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  • DL! ROFLMAO...

    Every day when I drive out to the barn, I pass a paintball place. Ladies, if you are actively on the prowl, go play paintball!!!! The place near me is crawling with guys all the time. It's a total madhouse on the weekends, completely packed.
    "I did know once, only I've sort of forgotten." - Winnie the Pooh

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    • Dancing Lawn--not only does he need to be super obscenely grossly rich, he hopefully travels a lot...like 11.5 months out of the year.
      "I'm not crazy...my mother had me tested"

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      • And have 9 out of 10 toes in the grave...
        ~ British Men Appreciation Clique ~

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        • okay, so I take it we're all agreed, I did the right thing in turning him down?
          To give him credit, he didn't have excessive facial hair.

          now, single men, take note: Going OUT on a date does NOT mean I slave away in the kitchen to make YOU a home-cooked meal.
          Going OUT on a date means YOU take ME OUT to a nice french restaurant, (or reasonable facsimile), you actually make an effort to come to MY house and pick me up, NOT in your farm pick-up truck , and we GO somewhere special.
          Going OUT on a hot date means you shave, and make yourself reasonably presentable. You engage in pleasant conversation, and take an interest in what I have to say. By the same token, I will show up in something other than my barn clothes, and I'll even do my nails and put on make-up. I'll be charming, and witty, and appreciate your choice of wine with dinner. (as long as its not Chianti, or something of its ilk.)
          At the END of the DATE, you will drive me home, escort me to my door, and wish me good night.
          We may, or may not, exchange a friendly good night kiss. Do NOT expect me to invite you in the first time, do NOT grab my ass at any time during this all-important first DATE. This will deny you any access to the coveted SECOND date.

          If you do all those things, and behave in a charming,gentlemanly manner, and use good grammar, you could very possibly have the chance of a second date!

          OR am I asking too much?
          LESS HARD WORK, MORE FINE DINING!™
          complicate, obfuscate, prevaricate.

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          • dancinglawn...have we been out dating the same guys? Your date sounds eerily familiar....

            I especially like the guys who are professional, quite well to do, we go out for something light, bill is under $15, when the check comes they make a huge stink about why is it that the man always pays (because I am supplying the wit, the humor, and the class, my dear, although I didn't realize that when I was younger)...

            I am going out to see my horse, who sadly, has more emotional competence than any guy I have dated in the past 10 years. And remember, he was abused on thetrack, so it's not like he doesn't have issues. But at least I don't mind doing his laundrey or cooking for him.

            Maybe I need to change my sig line to reflect my nun for science status?
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            a 501(c)3 organization helping 501(c)3 equine rescues

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            • How about trying to convert them to be horsey too?

              I've ridden horses since I was 7 years old and when I met my husband he'd never even sat on a horse. A few years into the relationship I got him to take a few lessons so he could enjoy the dude ranch vacation we were going on and he just kept going. Now 4 years later we're married and have 2 horses and now we BOTH live at the barn!!

              Although I think I found one of the few good ones that are out there!

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              • ohh,, I have some UNBELEIVABLE Date horror stories. just when you think you've heard the worst, I can tell you another one!
                the best ones, are, unfortunately, not entirely suitable for this BB, as there are young people on it. although it would be entertaining to see their eyes bubble if they read them! If I ever get around to writing that book, maybe I'll put them in it.
                LESS HARD WORK, MORE FINE DINING!™
                complicate, obfuscate, prevaricate.

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                • LOL, There is hope for those unfortunate men who want the woman to cook.

                  Recently my roommate and I made dinner for a couple of guy friends (we ride with one of them and he's definitely the "good" kind of cowboy). Anyway, Mr. Cowboy brought along his twin brother for a nice homecooked meal.

                  I should preface the rest of this by noting that I'm not much of a cook. I tend to be a little bit unorthodox in my methods of cooking, but it usually turns out okay. Anyway, all I had to do was act like I was thinking about cutting up vegetables, and suddenly Mr. Cowboy *insisted* that I let him (he knows how clumsy I am and I guess the sight of me with a very big knife was enough to entice him to, well, do it for me).

                  I ended up working on the ground beef (we were planning tacos) and I was midway through browning it with a big wooden spoon-like utensil (do those have a name?) when Mr. Cowboy's brother started looking nervous. He came over to inspect the meat and sort of delicately removed the spoon-like utensil from my hand and ushered me over to chair, offered me some chips and salsa and then, with a look of relief, insisted on finishing the cooking.

                  As easy as that, they were cooking for us and looking happy about it! And it was a very nice homecooked meal .

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                  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Briarrose:
                    Okay, who was it who knew about the 60 year old single guy in the Montana? Some of us are not in our 30s or even 40s anymore. And I'm not into the Demi/Ashton thing? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                    Briarrose, you have a PT.
                    Ride Mustangs - An American Original!

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                    • cdc, that sounds nice. Delightful, in fact.

                      But, read my tag line.

                      I'm holding out for the fine french quisine.
                      LESS HARD WORK, MORE FINE DINING!™
                      complicate, obfuscate, prevaricate.

