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  • #41
    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">My son's 24 and single </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

    And? Since when is a 24 year old any kind of a stable prospect? When I was that age, 34 was beginning to become emotionally mature enough to interact with.

    I like all the suggestions. Especially the feed store part. A farmer (beef, sheep, hell, even hay) or land owner who putters around on his land and works on his tractors and stuff is a good candidate. OK, so, if I want to hang around at the tractor repair place, I need a reason to be there. Guess I better go buy a tractor. Hey. That's why I want a man. I want someone who would buy me a tractor. This isn't working...
    __________________
    Where am I going, and why am I in this handbasket?

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    • #42
      Talk to the other women at the barn. Let them know that you are looking. Someone may know someone else, and who knows where it will go.

      I met my SO, because I was telling one of the other women at our barn that it is so hard to meet men in our town. Within a month, she had someone she wanted to introduce me to.

      We have now been seeing each other for 10 months. He wasn't horsey when we met, but loved animals. Knew right up front that horses are my life. He now calls the horses the kids and always has treats in his pockets.

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      • #43
        &lt;- Is 21, single, STRAIGHT, and looking. Old pictures in my Webshots, I no longer have facial hair...

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        • #44
          When I was still dating my husband I convinced him to buy a horse... he kept her at my barn Now 7 1/2 years later he is still helping me out in the barn, he makes up feed and cleans/fills water buckets while I pick stalls. He is pretty good with the horses, just a tad nervous at times, but totally loves the critters. He is also supportive of my riding... almost too much (if there is such a thing) . Oh, and did I mention he is a lawyer (and a Marine Officer... which has it's own benefits such as free medical if I have a bad fall...)... so he is the oat winner for the horses too

          My advice (take it or leave it)... is to find a guy who is willing to learn about horses. Convince him to maybe take a couple of animal related classed with you if you have a Jr. College near by... make horsey friends together and let it go from there. Also be willing to share other than horse interest too .
          \"For all those men who say, \"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,\" here\'s an update for you: Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it\'s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.\"-

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          • #45
            I totally agree with the 'take a class' idea.

            In my case I was teaching the class (dog obedience) when I met my husband. He knew nothing about horses and was afraid of them. But, has turned around and is talking about starting lessons and is more than willing to help me with c chores and such.

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            • #46
              Get thee a geek! Mine's wonderful. While he has a tendency to get firmly lodged in his "computer/work" box, he's very supportive of my riding and has footed the bill for pretty much everything I've had to get since getting back into horses. He calls my riding "pony Prozac" and he knows it's what makes me really happy (aside from him).
              I'm slowly trying to introduce him to horses, and he's been pretty receptive so far. The only thing he absolutely refuses to do is wear those tight pants. So he's learning Western on a great QH and watching me attempt a start at eventing.
              Our schedules seem to work pretty well -- he likes to work in the evenings, and I can usually ride at least a few evenings a week, and then I can be gone most of the day on Saturday and he's perfectly happy to do computer things. (I would specify but I really have no idea what he does.)

              He's also very thoughtful and kind, and commonly leaves me little notes in my purse in the mornings and buys me Ben & Jerry's (not that I need him to keep doing that! ).
              Full-time bargain hunter.

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              • #47
                I found mine on the internet. Long story and I won't tell it here, but he was the only one I looked at. He lived 15 minutes from me and his dream was to own a farm.
                Chronicles of the $700 Pony
                The Further Adventures of the $700 Pony
                www.blithetraveler.com <-- My Blog

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                • #48
                  <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Reynard Ridge:
                  he was the only one I looked at. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  RR - Sounds like my last horse shopping trip!

                  I'm part of the "love a geek" clique. In fact, I married one!

                  I also think the online sites are a great resource. Friends of mine have had success through match.com.

                  e-harmony sounds like a great site if you are looking for a long term relationship (from the commercials constantly playing, anyway)

                  good luck!

                  -Flip

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                  • #49
                    Maybe you need to pack up and move to Europe...

                    Many farm boys can't find a wife to move to the country...

                    If you enjoy the farm work...you can keep the furry kids at home, and go to affordable shows nearly every weekend...

                    On the downs side, you may need to put up with cows or pigs...driving tractors is definitly a must...many allready do the horse thing as well...

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                    • #50
                      Stay away from musicians.

                      Unless, if by sensitive you meant jack*sses. Most if not all of the ones I do were the emotional sort, but they were emotionally abusive as well. And they all had really awful little bands that they though would make it big.

                      I met a nice lawyer at a party, and after dating one nice guy, I started dating people that were nice to me.
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                      They're small hearts.

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                      • #51
                        Shall I share with you all the unsolicited advice I received from relatives at Christmas concerning where to find them?

