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  • #21
    I agree with the others, keep it! I lost my first junior horse in October, and his halters are still on my front porch.....DH cleaned his every day one the day we put him down, but don't know when or if I'll use them....he wore his every day halter for the 20 years I had him....so its well worn, and well loved/remembered!

    Keep it and don't beat yourself up, as someone else said!
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      #22
      I can't thank you all enough. I feel much better getting that off my chest.

      mkevent--Your offer is so kind. I'm looking for cob-sized pieces. The cheekpieces on Trav's bridle had been shortened since I typically used a pessoa bit to jump; they are about cob length now. I stopped at the local saddlery today to see if they had any bridles on consignment, but nothing in that size. I'm sure something will work out.

      The new pony has a pretty cool story to go with him. Our 8-year-old combined driving pony Merlin had to be retired from the sport last fall after he was diagnosed with a serious upper respiratory condition. My husband and I were devastated--we'd poured ourselves into Merlin's training after we lost Traveler.

      A fellow driver heard about what happened and called us up in January. She had a pony that was too small for her pair and she really wanted to find a home for him. We went up to see him and, well, when you take the truck and trailer with you, it's hard to leave a pony behind. We're getting to know him and enjoying having a new guy to work with. He's 14.1 and rides/drives, so he'll be something my husband can drive and I can ride until the baby grows up.

      It's definitely a happy story to start the year. I just didn't realize that it would also stir up these emotions.

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      • #23
        As the proud owner of another wonderful "Trav" I say keep the bridle intact, and don't feel bad about it. One day you may find another horse that will be worthy, but for now, give new pony his own special gear and make new memories just for him.
        Lowly Farm Hand with Delusions of Barn Biddieom.
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        • #24
          Originally posted by KellyS View Post
          The new pony has a pretty cool story to go with him. Our 8-year-old combined driving pony Merlin had to be retired from the sport last fall after he was diagnosed with a serious upper respiratory condition. My husband and I were devastated--we'd poured ourselves into Merlin's training after we lost Traveler.

          A fellow driver heard about what happened and called us up in January. She had a pony that was too small for her pair and she really wanted to find a home for him. We went up to see him and, well, when you take the truck and trailer with you, it's hard to leave a pony behind. We're getting to know him and enjoying having a new guy to work with. He's 14.1 and rides/drives, so he'll be something my husband can drive and I can ride until the baby grows up.

          It's definitely a happy story to start the year. I just didn't realize that it would also stir up these emotions.
          Very cool about the new pony. It is funny sometimes how they just find you, when you least expect.

          I know what you mean about a happy start to the year... so far 2009 has been good to me as well. But, I had so many plans for Dan and I in 2009, it is hard to let those go. Some days the sadness really comes back to haunt me.

          Anyway enjoy your new pony. I wish you the best of luck this year.
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          • #25
            Kelly- I sent you a PM
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            • #26
              The bridle belongs wherever your heart feels it should be. My two boys each have a lovely leather halter with an engraved nameplate. They're alive and well, but I know I'll never be able to use their halters on anyone else. I actually figure a lot of my tack will be retired when my horse dies. So he's not allowed to die, because I like using that tack.
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              • #27
                Keep the bridle intact. I lost a "special" one last last year, and there are some things I put away for good. The only thing I pulled back out was a saddle pad we won at a show - I'm using it on the baby as motivation.
                "Adulthood? You're playing with ponies. That is, like, every 9 year old girl's dream. Adulthood?? You're rocking the HELL out of grade 6, girl."

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                • #28
                  This isn't exactly horse related because I've never had a horse that left behind tack that I could hang on to...

                  But I lost my boston terrier a while back and while I was gone on vacation out of the country my dad got me a new boston. He found my old boston's harnesson him and when I came home and discovered it I took it off and hung it back up in my room. My dad was like what are you doing that for? That's pudge's, and it is not to be used on my new dog. I also still have hair cut from the mane of my *mega horse* and it's been 2.5 years... it's a wadded mess and I can't get it straightened out, I just can't bare to get rid of it. I also have a useless halloween costume that was his that is stuffed in the back of my closet because I couldn't to bear to see it every day. I'll never get rid of his stuff, or atleast not for a very long time.

