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  • I know it needs to be done but that doesn't make it any easier

    I will be retiring January 1. I had planned to work until 65 but looks like that won't be happening. Between social security and my pension I should have enough to get by but not a whole lot extra. I will probably look for something part time, I'm thinking about substitute teaching.

    Which brings me to my current dilemma. I have three elderly horses, an appendix QH, a haflinger mare, and a POA. All three have health/soundness issues and are expensive to feed and care for. I can't keep weight on the QH plus he has arthritis which makes cold, damp days hard for him. The haflinger has a nasty disposition and injured a knee a couple of years ago so while she is pasture sound, can't be used. The POA is ancient, is probably developing Cushings and I can't keep weight on her. These horses take up about half my feed bill as they require special senior feed, beet pulp and alfalfa pellets and they still look skinny, except for the haflinger who is an easy keeper. The rest of my horses are younger and easy keepers who can be maintained on hay with a little grain.

    I have made the decision to have all three of these horses euthanized. I know this is the best thing to do for me and for them. I know they live in the moment and don't know about tomorrow. But dammit, its just hard. I know I need to make arrangements for the vet and backhoe but I can't force myself to do it. I keep hoping for some sort of miracle but I know it won't happen.

    Just sucks and I'm turning to COTH for a little sympathy. I know you guys will understand.
    I'm a second hand Vegan. Cows eat grass. I eat cows.

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    I'm so sorry this had to happen. Even though you know it's for their best interests, it's still a very hard decision to make.
    You can't fix stupid-Ron White

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    • #3

      That is hard . Not sure I have any advice, but to realize that's going to be a really hard day. Even when you know that their QOL is decreasing, and you can't keep them healthy & comfortable any longer, it's still really really hard to do.

      On a practical note, if you like working one on one, tutoring may be a better option than substitute teaching. People will pay $$$ for a skilled private tutor, especially true if you can drive to a wealthy neighborhood. And it's way less stressful than subbing.

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      • #4
        Oh WW, you've got my sympathy. Hugs.
        What's wrong with you?? Your cheese done slid off its cracker?!?!

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        • #5
          So sorry! You have taken care of them and by doing this you will make sure they don't suffer. I am glad you are so strong for them.

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          • #6
            My heart goes out to you.
            My herd for life:
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            Ruais: 8 year old Friesian/Arabian mare
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            • #7
              Hugs. Sucks that the right thing to do is also the most painful.
              IMHO You are the best kind of horse owner.
              the NOT!! Spoiled!! Arabian Protectavest poster pony lives on in my heart

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              • #8
                Have a good friend do the necessary phone calls for you. And my sympathies - you are doing the right thing for everyone.

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                • #9
                  Don't make yourself do all of this alone. I had a lot of help when I had to euthanize my mare when she colicked very badly and very fast in Feb., and even then it was very difficult.

                  Hugs to you, you are doing the most responsible thing. Hard even when there are truly no choices.
                  I tolerate all kinds of animal idiosyncrasies.
                  I've found that I don't tolerate people idiosyncrasies as well. - Casey09

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                  • #10
                    I think you are doing the right thing for all the right reasons. First of all, for yourself: You admit you are going to have limited means and need to live on those resources for how long....15 years....20 years....25? You never know. You need to be sure funds are there to help keep YOU healthy, housed and fed, and have something there for emergencies. I'd recommend re-homing the horses if that were possible but it is not, due to their own infirmities. So, on to the horses: As they say, better a year too early than a day too late, in deciding when enough is enough. None of them sounds particularly well and happy. I think it is the kinder thing to usher them kindly and calmly into horsey heaven than to see them continue to lose weight, suffer from pain and the cold, and any number of other things that you just cannot see yet. Do have a friend help you make calls and be there when the vet comes. You need not witness any of it (especially the backhoe part which is not how you want to remember them). You've given them great years and I am sure you'll have happy memories of them. Keep a good chunk of tail hair from each one and have a bracelet made of it all woven together. Don't worry; this is OK.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Bells View Post
                      So sorry! You have taken care of them and by doing this you will make sure they don't suffer. I am glad you are so strong for them.

