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My 19 year old son died this morning (short update, p. 37, Alex continues to touch lives)

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  • #521
    Evalee, I am so so sorry.

    Julie
    www.caspianpony.com

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    • #522
      As an even older hippie, probably part of the Founders Group I understand you and what you mean about letting it flow and be natural. That's wonderful and it will be so good for everyone, it sounds like a great celebration of a beautiful young life and there will be tons of memories to make it last forever.

      I wish I could be there with you but now we know the time and I will stop where I am and send you all my wishes across the space for good karma for the send off.

      Battle Scarred Veteran
      http://www.usAHSA.org and http://www.noreinstatement.org

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      • #523
        Dear God, Evalee - what a dreadful shock. I've not read the entire post - will skim to see if you've been given the cause - but my heart goes out to you.
        May you and your family find peace knowing that he didn't suffer.

        www.ayliprod.com
        Equine Video and Still Photography in the Northeast
        www.ayliprod.com
        Equine Photography in the Northeast

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        • #524
          January 3rd is my 19th birthday. Although I cannot attend the funeral, I will keep Alex, his family, and his friends in my prayers. I will even dedicate my first (and only) drink of the evening to his memory.

          I enjoy reading your memories of Alex too, so feel free to share as many as you can. He obviously was a wonderful young man whose mother loves him still.

          I am so sorry that you have had to go through this ordeal, EH, but you seem as if you are handling it as well as can be expected. Good for you. Remember, you'll see him again someday, and Alex will love you just as much, if not more, than he always has.

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          • #525
            Evalee,

            You plans for the service sound perfect to me. I wish I could be there. Thank you for sharing his memories with us and know that we are and will be thinking of him.

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            Amy
            Owned by:
            Cute as a Bugsear (Bugs) JC OTTTB (Isella x Annie Somebody)
            Pippen (Frodo) ATA Anglo Trakehner (Paramoure x Cute as a Bugsear)
            ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
            ~Amy~ TrakehNERD clique
            *Bugs 5/86-3/10 OTTB Mare* RIP lovely Lady, I miss you
            *Frodo '03 Anglo Trakehner Gelding*
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            • #526
              So we have a mutual New Year's Resolution.

              On Saturday January 3 for any time between 2PM and 5PM that you can manage all of us, everyone will stop for a little while and clear our minds into emptiness and we will then send our undivided and uninterrupted thoughts to Evalee and Ali and help send Alex a straight strong road to wherever on wings of prayers knowing how many people there are that care.

              I know that all of you there in Delaware will feel the energy of all the love being sent your way and it will make you even stronger than you thought was possible. It is amazing what is possible when so many minds unify in a good cause and with pure love.



              The funeral is Saturday, Jan. 3, starting at 2 PM at Newark High School, on Delaware Avenue, Newark, Delaware.

              In lieu of flowers, we are asking for contributions to any charity benefiting animals, since Alex loved animals so much. Some of your have asked or already made contributions & I am very glad.

              We will have calling hours from 2 - 4 & a service at 4.

              Battle Scarred Veteran
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              • #527
                Your plans for the service sound perfect. If anyone questions you, tell them it is based on a Quaker meeting.

                I will be thinking of you.

                Janet
                chief feeder and mucker for Music, Spy, Belle, and Brain
                Janet

                chief feeder and mucker for Music, Spy, Belle and Tiara. Someone else is now feeding and mucking for Chief and Brain (both foxhunting now).

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                • #528
                  I just sat and read this for 45 minutes as I haven't been on since before Christmas.
                  I am so very sorry for your loss.
                  You are in my thoughts and I will be thinking of you on Saturday.
                  I admire your strength, ((((Hugs)))))

                  A good friend will come bail you out of jail....a true friend will be sitting next to you saying "Damn..we screwed up"
                  ~~At least I have a positive attitude about my destructive habits~~

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                  • #529
                    Evelee,

                    I found your post today, and I am in awe by your grace. My condolences to you and your family. Thank your for sharing these wonderful stories about Alex, and we welcome many more.. We are here for you..

                    With love and Hugs...

                    Kim :-)

                    See my pics!! http://community.webshots.com/user/siennamama
                    Kim :-)

                    Shady Tree Training Stables
                    www.shadytreehorses.com

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                    • #530
                      Evalee~My sympathy to you and your family. Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories with us. I will observe a time of silence for Alex this Saturday. Since the first time I read this thread, you have been on my mind. Your inner strength has allowed you to shine during this tough time, and I'm extremely honoured to have you as a part of my life, even from afar.

