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The First Ride after the Last Ride - What's it Like? Update - I did it.

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  • #21
    So happy for you. Hugs.
    a 501(c)3 organization helping 501(c)3 equine rescues


    • #22
      Oh, that's so great. Congrats on getting back in the saddle, and finding a wonderful mare. From the sound of it, I'm sure Lou did have a hoof in your choice.


      • #23
        Congratulations Lou on finding a new partner! Here's hoping you have a long, happy partnership.

        Although she may never take your beloved Lou's place, I sincerely think that there is always room in our heartsfor a new, different 'love'!

        And I'm sure miss Lou approves wholeheartedly.
        Lowly Farm Hand with Delusions of Barn Biddieom.
        Witherun Farm


        • #24
          Originally posted by LouLove View Post
          Hi everyone,

          I did it. I took the ride. I have taken a few. I miss riding so much.

          It has been exactly one month since Lou left. Today I signed on to a PB.

          Originally, I tried only geldings because I thought that a mare would be to hard to emotionally connect with, after Lou, but you know, I think Lou helped me find this one.

          So I am PBing a quiet and willing bay Appendix mare - 9 years old - and so sweet. Very willing yet not spooky or hot like my Lou. Just there, ready to try. She is fat and sweet and a mare. I think Lou would approve - a lot.

          So the first ride was on a gelding and I cried after. Lovely gelding, but the ride was so fresh and unfamilliar.

          My fourth ride was on this mare. And she felt warm and comfortable and safe, like home. It is only a PB - but I think that it is a start. She will help me heal.

          Just thought I would let everyone know how I made out.

          Wonderful and congratulations on your first step to healing!! When I lost my first, as an adult, horse I asked that a horse be put in his stall so when I came the next day I would not see emptiness. I was fortunate as I was bringing along a young one so i continued to ride.

          My loss left a big hole in my heart and I would find myself breaking into sobs at the weirdest times.....So be kind to yourself. It will take lots of time.

          Enjoy your new ride meanwhile.
          Happily retired but used to be:


          • #25
            Funny -- I just read this whole thread straight through, and when I read that you were going to ride non-chestnut geldings a thought flashed through my head "a gelding? she doesn't want a GELDING!" Now I am admittedly biased -- I started out with geldings but once I had "a relationship" with my first mare, there was no going back. Still I was amused to read that your part-time friend is another maresy. I wish you great luck and fun with her, she sounds like a good girl.

            I had my first horse for about 18 years when I decided to get more horses into my life and acquired several (for training, breeding, etc.). So when my old guy passed on at 31, there was no "empty stall" syndrome. But I STILL (it was 2 years ago this past summer) can't get the riding thing going right. It's like I am too old to learn a new language. But I have been having pain issues I'm struggling to conquer, so I hope that'll open the door to feeling at home again on a horse.

            In terms of all the other aspects of horse ownership -- I'm glad there wasn't a gap. All those soft noses and warm necks to hug on...
            Shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you? You are at your very best when things are worst.


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              Originally posted by Parrotnutz View Post
              My loss left a big hole in my heart and I would find myself breaking into sobs at the weirdest times.....So be kind to yourself. It will take lots of time.
              I know Parrot. This happens to me too. Out of nowhere. I cry and cry. I miss my mare so much. She was one in a million. I am hoping that this PB will help me heal - not forget - just heal. I realize that riding is so important to me, and hopefully time in the saddle will allow me to open my heart to other horse experiences.

              Still I was amused to read that your part-time friend is another maresy. I wish you great luck and fun with her, she sounds like a good girl.
              I know JoZ. I really thought it was time for a gelding. And don't get me wrong...the geldings I tried were quite lovely. But then I stumbled upon the maresy...and really...it was all in the eyes. This depth and knowing. I just love them. The girls.
              Member of the Standardbreds with Saddles Clique!
              LouLove - OTTB - 1992-2008...miss you my pretty red girl...
              Wilde! NEW - OTTSTB - 2004 Gelding...my heart's new journey...


              • #27
                Glad to hear you are back in the saddle. And I totally agree with the every now and then breakdowns..shoot it has been now over 5 years since my loss and I still have my moments where I miss her so much and want her back.
                I had only ever had mares and always loved them, so when I got my gelding it was quite odd. He has an awesome personality though, and I love him to death, but there are times when I do miss my mare..just the whole female bonding thing I think, as we were both pissy at the same time, and so sweet at the other times. With my gelding he has his own days and decides when he will be pissy and when he will be sweet..apparently we are not on the same cycle (although boys have their own cycle anyway)

                Good luck and I hope it works out for you.