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My 19 year old son died this morning (short update, p. 37, Alex continues to touch lives)

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  • Oh Evalee,

    Words can not express my heartfelt thoughts for you and your family. If it is any comfort, just know that the whole COTH family will be here to support you in any way that you may need.

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    • Oh, Evalee, I am so sorry. What a tragedy for you and your family. I cannot imagine what you must be going through. Thank you for sharing your pain with us so we can try to help you with it.

      ((((((HUGS)))))))
      There is a very fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness".
      ~Dave Barry
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      • Oh Evalee, I know all too well the pain you are going through, I lost my son, only child, 2 and 1/2 years ago. Trust in the Lord and He will carry you through these days, one day at a time, keep looking Heavenward for that is where your dear Alexander has found his eternal rest. May God be with you and your family and may you find Peace. Our prayers are with you and your family. God Bless.

        "There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of a man." Sir Winston Churchill (1874 - 1965)

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        • Oh wow, I am so sorry. He was my age.

          So many hugs and thoughts to you and your family... nothing can make it better, but yeah.



          Amy
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          • Oh Avalee, so very sorry to hear this news. So very very sorry. My heart goes out to you. Many hugs and prayers to you and your family

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            • I'm so sorry Evalee. Did he have other health problems? Sorry. It just must be such a shock and I can't even imagine to begin how you feel. I am 20 myself.

              If you need anyone you have all of us here! I hope you find out the cause. Let us know how your doing

              So many sayings about life! The most important? LIVE IT UP!

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              • I'm so sorry you had this devastating tragedy happen to your family. I hope they can find the cause as the question "why?" will live many ways in your heart. I pray for peace of mind and your broken heart, may the Lord enter your home and comfort you in this, your time of need.
                \"For all those men who say, \"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,\" here\'s an update for you: Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it\'s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.\"-

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                • Evalee, you and your family are in my prayers. Please accept my condolences. I'm so very, very sorry to hear this tragic news.

                  Joan S.
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                  • Evalee- This is such a tragic thing. I hope that you can stay strong through out this. surround yourself with family. I am deep with sorrow. That is such a scary thought to think he was so young. I give my best wishes to you and the rest of your family in this tragic time.

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                    • OH Evalee! My heart just dropped when I read the title!! I am so so sorry. My deepest sympathies to you and Ali and the rest of your family!!

                      ~Steph

                      *Tapestry* 2000 Dutch WB mare by Contango
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                      • My lovely 18 year old daughter heard me cry when I read your message. She came and hugged me. I will treasure that hug more than ever, thanks to you Evalee. I am so sorry for your loss, and I pledge to love my children even more to honor your son.

                        "I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with someone who is unarmed."--Pogo
                        \"I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with someone who is unarmed.\"--Pogo

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                        • Original Poster

                          Thank you everyone. Your thoughts & prayers & kind words mean so so much.

                          Alexander did not have any known health problems. The police did *not* find drug paraphenalis when they search his room & his car, nor did they find drugs or alcohol.

                          I last saw him about 1:30 AM when his girlfriend left. He escorted her out to her car. She pretty much always met him here, drove herself here, although he was on good terms with her family & her family liked him. He & I spoke for a minute & then he went up to bed & I went to bed. He was as right & normal as a person could be.

                          We didn't know what to do today so we went & got a load of hay & went to the barn & did what we always do - feed horses, clean stalls, etc. I often get all my hay in the summer but this year I didn't & we are just getting it now. Picking it up one truckload at a time & bringing it to our barn to stack. We just couldn't sit at home looking at each other & crying.

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                          • I'm so sorry for your loss. I can relate to the shock of losing someone so young and so unexpectedly and there just isn't a worse feeling in the world.

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                            • Evalee, I am so sorry this has happened. I just don't know what to say other than I will keep you and your family in my prayers.



                              "Horse sense is what a horse has that keeps him from betting on people"
                              W.C. Fields
                              1880 - 1948
                              \"Horse sense is what a horse has that keeps him from betting on people\"
                              W.C. Fields
                              1880 - 1948

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                              • Oh, Evalee, take comfort in the fact that you and your family are in my, and many other BBer's, thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry that this had to happen, please know that we are all here for you. I turn 19 in nine days... Wow...

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                                • My husband and I were arguing about something petty when I opened up your post. Our argument came to a halt at that moment as I read the post aloud...
                                  We are both very sorry for your loss.

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                                  • I am so very sorry for your tragic loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                    Ronda
                                    www.risingstarfarm.net

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                                    • Evalee,

                                      My prayers are with you and your family. I hope that you have others who will join you. Grief shared is grief lessened. In the meantime you have us to lean on for support.

                                      My heart goes out to you.
                                      "He lives in a cocoon of solipsism"

                                      Charles Krauthammer speaking about Trump

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                                      • Evalee, I've been thinking about you all day.

                                        Please please please look into a grief support group...I know it sounds like a cliche, but it will help you maintain the strength you need to get through the hours and days and weeks ahead, especially once the shock wears off.

                                        We love you. Be strong.
                                        ((((((hugs)))))

                                        >^.,.^<


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                                        • Oh Evalee, I have no words of comfort for you, but I'm so very sorry .... I'm just a lurker here but I'm crying for you, I can't imagine the depth of your sorrow .. such a tragedy, I'm so sorry ....

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