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  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by deltawave:
    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> The most your parents have to give you is food, shelter, clothes, and love. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    And before these "woe is me, my parents won't give me MORE" threads go even further, can we all stop and put things in a little perspective by thinking about the kids for whom above items #1, 2 and 3 are a struggle??

    Reality check over. We now return you to your regularly scheduled poverty-free life.
    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    Exactly. Exactly. But parents who are well off, often lack that perspective themselves, and are utterly unable to convey it to children. As I mentioned, being self centred and self interested is inherent to adolescence, but it strikes me that very few people grow out of it, and are then surprised that their kids are spoiled monsters.

    And just for the sake of credibility (not to say I wasn't a spoiled brat in other ways)- I grew up in a family that brought home MAYBE 25 grand american after taxes. So as you can imagine, I was lucky to get a riding lesson here or there.

    Marge, with today's gasoline prices, we can't afford NOT to buy a pony!
    Marge, with today\'s gasoline prices, we can\'t afford NOT to buy a pony!

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      <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by breezymeadow:
      I knew it was just too good to be true that this was just a troll-vent.

      How very, very sad that this is a REAL post by a REAL person. Good Lord how I pity her parents. . . . .

      (and how much I would LOVE for them to see this spoiled brat's post here. . . . )

      My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
      That hurt my feelings.

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      • JUST THINK - how much more obnoxious this "person" will be once she has "wheels" at her disposal.

        I am "sure" that she will be helping out her mom all the time right? Grocery shopping, doctor visits. . . .right????

        Right.

        My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".

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          <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by breezymeadow:
          JUST THINK - how much more obnoxious this "person" will be once she has "wheels" at her disposal.

          I am "sure" that she will be helping out her mom all the time right? Grocery shopping, doctor visits. . . .right????

          Right.

          My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
          I am NOT a bad person. I may be rude, but I am not bad. I love my mom and even if it doesn't seem like it, I do help around the house and I do say "please" and "thank you".

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            I am sorry again, to come off as a brat.
            My mom is not lazy, I have had that drilled into my heads by you all. I understand that now.
            She is not lazy, okay?

            I am just angry because this is a frustrating thing for me when I am trying to train and condition her and I can't get out there. But since I already said that, I won't bring it up again.

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            • BTF's mother is clinically depressed and on meds. This is obviously hard on the mother but it's hard to have a parent with this kind of disorder. BTF has to cope with things other teenagers don't. Perhaps that is why she has so much invested in the horse. It's her safety valve. Also, I think BTF also said she is on meds. Perhaps she really needs this horse right now. Aside from this, we don't know BTF's mother.

              Tosca

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                <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by tosca4711:
                BTF's mother is clinically depressed and on meds. This is obviously hard on the mother but it's hard to have a parent with this kind of disorder. BTF has to cope with things other teenagers don't. Perhaps that is why she has so much invested in the horse. It's her safety valve. Also, I think BTF also said she is on meds. Perhaps she really needs this horse right now. Aside from this, we don't know BTF's mother.

                Tosca<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
                You have a PT, Tosca.

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                • BTF - I have a couple of other suggestions, since my bus suggestion went by the way side. A. as everyone says you do sound spoiled. Your obviously in high school and old enough to have a job - so get one. b. Who cares if you like housework you should be doing the whole house if your mother has a hurt shoulder for goodness sake! c. sit down and discuss what days you will ride and on the other days do something else, run, bike, something to show you are really into being a good rider/athlete. d. try to get your mom involved in horses.

                  When I started riding (and had gotten my first horse) I got up 2 hours before school and cleaned the entire house everyday. Then afterschool I worked, about 40 hrs a week, I paid for everything. My mom took me to the barn 5 days a week, I was lucky. But in the same sense I included her. She liked to brush and graze and even give my horse bathes so I let her - even though it slowed me down. Though I certainly never asked her too. At shows I let her me involved in the whole thing and along the way she made friends with other girls at my barn moms. That way she began to enjoy taking me to the barn as it was fun and relaxing for her too, not just me. Also, I maitained a 4.0, even if it meant staying after school on top of everything. So, though you may not think you are sounding spoiled, you do. Put things in perspective. I have a friend, who is a foster kid that I teach, she is lucky to even be able to touch a horse and is thankful for the one ride a week on an old stiff horse. At least you have two parents, a home, and a horse. Horses are not everything. Your mom is probably doing you a favor by not taking you to the barn everyday. Use the days you can't ride to build your grades and a college resume! Ok, I've gone on long enough.

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                  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by b0rntofly:

                    I am NOT a bad person. I may be rude, but I am not bad. I love my mom and even if it doesn't seem like it, I do help around the house and I do say "please" and "thank you".

                    Proud member of the Teen Clique<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                    Eh, BTF, you're not a bad person, just a typical teenager. Honestly, the ones that most of us are describing are NOT typical.

