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  • #21
    Originally posted by kashmere View Post
    Oh I feel your pain! I think every single horse person has at least one story like this under their belt. Accidents happen - they just do. They happen as a result of well-meaning carelessness, and they happen in situations where every.single.thing. was done by the book.
    Exactly. I think every person I know (including me) has at least one of these stories, sometimes due to ignorance, sometimes to stupidity, sometimes due to freak random happenstance.


    We all learn the best practices a bit by trial and error - be thankful nobody got hurt, and then process what happened, and learn from it. Figure out what to do better (desensitize the horse to dogs, checking the girth, etc). Make sure there are no physical effects from the episode, take it slow, and move on. It sounds like it was pretty scary so if you don't already, I'd advise having a trainer help you out a bit while you get back into the swing of things.
    "smile a lot can let us ride happy,it is good thing"

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    • #22
      I hate when that happens and yes, it happens to all of us, and your friends are real pills for not realizing that. Karma will be visited upon them, just smile when you see them and wait.

      Meanwhile about your incident, these things come out of no where, which is why a really good policy to have is "think of everything". Don't leave a girth loose; don't leave a stirrup untied so it can slip down and bang them, don't wear sneakers longeing, always wear your helmet, etc., ect., Just do your best and add this one to the list of always check the girth.

      another thing about a loose girth is when he's cantering, the saddle will move around on him, and be very uncomfortable. Its like wearing tied hiking boots and not lacing them up tight, leaving them loose. As you walk, you will get blisters, but if they are tight they don't move around on your skin.

      You learned. Keep going. I know you feel guilty. Get some carrots for the boy, and give him a nice warm bath or soak his hurt leg or something. Feed him a carrot every time you go by, and he'll be your new best friend.
      My warmbloods have actually drunk mulled wine in the past. Not today though. A drunk warmblood is a surly warmblood. - WildandWickedWarmbloods

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      • #23
        Originally posted by Ash_757 View Post
        Not online people I actually know. Mostly telling me I don't know what I'm doing and that I should have my horses taken away . I even got called a female dog and other choice words.
        Wow. Are these people you know, family? If they are friends, you need to stop being friends with them. Everyone makes mistakes. If they can't see the simple logic of making stupid mistakes, they are too dumb to be your friends.

        If they are your family, I'm sorry. I don't have a good suggestion. I would try to keep a distance from them, but I don't know whether that is possible. Again, they are too dumb for their words to be meaningful.

        By the way, I have had saddles turn upside down to the horse' belly. Sometimes the girth is tight when you first do up, but becomes loose when the horse warms up. That one incident teaches me to check the girth several times in one session. Your mistake isn't really that rare, you know.

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        • #24
          Everyone makes mistakes, and horses are just looking for a way to help you learn! They shouldn't judge you harshly for that...

          Recently my mare was scooting around in the crossties, tried to itch a buttcheek on the stall door next to her, and got her foot hooked in the halter hanging on the door. I have no idea how long she stood there (I was helping a kid pick her pony's feet about 15 feet away), back leg cocked like it's on a farrier's stand with her fetlock looped in the halter's noseband.... could've been much worse. Now I move the halters when I cross tie in an area in front of stalls.
          Last edited by ohmissbrittany; Dec. 7, 2015, 02:05 PM. Reason: b
          Love my red mare

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          • #25
            If you plan to continue riding and working with horses (which I hope you do), you need to get a little more comfortable with being humiliated in front of others by unpredictable, misbehaving horses.

            We've all been there, we've all made mistakes--or even just tiny lapses of attention or judgement that had bad consequences. I'll take an embarrassing, horrifying scene over a horse getting hurt any day, though. So count your lucky stars that the horse is okay, and next time you longe a horse lock up any loose dogs, make sure the stirrups are run, up, and tighten that girth.

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            • #26
              Sounds like the folks at the barn are over-reacting. Do you have good control of your horse on the lunge under normal circumstances? If your, or your horse's, confidence is shaken by this incident, might be worth asking your trainer for a few lunging lessons, so you can be sure you're doing everything as correctly and safely as possible. It might also shut up the Negative Nellies, when they see you take a scary accident and trying to learn from it.

              Also, the running, crazy bucking, and stuck foot sound like they took a toll on your horse. May be worth having a chiro out to adjust him and make sure no physical damage or misalignment resulted.

              But if you love horses, don't give up. We've all had our share of scary accidents, or dozens of them.
              A good man can make you feel sexy, strong, and able to take on the world.... oh, sorry.... that's wine...wine does that...