                      My deepest condolences to you and yours.

                      Ann

                      To be great is to dare to rise above the sea of mediocrity and surround yourself by the elite... To be excellent is to never give in to the mental weakness or fear.
                      To be great is to dare to rise above the sea of mediocrity and surround yourself by the elite... To be excellent is to never give in to the mental weakness or fear.

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                      • #531
                        I don't know what to say, except your family is in my thoughts. Thank you for sharing those things about him.

                        Hugs to you.

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                        • #532
                          Evalee - Please accept my sincere condolences for this tragic loss. My heart goes out to you at this terrible time. - Libby

                          There is a very fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness." - DAVE BARRY
                          Libby

                          There is a fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness". - Dave Barry

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                          • #533
                            So, so sad. I love reading your stories and memories of such a beautiful, wonderful boy. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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                            • #534
                              There will be a family/friends memorial service at Newark High School on Sat., Jan.3, in Newark, Delaware for Alexander Eugene Rawles, son of William Rawles and Evalee Hunter.

                              The address of the funeral home is:
                              > R.T. Foard & Jones, Inc.
                              > 122 W. Main St.
                              > Newark, DE 19711
                              > Phone: 302-731-4627
                              > Fax: 302-731-8215
                              >
                              Evalee has indicated she would like remembrances in honor of Alex to go toward each person's local SPCA, or Humane Society, or horse charity,as Alex was an animal lover.

                              If you would like to send something to the Rawles family or to Evalee personally, I will volunteer to assist -- contact me via email, hollihorse@yahoo.com, for addresses/etc.

                              I also would like to ask on behalf of the COTH Bulletin Board family that if you would like to send the Rawles family an arrangement from US, please contact me and I'll get it started. I'm close enough to help out.

                              Holly
                              Proud & Permanent Student Of The Long Road
                              Read me: EN (http://eventingnation.com/author/annemarch/) and HJU (http://horsejunkiesunited.com/author/holly-covey/)

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                              • #535
                                hollihorse...I am sending a donation in Alexander's name to:

                                Central Illinois Riding Therapy
                                305 Neumann Drive
                                East Peoria, IL. 61611.

                                They are sometimes slow to respond with a thank you because the angel volunteers are strained to the max, but I know personally that it will be put to good use. Donations will benefit both the handicapped children and the horses. I printed their address in case anyone here was at a loss for a place to send a donation.

                                Some people view a glass as half full - some view it as half empty ... I spill it!

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                                • #536
                                  Evalee, I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. I've just read your posts about Alex and I'm absolutely in awe of you. Your strength and thoughtfulness shines through. Thank you for sharing Alex with us and helping each one of us appreciate those we love even a little bit more. We often forget how precious life is and how quickly it can change forever.

                                  My condolences and prayers to you, your family and friends.

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                                  • #537
                                    Evalee,you are so strong. I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                                    Jane

                                    www.rivendellfarms.ca

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                                    • #538
                                      Well, I'm another of the hippy persuasion. Vikki, you beat me. I was going to say that at 2:00 p.m. ET I'm going to raise a toast to Alex and to those who are at the service. It's easier for me to remember an exact time and I thought some may want to join me.

                                      Evalee - the description of Alex's friends and how they're taking charge the way they know he would want. The C.D.'s and the pictures, etc. hat a wonderful reaction from some wonderful people. How brave! How loving! How proud you must be to see how many people care for him and also for you and and Bill and Ali.

                                      Much love.
                                      http://www.angelfire.com/ult/irishmosaic/Dublin/

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                                      • #539
                                        Oh, Evalee - I just saw this thread today - I am so sorry - how awful!!! I'm thinking of you and your family - again, I am so very sorry.
                                        "Cats aren't clean; they're covered with cat spit."
                                        - John S Nichols (1745-1846,writer/printer)

                                        Don't come for me - I didn't send for you.

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                                        • #540
                                          I just saw this, and dont have words to express my condolences. The love for my son is my greatest gift, and the loss of him is my greatest fear.

                                          The names we had picked out were Alexander for a boy, Aleksandra for a girl...I named my one and only child Nikolas. Right after he was born they asked, and that's what I answered. Go figure. It wasnt even strongly considered. But one of his best friends is Alexander, his mother and I seem to be twins separated at birth - funny how things work out.

                                          This post had me in tears. A mother's love is eternal, we may not be perfect, but we do the best that we can with what we know. Thank you for sharing about who he he was. I have a feeling that he touched a lot of lives.

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