but yes, several dogs and 2 horses have sent me a 'sign' that they are still in existence on spirit plane, only the physical body has left the earth. (see my sig line too, and PM me if you would like more details)
                        Jeanie
                        RIP Sasha, best dog ever, pictured shortly before she died, Death either by euthanasia or natural causes is only the end of the animal inhabiting its body; I believe the spirit lives on.

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                        • #13
                          I have "seen" and "heard" horses, cats, dogs and people that have passed.

                          I don't know if it's just my mind playing tricks or if they are still around. I do find the instances comforting in a way.

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                          • #14
                            My mother in law died when she was younger. My husband & I had only been married about 18 months when she passed. Very sudden and very sad. Fast forward 8 years or so, the twins were born, I was folding clothes one day in that absent minded way that you do and I suddenly realized she was talking to me about the boys. As soon as I was truly conscious of what was happening I lost that connection. But while we had it, it was if she was standing right there. Surreal and I tried to get it back but could not.

                            I am as skeptical person as you can find!

                            I have also felt some of our cats from time to time.

                            So no, you are not crazy! Enjoy that they are reaching out to you....

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                            • #15
                              You are not crazy. I've had visits from my beloved Bob, and my parents. Those that have gone before us are still with us.
                              Proud member of Appendix QH clique

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                              • #16
                                How wonderful that your lovely horses are still with you.

                                I lost a very beloved cat 2 years ago. This past year has been a very trying one and when I was at my lowest I could feel her curled up in my lap. It was so comforting.

                                She is the only pet that I have had that sensation. Perhaps it was wishful thinking on my part - but I am glad to hear so many others have had their pets visit them too.

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                                • #17
                                  Be Proud ~ of them and you two, too.....

                                  *definitely have not lost your minds ~

                                  be proud they have returned to tell you they are together and doing fine ~

                                  be proud that you loved them enough to see their 'return' ~

                                  Bless you,two horse owners on a job well done ~ ((hugs)) for your hearts ~
                                  Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "

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                                  • #18
                                    I don't think you are losing your mind. I think they are hanging around to ease you through this transition. Once they are sure you are ok they will start venturing further from home.
                                    McDowell Racing Stables

                                    Home Away From Home

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                                    • #19
                                      And if you have lost your mind, you've done so in such a nice way, who cares if you're crazy? :-)

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                                      • #20
                                        Not crazy at all!

                                        My daughter "sees" our departed animals right after death. They usually return to her within a few days, almost to say "I'm okay, you can be at peace now".

                                        I "feel" presence and know that they are with me. I'll see something out of the corner of my eye, will "hear" them or just sense that they are there.

                                        Take comfort in knowing that never really leave your side, you just can't physically touch them...yet.

                                        Be blessed!
                                        "A lie doesn't become truth, wrong doesn't become right, and evil doesn't become good, just because it's accepted by a majority." Rick Warren

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