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My 19 year old son died this morning (short update, p. 37, Alex continues to touch lives)

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  • Evalee,

    I'm so terribly sorry...I don't even know what to say other than I send my condolences to you and your family.

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    • Dear Evalee,
      I've been an avid reader of your posts over the last few months, and I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. Any words that I am able to give are pretty much inadequate at such a time, but that is all I am able to offer. From the other posts I've read in this thread, I'm not the only one who feels this way. Take care.

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      • Evalee , I am so sorry that this tragedy happened to your boy who was just getting started in life . We all know that we are going to die ,but when it happens to someone so young it makes that fact more difficult to understand. That is why it is so important to feel the joy of each day that we can share with our loved ones. I am hoping that working with your horses can help you to ease your way through the pain of the days ahead. We will all be thinking of you .

        Allyn McCracken
        Sport Horse Breeder
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        Allyn McCracken
        Sport Horse Breeder
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        • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Evalee Hunter:
          Thank you everyone. Your thoughts & prayers & kind words mean so so much.

          Alexander did not have any known health problems. The police did *not* find drug paraphenalis when they search his room & his car, nor did they find drugs or alcohol.

          I last saw him about 1:30 AM when his girlfriend left. He escorted her out to her car. She pretty much always met him here, drove herself here, although he was on good terms with her family & her family liked him. He & I spoke for a minute & then he went up to bed & I went to bed. He was as right & normal as a person could be.

          We didn't know what to do today so we went & got a load of hay & went to the barn & did what we always do - feed horses, clean stalls, etc. I often get all my hay in the summer but this year I didn't & we are just getting it now. Picking it up one truckload at a time & bringing it to our barn to stack. We just couldn't sit at home looking at each other & crying.

          http://www.rougelandfarm.com Home of TB stallion Alae Rouge, sire of our filly Rose, ribbon-winner on the line at Dressage at Devon. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

          Evalee,
          I know what you're going through, unfortunately. Please e-mail me privately at jbaraquarters@aol.com if you would like to talk to someone who has experienced a similar tragedy. There is a group for people like us called "The Compassionate Friends." They have a website at compassionatefriends.com if you would care to go there. I know that at this point, it's all too shocking to even wrap your mind around - and the next days and weeks will be trying and draining. I'll try to help and be there for you in any way I can.
          Anne

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          • So sorry about your son.
            J.

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            • "Concern for animals is a matter of taking the side of the weak against the strong, something the best people have always done." Harriet Beecher Stowe 1811-1896

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              • I am so sorry for your loss, as a mother of a young son, it is beyond my comprehension and my greatest fear. I wish you and your husband strength and hopefully peace. My prayers will be for Alexander this Christmas.

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                • Evalee, I reread your post many times thinking and hoping I wasn't reading it right. I do hope you have comfort from prompt ME results. Reading the post about the knowledge that he was at home in his bed with you there sounded very comforting. I picture him going directly from your arms to God's. I will keep him and your family in my prayers and will reiterate that we are here for you. This board comforted me recently and I could never thank them enough. Thinking of you.
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                  • I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what it would be like to lose a child.

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                    • Evalee I am soooo sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 2 years ago at X-mas and I know exactly what you are feeling. We are all here to support you in any way we can. You will be in my prayers tonight.
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                      • Evalee,i am so sorry for your loss.our condolences
                        to you and your family.We are right in the process
                        of dealing with the first anniversary of the loss of our daughter last new years to meningitis, i don't know when it gets better.she is still with us in so many ways.

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                        • So sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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                          • I can't even begin to express my feelings for you at this moment.

                            My heart is just aching for you and your family and you will be held so closly in my prayers.


                            {{{{{{{{{{{{HUGE hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

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                            • Evalee- I am so incredibly sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts. I really do not know what to say as words cannot express how you must feel, and I cannot imagine what you are going through.

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                              • Oh, My Dear,

                                My heart breaks for you. I lost my brother only a few months ago. He also was found dead. I know the whole process very well. I am so sorry for your loss and I am going to keep you in my thoughts. Please feel free to contact me and we can talk.
                                Love and Understanding,
                                Mare and Jasper

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                                • Evalee,

                                  I could barely grasp what I read earlier. I am so incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that you'll always have your COTH family here for support if you ever need it. I'll be thinking about you and your family in my prayers.

                                  ***God forbid that I should go to any heaven in which there are no horses***

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                                  • I am so very very sorry for your loss

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                                    • My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I cannot express how truly sorry I am. As a mother, I can only imagine how devastated you must be, but I pray God's presence will give you peace. Please know that I am thinking of you.

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                                      • evalee,
                                        I am so sorry for your loss, My thoughts and prayers are for you and your family

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                                        • Evalee, my most sincere condolences to you and your family.... you are in my prayers.

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