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              • #27
                Stuff happens (and usually it is in front of people to your nicest horse )

                I'll share my horror, a week before Devon I cross tied my mare in my outdoor washrack. Wait- there was a horse IN the washrack so I looped the lead around the rail and grabbed a bucket. THATFAST she pulled back and then galloped around the farm attached to the rail. In front of customers. Yes, even seasoned horsepeople have brain farts and do things we tell people A MILLION TIMES NOT TO DO.

                She was fine, but it rattled me to the core. and I KNEW better. She was antsy in the outdoor washrack (tied properly) but she got over it. No thanks to her mother who almost killed her. (and no one ever said a blessed word to me about it other than "How is your mare")
                Come to the dark side, we have cookies

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                • #28
                  Originally posted by Prime Time Rider View Post
                  This is an example why I don't believe dogs should be free to roam around barns (and yes, I have a dog).
                  If a horse/s aren't kept in a "padded" stall and a "sterile" environment they generally won't over react to a barking dog. a few dogs running around the general area.

                  I am not talking about a "pack" of dogs nor a dog chasing or nipping at a horse's heels. Just dogs being dogs with decent "horse manners".

                  We have a large population of TBs. Our dogs run through their fields/paddocks from time to time and non of them blink.

                  Our J-Rs hang out in the ring when working with horses from time to time. J-Rs can be J-Rs from time to time and the horses being schooled pay little to no attention to them.

                  As far as I am concerned it is part of their learning process. Seems to me they need to stay focused and not easily distracted by such silly things. Because they are going to encounter far more distractions, spooky things in the years to come.

                  Especially if they might be a decent field hunter prospect. As in fox and hounds. Lots of hounds, lots of barking (cry) hounds.

                  As always to each their own on these things.

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                  • #29
                    OP, as others have said, these things happen, live and learn. We all learn from our mistakes.

                    Though some seem to think they are the "chosen ones", born without sin and have never made a bad/poor choice.

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                    • #30
                      I agree, stuff happens to the best of us. You have to forgive yourself and not blame the horse. It was scared. He needs to be worked through and past it.

                      If you can't do it yourself, get a trainer to help you.

                      The only fall that really scared me was the one I can't remember. I have no idea 6 yrs later what set the horse off. We were out hacking and all I remember is taking him out. Still don't remember getting back to the barn. I was awake but did not know who or where I was.

                      I sold him to someone who could work with him. I just couldn't get my confidence back. But I was fine with my next horse.

                      I fallen off many different horses over the years. But if I know WHY something happened like the saddle slipping back I am able to deal with it. And I don't care what others think.

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                      • #31
                        I do a lot of "live auditing" in my real job. I have moved our company's thinking to calling it "field observation" and there are no "fails" - rather just "non-compliances". Why? No, it isn't PC gone mad - it actually changes how the field technician sees my role on site. And, I have had some really out-there ones.

                        OP - we have allbeen there in relation to making a mistake. We are humans.

                        Mine was riding my forward-going mare out on the road and realising 10kms into the ride (after a lot of cantering along grass verges ) why I could feel my pony tail moving a lot more. I was wearing a cap and not my helmet. Why? I was riding my "older mare", I had tapped my brow and felt the peak of the helmet.

                        So, OP, you have learnt:
                        1) Always check your saddle/girth before work and after the initial warm-up.
                        2) De-sensitise your horse to barking dogs (and other things - it may not have been a dog but an umbrella)
                        3) Train, train and train a solid "STOP!" command into your horse.

                        SO, go and train 2 and 3. Have a nice glass of wine if you have to before hand.
                        Right, lessons learnt, training to be done
                        Still Working_on_it - one day I will get it!

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                        • #32
                          Hey, this stuff happens sometimes. I agree with earlier comments: apologize to your horse. It seems silly, but I really do think they understand our intent. Also, it helps our own brains come to grips with what happened and to be able to move on.

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                          • #33
                            There is a difference between a good, responsible horseman having an accident (even if it involved a momentary brain-fart) and a pattern of mishaps that comes from someone being in over their head. I am in no position to judge where you fall on this spectrum, but this is the only question you need to ask yourself -- was this a one-off flukey mistake, or are you and your horse an "accident waiting to happen"? No one has a right to call you names or be cruel to you -- that's mean and unproductive. But are the railbirds just jerks trying to take you down, or are they genuinely concerned that you and/or your horse are heading for disaster?

                            Not trying to dump on you, OP. Sorry this happened to you, and if it's a one-off, don't beat yourself up; be grateful it wasn't worse; we all make mistakes, and your horse will forgive you. If it's more than that, maybe it's time to reflect on what you are doing and if you are going down the right path with this horse. Good luck
                            I don't mind if you call me a snowflake, 'cause baby, I know a blizzard is coming.

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