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                      • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I especially like the guys who are professional, quite well to do, we go out for something light, bill is under $15, when the check comes they make a huge stink about why is it that the man always pays </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                        Because it helps to even out the male/female same-work-different-wage bias that still exists
                        Blugal

                        You never know what kind of obsessive compulsive crazy person you are until another person imitates your behaviour at a three-day. --Gry2Yng

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                        • My husband thinks a poll should be created - best places to meet a guy.

                          He also thinks that if you set up a COTHsingles.com he knows quite a few men who will pay for that 20,000 women to 400 men ratio. Although he says "he's not saying anything about the quality of these guys".

                          I met him on ICQ, BTW. Not a horsey guy, he refers to Secretariat as "Superglue" but he does help me carry buckets around and I've seen him sneak treats to the pony.

                          And I think eHarmony is a good thing - my best friend, a wonderful but quirky human being has dated 3 men in her 35 years. She's marrying boyfriend #3 in July and they met on... you guessed it, eHarmony.

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                          • Really eHarmony. I'm just recently seperated and not sure if I'm ready for online dating. I'd still feel more comfortable with being set up even on a blind date before that route.....

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                            • Be prepared for eHarmony to take over a year to give you your first "match ..."

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                              • I can't speak from personal experience with eHarmony, but for my friend, she has her first match pretty quickly, within a month. It took her about 6 months or so to meet her now fiance but I am very happy for her and I know "traditional" dating methods (whatever those are) probably wouldn't have been the way to go with her.

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                                • You could always have your parents set you up. &gt;oh. no evil horns emoticon. pretend there's one here.&lt;

                                  I'm not kidding, though. I -independent, don't like/need/want men (usually prefer girls, go figure)/not looking, have a job, a horse, etc.- fell completely, head over heels in lust with the dude my parents thought would be perfect for me, and married him a few years later.

                                  Please, no comments on my lack of independence/sexuality or pure all-out cheesiness of doing so. He's hot. And he COOKS. He's cooking me dinner right now. And he worked all day, while I slept late, surfed the 'net, went to the barn for several hours - and he thinks he's the lucky one.

                                  No kidding.
                                  The artist's coming into being is delivered as an aesthetic experience. -J. Ransome

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                                  • i've got my eye on one whose dog is to him what my horses are to me..... and who has another hobby as well. Unfortunately, nothing will ever come of that save hopefully a good friendship.

                                    But maybe that's the key - someone who has their own hobbies, and who understands in SOME way what the horse means.



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                                    • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">.

                                      As easy as that, they were cooking for us and looking happy about it! And it was a very nice homecooked meal . </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
                                      Those are the type to consider keeping!

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                                      • I think that finding the right person is as much about yourself and what you do as it is about them and where you find them.

                                        1. You've got the be secure and confident in yourself. This means no self-deprication, no complaining about being single all the time, and coming to the realization that - no matter what happens in your life - you will take control of your own happiness whether or not you find a man.

                                        2. Stop husband-shopping. Meet someone and see where it goes. If he smells the scent of "I have a 12 month plan to move in / get engaged / get married / start procreating / start saving for our retirement in Boca" he's going to run away, even if he does like you. Don't try to get serious before it's time.

                                        3. Do things you like and want to try. If you hate the idea of mountain biking, don't join a club just to meet men. If you'd like to try it, go for it! Do something! Mr. Right will not come knocking on your door looking for you sitting at home (or in your office). Well, unless of course he works for FedEx.

                                        4. Smile at people! Yes, everywhere you go is a potential meet-market. (Yes, I mean "meet" not "meat" - they're men and we want to meet them, unlike the hot pieces of meat in the sexy eventers calendar). Seriously, a smile is an invitation for them to say hello. Don't be shy and run away when you see a cute guy or stare and not smile. If he makes eye contact, smile and say hello. Couldn't hurt.

                                        5. Get over your fear of online dating. It's no less cliched than meeting someone in a bar. I met nicer people online than I ever did in bars, I have to say. Be smart about it, though.

                                        6. If you are dating someone, make time for them and their hobbies. We all share a very time-consuming and important hobby, but our SOs have interests separate and apart from that. Yes, they should be willing to talk about your hobby, too, but I find nothing less boring than someone who can only hold a conversation about horses - or only about one subject at all. If the guy I dated only talked about, say, baseball, all the time, I'd get bored. Watch how much you talk about the horses. This doesn't apply to everyone... but I know so many women who will go on and on ad naseum about their horses. Yes, it's fun - more fun with horsey people... but there's a whole world out there, too. Being well rounded is just simply important in all aspects of life. I love my horses and love talking about them - but I love good conversation in general.

                                        7. Be yourself. You'll never meet the one for you while playing head games and trying to be someone else or trying to be whoever it is you think they want you to be. There's someone out there for YOU. You should be yourself so you can find him.

                                        Now, you can all ignore my advice... 'cause I'm still single!

                                        Oh, and whoever was saying 24 wasn't mature or whatever... Uh, I'll be 24 for another few months. I have a doctoral degree and a stable job with a six figure salary. Not all of us are emotionally immature and financially / personally unstable. Unfortunately, the vast majority of us are! Finding the rare, mature 20-something year old is darn near impossible... and I'm not quite ready to be dating anyone over 34...


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