                  So just keep it and treasure it because it hold's your memories of your guy. And when your little colt grows up to wear it, he will wear it with honor.

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                  • #29
                    many years ago i had a ottb who to this day is the love of my life. he had no real talent for anything but he tried harder than any horse i had ever known. his bridle and his halter hang on hooks in our trailer. my daughter is the only one using the trailer but she knows that the bridle and halter stay.
                    you know, i think we are blessed when we have an opportunity to have a connection with an animal that is lifelong.
                    good luck with your new pony but hang onto your bridle. if and when the time is right to use it again, you will know.

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                    • #30
                      leave it-- i have an a bridle that belonged to my old honey which i did use for her son
                      its hanging up in the garage with added hunter martigale which was designed by myself for her son

                      i clean it but dont touch it for another horse, it was hers and then her sons which is really speical to me, i also think that taking it apart for use on another horse then you lose that sense of being theres i mean it like a cut its sore and hen if you lost the part or broke it
                      you couldnt replace what it was as it was part of you last horse as in thigns he used

                      for exsample this might sound so weird, years ago when my honey died hubby got me poster size photo done of her which was 3ft by 2ft which she hangs above my computer in the front room as i having a living room dinner and shes in the dinner part, when the kids were small
                      i used to havethre maties round as you do, and they wre playing balls inside well one perticular child was and i told her to stop it she threw the ball at the wall and hit the picture
                      which fell to the floor and broke obvouisly had to pick up all the pieces and deal with it when the kids went home

                      i was so hurt as it had shredded some of the picture and some of photo was sliced so bits were missing out and a couple bits of her body was missing
                      i was so upset hubby said dont worry i will get another one done, but to me it wasnt the same as this one was done with reason and given to me the day after she died

                      to day i have the same picture hanging on my wall in a different frame i cut off the bad bits which most were at an end and doctored her body with special photos paints as i can draw and paint i doctored her body up so ti doesnt look like any bits missing there was a huge bit on her flanks and no one notices its the same photo as its such a good job i did
                      only if you take dwon the photo and it sideways so you look on flat side of the glass you will see the areas which have been re instored by self was hard as shes a dark palomino
                      she last 6inches in lenght and and 8inches in width her ears are just inside the frame where as they wasnt before but she still above the computer and still the same piccy

                      to me she got hurt well i did ,, and to split or use parts of there stuff is like fear of losing what they was, with her bridle i didnt have tha fear as she bless mewith her son so naturally
                      what was hers was his, he too is hanging on the wall as what she had he had
                      so that bridle to me is more than just a bridle
                      and like thomas say with his dogs i have my dogs collars in my display cabinet iin the front room and there pictures along withmy kids and horses that i have lost are hanging up on my walls as they to were part of my family

                      sentimental value qutweights other things sometimes and there no shame to admit you loved something becuase of something else ie your bridle becuase of your horse
                      they never go they are in your heart and thats just a connection you have to them when you see it memoires come and you smile same as you would look at old photos of fmaily members
                      its there becuase it part of your life for so long to take bitsoff like i said would hurt it as in case you lose them which would hurt you
                      so leave it until you ready to use it on your youngster like you said then it will have more meaning as that old bridle hugs his head its part of the old horse you had and knowing that is comforting to be right

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                      • #31
                        I agree...no need to force yourself to take the bridle apart and use it for another. Your heart will tell you when it's time...or not.

                        When I lost Brennan, I knew I could never re-use his halters on another horse. I had them encased in a shadow-box frame along with his stall plate. It helped. http://www.flickr.com/photos/33620503@N06/3252658905/
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                        Brennan Equine Welfare Fund
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