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My 19 year old son died this morning (short update, p. 37, Alex continues to touch lives)

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  • And He will raise you up on eagle's wings
    Bear you on the breath of dawn
    Make you to shine like the sun
    And hold you in the palm of His hand. >>>>>

    I have this on my list to be sung at my memorial service. I told my son to just imagine me astride Pegasus soaring to the dawn.

    Easier to say than to begin to imagine how it would be if it were ever to be the other way around. May your heart be in the palm of His hand these hard days, Evalee. Pam

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    • Thank-you for taking the time to involve us in some of those memories, they are truly special. I am so glad that you are opening up to us here, surely a very difficult thing to do after such a tragic incident.

      I am so so sorry, and please accept my heartfelt condolences.

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      • While nothing that any of us can say to you will change what happened, please know that our hearts are heavy for your loss.

        I will hold my 16 month old Son extra tight every night.

        May God Bless you and your family.

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        • I went to my 24 year old friend's funeral a week ago friday, she evented. My heart felt condolences go out to you and your family.

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          • You are the best mother Alex could ever have had. He loved you.

            Thank you, deeply, for his sharing his life with us.

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            • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Snowbird:
              Evalee We didn't have the chance to know your Alex and it is so wonderful for you to share him with all of us. Those are the memories to treasure and we want to hear all about him. Believe me that everyone wants to hear all your stories and memories from the first day when he saw his Mom.

              Maybe there is an idea that would help everyone to celebrate your Alex. Why not have you and all his friends write in a Journal. Put in it every memory you have from the day he was born and some of your favorite photos. Let them all write about Alex as they knew him and what he liked and what he didn't like, what he excelled at, and what even he did badly.

              Then two or three generations from now the family will have a permanent record of him and how much he loved his life and you. Do it for the generations still unborn who will not otherwise have any memory of him because as the old gypsy legend says, no one dies unless there is no one to remember them and say their name. This way he will always be with you and all of your family into forever.

              _Battle Scarred Veteran_<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

              What a wonderful idea, Snowbird.

              Evalee, just wanted to let you know that those in Virginia are still thinking and praying for you.

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              Chelsea
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              • Evalee, my sincere condolances on the loss of your son. He sounds like a wonderful young man.

                ~&lt;&gt;~ COTHBB Leather Care Guru~&lt;&gt;~
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                • My sincere condolences. And thank you for sharing some memories of your son.

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                  • I am so sorry for your loss. Loosing a child, and so suddenly, is one of the worst tragedies that can happen in a parent's life. I hope you can find comfort in the COTH BB's response to your loss.

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                    • Oh my god, Evalee, I am SO sorry. Words cannot begin to describe what I am feeling right now. I am sending some super cyber {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to you during your time of need. I wish you all the best, and if you ever need to talk, please PT me. I've been through something similar but not as horrifying.

                      I wish Alex godspeed.

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                      • Evalee, I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                        My 34 year old brother died 5 years ago just before Christmas, very suddenly and with no prior medical condition, so I know that the shock, horror, anger, and pain can't really be described. And after seeing my Mom go through this, I know that what a mother feels in losing a child is beyond comprehension (especially suddenly).

                        Thanks for your memories of him and keep sharing as you are able.

                        If you ever need someone to "talk" to feel free to send me an e-mail, or I know my Mom would be more than happy to connect with you.

                        Take care.
                        Second Fiddle Farm

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                        • Evalee I just looked at Off Course after a few days away from the boards.

                          I'm so sorry to read your heartbreaking news. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your memories with us. Snowbird had a lovely idea, one of my friends did something similar for her husband when he died unexpectedly. It is very comforting for her now to have it.

                          May God give you peace and comfort in time.

                          Terry
                          "We don't ride the clock. We ride the horse." Reiner Klimke.
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                          • Snowbird wrote:
                            Then two or three generations from now the family will have a permanent record of him and how much he loved his life and you. Do it for the generations still unborn who will not otherwise have any memory of him because as the old gypsy legend says, no one dies unless there is no one to remember them and say their name. This way he will always be with you and all of your family into forever.
                            ~~~~~~~~

                            My father died just two weeks after his first grandaughter, my niece Abby, was born. My mother wrote a letter to all the grandkids telling them what kind of a man 'Pop Pop' had been. She stressed his good points, but didn't hesitate to mention that he was not perfect, but always tried never to make the same mistake twice, and he never intentionally hurt a human being.

                            Two years later, another granddaughter was born and just two years after that, we lost my mom Last spring when I was packing to move, I found the original letter and knew that Rachel had not recieved it. I scanned it into the PC, added a long postscript about "Granny" and mailed it to all of them (now 15-26 year olds!) Amazingly, they ALL WROTE OR CALLED ME to say it was the most special thing they'd ever received. Only the eldest vaguely remembered being read the original letter and even his memories of Pop Pop had faded over the 17 years since his death. Interestingly, it was stoic, aloof 15 yo Rachel who never knew Pop Pop, and only barely recalled Granny who was the most emotional about it. She said that now she felt like she at least had gotten to know her grandparents a little, and the letter made them seem more real. It made me SO glad I'd taken the time to do it!

                            I hope you can create this journal of memories Snowbird suggests. I know that in the years to come it will become ever more special.

                            As always, my thoughts, and deepest condolences are with you.

                            Kryswyn
                            ~Kryswyn~ Always look on the bright side of life, de doo, de doo de doo de doo
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                            • Oh I am So sorry to hear about this. Alex sounds like he was a wonderful person. COTH is a great place to come when bad things happen and everyone always shows compassion and sympathy.

                              My thoughts and prayers are with you!



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                              • Evalee,

                                I'm so sorry to just be reading this, two days later. My heart is breaking for you. No mother should have to find her son dead in his bed.

                                On Christmas Eve in Moss Point, Mississippi, a man and his family were driving back to Atlanta from the casinos on the coast when they were the victims of a vicious 2-car drive-by shooting. This broke on the news but, more frightening, my younger brother, his wife and their 3 year-old son were stopped in traffic due to the incident and, of course, all I could think was "that could've been them."

                                My mother's co-worker lost her battle to colon cancer on Christmas Eve, at the age of 43, leaving behind a 22 year-old daughter and a 19 year-old son.

                                As we drove home today, we passed a funeral in progress somewhere between Hattiesburg and Jackson, Mississippi.

                                Death has been prevalent this Christmas season. I'm so sorry it darkened your door too.

                                You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope we all will remember, as your story so vividly illustrates, that life is but a breath away and there is no way we can love each other too much while we're here.

                                Robby

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                                • I'm soooooooooo sorry. It realy makes you think when you are only a few years younger then a person that has passed on. Walk out to a horse or a pet, and hug them, they are God's angels.

                                  Jamie
                                  ~member of the teen clique~
                                  *Jamie*

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                                  • My deepest sympathy. Take care of yourself.

                                    You must be that which you wish to become. ~Ghandi~
                                    Everything is questionable except my love for this horse...

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                                    • I haven't been reading the board for a few days so I am a little late posting this. I just wanted to let you know that I am very sorry for your loss and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

                                      -Mares Rule!
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                                      • I am so very sorry.

                                        But I will say, that I think your son was very fortunate. Because the only thing that comes through your posts even more strongly than your pain, is your great love for him, and his for you....

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                                        • Just got back and read your post, Evalee, and want to add my sincere sympathy. Please know that one more person is praying for you, your husband, and all who loved your son.

                                          My heart goes out to you,

                                          Joanne

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