                      My thoughts exactly. You are doing what is best for your situation. Get it done before the weather gets really ugly and doing things is much more difficult. We had to put the old mare to sleep, did it in Sept to avoid weather issues and chance of her going down. You just do it because it is best for them and yourself.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by macmtn View Post
                        Hugs. Sucks that the right thing to do is also the most painful.
                        IMHO You are the best kind of horse owner.
                        Yes, this. And more hugs.
                        Donald Trump - proven liar, cheat, traitor and sexual predator! Hillary Clinton won in 2016, but we have all lost.

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                        • #13
                          Sending hugs to you.
                          Just like our eyes, our hearts have a way of adjusting to the dark.--Adam Stanley

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                          • #14
                            I am so sorry for you. I walked in your shoes recently. I kept putting it off and then finally did it. The backhoe came shortly before the vet and dug the hole. He waited quietly with the machine off while the vet gave our pony the shot. It was over so fast. I went inside and let the backhoe operator finish his work. He was very nice and understanding. I know that our little guy died happy with his face in a bucket of sweet feed that he never got to eat in his regular life. Hang in there, you can make it through this.

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                            • #15
                              I'm in a similar situation. Hugs and strength and courage to you. You/we are doing the right thing. My appointment is for tomorrow. It was hard to make the call to the vet and for burial arrangements, but it is the right thing to do.

                              You are a good person to have taken care of these horses in their senior years. You've shown them a kindness that a lot of people would not. But its time to take care of yourself too. If we don't look out for your own finances in retirement, how can we possibly take care of another life, you know?

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                              • #16
                                Well it's a lot better to do what you are planning and struggling with than what some would do, that is send them to auction and the killer buyers. I would euthanize every one of mine to save them from that fate. Quality of life. Quality of death. We get to choose for them. You'll be okay because it's the right thing.

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                                • #17
                                  Originally posted by wireweiners View Post
                                  I will be retiring January 1. I had planned to work until 65 but looks like that won't be happening. Between social security and my pension I should have enough to get by but not a whole lot extra. I will probably look for something part time, I'm thinking about substitute teaching.

                                  Which brings me to my current dilemma. I have three elderly horses, an appendix QH, a haflinger mare, and a POA. All three have health/soundness issues and are expensive to feed and care for. I can't keep weight on the QH plus he has arthritis which makes cold, damp days hard for him. The haflinger has a nasty disposition and injured a knee a couple of years ago so while she is pasture sound, can't be used. The POA is ancient, is probably developing Cushings and I can't keep weight on her. These horses take up about half my feed bill as they require special senior feed, beet pulp and alfalfa pellets and they still look skinny, except for the haflinger who is an easy keeper. The rest of my horses are younger and easy keepers who can be maintained on hay with a little grain.

                                  I have made the decision to have all three of these horses euthanized. I know this is the best thing to do for me and for them. I know they live in the moment and don't know about tomorrow. But dammit, its just hard. I know I need to make arrangements for the vet and backhoe but I can't force myself to do it. I keep hoping for some sort of miracle but I know it won't happen.

                                  Just sucks and I'm turning to COTH for a little sympathy. I know you guys will understand.
                                  You're doing the sensible thing as a responsible horse owner, and you don't need to justify it to anyone. When it's over, you'll feel a vast relief and be able to move on, unburdened with guilt, into the next phase of your life. "Good on you" for being equal to that hardest decision.

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                                  • #18
                                    Regardless of your finances, it sounds like their quality of life is suffering and that letting them go is the kind thing to do. Sounds like you have really given them some good last years. Would your vet office look after booking the back hoe and such? I wonder if that would make it easier for you.
                                    Freeing worms from cans everywhere!

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                                    • #19
                                      They are lucky to have you. Don't forget that.

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                                      • #20
                                        Understanding ((hugs)) and Jingles laced with strength ~


                                        Understanding ((hugs)) and Jingles laced with strength ~
                                        Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "

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