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  • #21
    How awful!! I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Godspeed Sebastian (love that name, btw)

    A Merrick N Dream Farm
    Proud Member of "Someone Special to me serves in the Military" Clique


    • Original Poster

      Wow... Thank you all SO much for the love and support.

      This one has left a huge whole in my heart. He was the first that was truly "mine." I was one of those kids who mucked and groomed in exchange for riding privileges... I was in my 30s before I could afford my own.

      This was taken last April as we embraced our new career as a Dressage horse.


      He finally felt like he'd found his calling. Granted he was one of the most talented jumpers I'd ever sat on, but I think he'd had a poor start and never quite recovered enough to truly enjoy jumping. But, as soon as he was taught dressage, he was a different horse. A happy horse.

      I didn't explain too well earlier, but a good friend of mine, one of the sweetest souls I've ever met, had recently taken him home to be her full-time dressage horse. They were a wonderful match, a true "love" bond and lots to offer one another. It makes me so sad that they only really had about 6 months together.

      What do they say, life happens while we make plans???

      Thanks again for all your caring words...
      Seb & Christine
      Aca-Believe it!!


      • #23
        GReat picture!! So sorry.


        • #24
          Oh, as if I wasn't shedding tears for you already...that photo is loffly.

          My sincerest condolences.

          Godspeed Sebastian
          ** I LOVE PUIKA & SHELLA FAN CLUB*** member
          Originally posted by 2DogsFarm
          Good job R&G!
          You may now add Horsesaver Extraordinaire to your resume


          • #25
            I am so sorry for your loss . It's very hard. I still tear up when I read about other people losing their too-young horses. I know I was planning to ride mine for at least another 10 years when I lost him.
            Equine Ink - My soapbox for equestrian writings & reviews.
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            • #26
              I am so sorry for your loss! You must be devastated...jingling for you here in VA!
              Ridge Farm Inc.-full care retirement


              • #27
                i am sorry for your loss. i just went thru losing my retired eventer 2 weeks ago, i think about him everyday. RIP seb.

                ride it like you stole it! "ralph hill"


                • #28
                  So so sorry, big hugs.

                  But you did absolutely the right thing by him. I know - saying things like, "Well, he didn't suffer" doesn't help much, does it?

                  I hope that in time, you come to think of him only with joy and warmth, and not with sadness and grief. I promise you, the day will come. And in the meantime, sadly, there are plenty here who grieve with you.
                  a 501(c)3 organization helping 501(c)3 equine rescues


                  • #29
                    I am so terribly sorry. Godspeed Sebastian.
                    \"If you are going through hell, keep going.\" ~Churchill~


                    • #30
                      I'm so sorry for your loss. What a lovely picture of such a handsome boy.

                      (BTW - you rocked over in off-topic day!)


                      • #31
                        So sorry for your loss.

                        Losing one is so hard, but sudden and unexpected . . . feels like a big ole train mowed you down

                        You were such a good mommie to love him for who he was and not make him fit in a box of your making. He wanted a new career so you changed with him.

                        Many hugs coming your way.
                        \"Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it.\" Anne of Green Gables


                        • #32
                          Oh no Seb! I am so sorry! Hugs to you my friend!

                          Godspeed to your namesake!


                          Rerider/Haydunker Clique

                          RIP Barbaro, you were my hero!


                          • #33
                            I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose them unexpectedly.
                            RIP Sebastian.


                            • #34
                              What a handsome horse he was. He really does look happy in that picture, and very graceful. I hope that is some comfort to you. I am very sorry for your loss.


                              • #35
                                I'm sorry for your loss. Better days are ahead.
                                "My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world." ~ Jack Layton


                                • Original Poster

                                  Thanks again to all of you.

                                  Today is a little better, the sad heavy feelings are still there, but at least I don't spontaneously explode into water works as easily.

                                  I know it will take time... I just appreciate being able to wallow in a crowd like COTH that truly understands. Also, also I must acknowledge my barn mates who are wonderful caring people as well...

                                  Aca-Believe it!!


                                  • #37
                                    And it will still happen.

                                    Right after the new year, we had our traditional barn party and exchanged small gifts. One woman at our barn lost her beautiful warmblood Toby to progressive melanomas, and he had to be euthanized last summer. We presented her with one of Ida's beautiful memory pots. At the party, she gave everyone a small box, and had us open the boxes at the same time, after her announcement, where she thanked us for our support (and of course she was crying). Inside the box was a gorgeous key chain made with hair from Toby's tail. We were all verklempt at that point!

                                    Let those who understand share your grief and help you through.
                                    a 501(c)3 organization helping 501(c)3 equine rescues


                                    • #38
                                      I'm so, so sorry. *HUGS*

                                      I loff my Quarter horse clique

                                      I kill threads dead!


                                      • #39
                                        Sosorry you are having to go through this. Godspeed.
                                        Speak kind words,receive kind echos