                        You can find eligible bachelors anywhere. The problem is finding independent, thinking, eligible bachelors who know how to function without having someone constantly hold their hand and don't complain 24/7. That's primarily why I'm single - no tolerance for whiners, players, the overly image conscious, or those lacking in common sense. And who the fruitbat ever decided men should have a feminine side?
                        "I did know once, only I've sort of forgotten." - Winnie the Pooh

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                        • #52
                          I married a geek too! They're just as obsessive as we are! Just less of a tan!
                          Grab mane and kick on!

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                          • #53
                            If you can, join a gym - you will meet all types of men there esp. in the free weight area. You have to circulate not just do step classes and such. Lots of smart business men go to the gym where I work out. You can have your pick, older, younger, gorgeous hard bodies! It's not true that all guys who work out are muscle heads just people who like to stay healthy and fit. (look at that plastic surgeon on Dr. 90210 - Dr. Rey - he's hot, smart and a great personality and he's in excellent shape)

                            To make it horse related I started going to the gym religiously because not only is it good cross training but building muscle is a good way to protect your body from those little horsey "mishaps" like getting slammed into the ground or flung into a tree!

                            I like my men TALL - 5'10" is minimum for me. I like wearing my heels!

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                            • #54
                              <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stephjm:
                              Warning, you do have to put up with firefighter humor, especially around other firefighters.
                              </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                              Don't be shy. Tell us a few.
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                              Starts with an 'S,' ends with a 'T.' You figure it out.

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                              "Houston, Tranquility Base here, picking up where we left off ..."

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                              • #55
                                Some of your guys are funny... You do not HAVE TO find a horsey man to take your love for your horse into consideration. If your man is truly "all about you" he would take your horses in with the same love that he has for you. I know this is a pipe dream for some but not for me. My non horsie b/f is the first one to hold, trailer, help me with my horse when I need him too. He does it because he loves me.

                                Love me, love my horse.

                                But as far as meeting people that are horsie, I would say, become a member of your local or wider organizations where meetings are held. Go to rodeos (step out of your normal h/j world)... they are out there and lonly too.... all because of theee beasties that we love so.~

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                                • #56
                                  1) Stop looking... this is a must. As soon as you stop thinking about it, one will appear. And;

                                  2)When you do find one, make sure he has his own time consuming hobby. That way he won't mind all of the time you spend at the barn.

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                                    #57
                                    Stop Looking....
                                    Well I did and that is how I found my last or uhh is it current boyfriend? I am only asking this question because while he loves the horses and is handy around the barn, loves to ride and will help me with anything, he said he wants a break! It all started when he moved back home in the few weeks leading up to us moving into our apartment. Needless to say he has never lived with a girl before and got cold feet. I found a roommate and figured everything would go on. One week he is talking about me moving to Arizona with him when he goes to Diesel School the next he goes out with his buddies and decides he wants a break but sure doesn't want me seeing anyone else while he does it. Even though he is the best guy I have ever dated one thing I have learned is that you can't push them soooo I just don't want to sit around on my arss.
                                    For those of you that mentioned Rodeo's no thank you. Great guys for entertainment purposes but not long termers or keepers and I am done playing games with goobers

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                                    • #58
                                      i certainly hope you did not even entertain the thought of not seeing anyone and sitting on your lonely butt while he needs a break! Sounds like he might need something broken all right.

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                                      • #59
                                        <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by julanleb:
                                        You'd think that the guys would have figured out that riding is the jackpot for girls - the guy/girl ratio is ridiculous (at the lower levels) </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                        We learn pretty quickly, "don't date girls from the barn where you board"...it's the quickest way to be miserable. If you break up, people start taking sides very quickly...bad idea.

                                        I did have a lot of girl friends at the barn, but didn't date there. I sure ran into the same problem only reversed, with girls not understanding why I wanted to spend time with my horse vs. spending money on them.

                                        Take up some guy hobbies...golf (play from the guy/non-handicapped tees, they'll love that), other types of riding where guys are more common (western/polo/foxhunting/driving vs. the hi-female dressage and hunters) or even shooting (skeet/trap).
                                        "Sic Gorgiamus Allos Subjectatos Nunc"

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                                        • #60
                                          I don't think you have to focus so hard on the extremely rare and elusive straight horsey man - I would search instead for men who have a soft spot for animals as they will tend to be more understanding than most. Try volunteering at local animal rescues. And don't rule out the Western events and trail riding clubs for a source of straight men, some of whom will be desirable. Sure you have to wade through some mulletheads and such, but there have to be a few decent men among the Western riders
                                          Love my "Slow-T T B"
                                          2010 OTTB, Dixie Union x Dash for Money

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