                    I was pretty bratty as a teen. I specifically recall one christmas that I asked for stirrups leathers. I had saved, bought my own saddle and stirrups but I still needed leathers. I didn't get them. Boy did he$$ fly when I said something about not getting them on Christmas morning.

                    I now look back and know that $70 for stirrup leathers was 70% of my mom's budget for my christmas presents and that she didn't want to spend that large a sum on one item. But I was still a spoiled brat in my reaction. Hindsight is 20/20.

                    If you really want to make it out to the barn more, YOU have to make it happen, not relying on someone else to make it happen for you. Find a way. YOU can do it. Bike, ride a bus, walk, work harder at home. Many people have posted to you how they made stuff happen for themselves...lessons, owning a horse, etc. If you want it bad enough, you will find a way to do it yourself. Right now, you don't want it that bad. You want someone to give it to you. Until you make that next step (which is really growing up just little more) you will feel frustrated and trapped by your parents and what they are and aren't willing to do for you.

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                      See thing is, my mom loves my horse. She loves to come out there and go for a bareback stroll while I lead her, loves to feed her carrots, love to...be around her. When she wants to go out, that is.

                      Anyway, sorry I waysided your bus idea, Lochness. I haven't read all of them--just skimmed.

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                        Well I don't want to be typical.

                        Proud member of the Teen Clique

                        [referring to RugBug]


                        [This message was edited by b0rntofly on Jan. 20, 2004 at 05:34 PM.]
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                        • AGAIN - I assume that 6 months from now you will be posting here telling us how much you are helping out your mom with your new wheels - aside from giving said mom "rides" on your horsey. . . .

                          My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".

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                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by breezymeadow:
                            AGAIN - I assume that 6 months from now you will be posting here telling us how much you are helping out your mom with your new wheels - aside from giving said mom "rides" on your horsey. . . .

                            My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
                            Thank you for being rude.

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                            Pay Big Tacky Jay
                            1998 Registered Bay QH Mare
                            {Run Tacky Jay x Pay The Big Jay}

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                              I'll check this again in the morning.

                              Again, thank you all for your suggestions.

                              Tosca--You have a PT!
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                              Pay Big Tacky Jay
                              1998 Registered Bay QH Mare
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                              • Not "rude" at all. Read back thru all of your past posts if you want to read "rude".

                                I really feel sorry for your mom. At your age, you have your own horse - which is more than many at your age on this board have - & you are WHINING on a public posting board that your mom won't drive you to the barn as frequently as you would like.

                                BooHoo - Poor you. Again, I say - when you GROW UP, post here & let us know how it went. . . .

                                (Oh, & "Proud Member of the Teen Clique"? PLEASE - you are doing a real disservice to the teens here who appreciate what they have without whining about it. Don't really think you're a member in good standing. . . .)

                                My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".

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                                • Okay, I skimmed most of this. But speaking as a 20-something stepmom of a teenager...

                                  I am SO HAPPY when I come home from a looong day's work and discover that my teenager has VOLUNTARILY done something around the house. Like pick up the cups he leaves around, or vacuum, or clean his bathroom.

                                  It is _amazing_ how this brightens my day. Because otherwise I would have to ask him to do these things. And usually he will tense up in this special way he has that lets me know he is not rolling his eyes or heaving a big sigh at me, he is keeping it all inside so he won't get in trouble. I know he hates doing chores.

                                  I hate asking him, cause I know he doesn't like it. But seriously, at some point, he's got to clean the bathroom before monsters start breeding in there.

                                  All of this is to say~ just try it. In my house, doing some chores is worth big gold stars. It tells me he knows what he has to do/what needs doing around the house and is showing some sign of maturity by doing it.

                                  And because I don't have to spend the time fretting over him not doing it, or doing it myself, I have time to bake him cookies or take him places. Good luck.
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                                  • Bliss - you ain't gonna instil this sort of stellar behavior in this twit. She apparently feels that the sun & moon rise & set over her & her horsey.

                                    And on top of it all, she wants the rest of us to feel sorry for her. Boo Hoo

                                    My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".

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                                    • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>you're not a bad person, just a typical teenager. Honestly, the ones that most of us are describing are NOT typical.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                      A typical teenager? It never would have crossed my mind to be this ungrateful to my parents, and if I had, well, I wouldn't have a horse any more. My friends, who are also teenagers, ride and have their own horse (and much more), and they are not rude or ungrateful to their parents. My brother's friends, many of whom are very well off, are respectful and thankful of their parents. I don't think it's typical behavior at all - to me, that's just an excuse to act sullen and obnoxious and self-absorbed.

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                                      • Yikes, breezymeadow, did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed today? I'm all for calling a spade a spade, but namecalling really isn't necessary, nor is it helpful.

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                                        • Not that I know of - lol!

                                          But must say that if I were this young lady's parent(s), a "Horse For Sale" ad would be in the next day's paper.

                                          You are apparently more tolerant of snotty adolescent behavior than I am. . . .

                                          My body is a temple - unfortunately, it's a "fixer-upper".

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