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It's a MIRACLE! The last hearing was today 11/10, update on p. 13

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  • I'm jingling everything that makes noise and crossing everything that's crossable for you and your family. She's a lovely child and deserves the best. Best of luck to you, wish I could help!

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    • Applesauce - jingling like crazy here for you!

      Please PT pacificsolo - she knows a LOT about this kind of stuff!

      "B***h in training"
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        Thank you again, everyone for your words of encouragement and advice. Mr. A and I re-read all the posts together last night with tears in our eyes. I have taken the advice of consulting an adoption lawyer. And, like I said, because we are still in the foster parent stage and we haven't reached the adoption issue yet, we are stuck. We just have to sit back and let social services do what they have to do and hope for the best.

        Got Spots: I have thought about the guardian ad litem also. She will be having one appointed to represent her, and hopefully he/she will also concur that Reese is in the best home possible for her.

        Canda3Dayer: Everything you said makes perfect sense!!! I appreciate everything you said in your post and you know what? While it's too late for the clothes, she was here when I took them out of the bag and I made a point of telling her they smelled of cigarette smoke! She even took a whiff herself and wrinkled her nose. So they are aware. I appreciate your offer to help. You just may be recieving a PT from me when I need to vent or when I get worried.

        At this point I haven't heard anything in a few days so I guess no news is good news at this point.

        Lipizzaner: Bless you and your family. Your story is very touching and I'm so glad you had a happy ending. One thing we've refrained from is decorating and actually making a nursery. We are holding back. While I'm sure we'll have the opportunity to decorate one day, and I pray it's for Reese, we're not counting our chickens before they hatch.

        And to keep this horse (kind of) related...See Erin?? I know the rules and am being a good girl.

        Tomorrow I have someone coming out to look at my 3 yo TB. 3 horses right now is just too much and I think that this one will be the easiest to sell. I have a friend coming out to watch Reese while I show the 3 yo. I really hate to sell him, but it wouldn't be fair to him right now because I just don't have the time to dedicate to his training.

        Gosh, it's only been a week since we've made the decision to bring Reese here and look how much she's changed our lives already! Amazing.

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          Duffy: Done deal. Thanks for the tip.

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          • Good, Applesauce. Pacificsolo KNOWS the system. I'm sure she can help you.

            "B***h in training"
            \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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            • BEST WISHES ALWAYS!!!!

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              • Applesauce wrote:

                "...I'm trying to play nice here...."

                Applesauce, if I can offer a small tidbit of advice here, it would be to NOT play nice.

                The birthmother's attorneys will wipe their feet all over you if you take a submissive stance.

                This child deserves better and YOU were chosen for a reason. Just because the birth mother can procreate doesn't make her a suitable home for the child.

                Stand up for this beautiful child and fight all the way!!!

                I'm praying for you and Reece!!!

                Oakleigh

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                • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Applesauce:
                  And, like I said, because we are still in the foster parent stage and we haven't reached the adoption issue yet, we are stuck. We just have to sit back and let social services do what they have to do and hope for the best.
                  <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  Not trying to upset you here Applesauce, but my response to the above is "No, you are not stuck. No you don't have to just sit back and wait." Please consider the advice that I gave and others have agreed with to at least consult with an experienced adoption attorney NOW. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

                  I used to co-lead a support group for prospective adoptive parents and I saw first hand over and over again the importance of being pro-active and the importance of having proper legal advice.

                  I also have a friend who has adopted through the foster care system and dealt with a situation even more difficult than the one you are faced with, and I know she would agree.

                  That baby is so beautiful and is so lucky to be with you and your hubby - sure, there are things that are out of your control, but there are things you can to do improve your chances that this beautiful girl stays with you forever!

                  Feel free to email or PT me too if you need to talk!

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                  I'm just the mom....

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                  • Any more News??

                    Jingle Jingle

                    BarbaraG
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                    • I have had 24 foster brothers and sisters who were with us while their birth mother decided what she wanted to do with her offspring, so I am fairly familiar with "the system."

                      Please PT me if you want my input - I did not feel right posting specifics here.

                      Good luck. Here's to hoping the process is as swift and as stress-free as possible.

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                      • Best wishes from Culpeper - if I can help any way -let me know - I have tons of baby stuff, and could offer horse help too - not sure how close you are to me. My 2yo was just sitting on my lap and said, "Ooohhh!! Pretty baby - look - mommy smiles!!!" Awwwwww...... I am really hoping that it works out for you - I HATE it when they give the innocent little babies back to people who don't have any intention of taking care of them. Play dirty, and hard - do whatever you can. We're on your side!!

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                          Thanks everyone for the inquiries on what's been going on. And especially, thank you to the ones the have PT'd me and sent encouraging emails. You don't know how much your support means.

                          Here's the lates. On Friday morning at about 9:15 am, the social worker called and said she wanted to schedule a last minute visitation with the birht mother. Reese has not seen her birth mother since she was born. She said the another worker would come to my house at about 10:20 and pick Reese up, take her back to SS for a supervised visit from 10:30 to 11:30. Then I was to be at SS at 11:30 to take her for a doctor's appt scheduled for 11:45. I was completely cooperative even though I had plans on brining in my 3 yo TB in to clean him up. I had someone coming that afternoon to look at him. Everything went as planned. The social worker picked her up and off she went. Boy, did our house feel empty when she left.

                          Anyway, the reason why they wanted to schedule this "emergency" visitation is because tomorrow, (Monday) the birth mother is leaving to go to jail for a month or more on drug charges. I had no idea!

                          So, at exactly 11:30 I went to pick Reese up at SS. The social worker walked out carrying Reese and said, "She never showed up." I was shocked. Seems that at 11:15 she called and said she couldn't make it after all. I don't know the reason. I feel sorry for her. I really do! She just seems to be a confused woman that is unsure what to do in her life or how to handle things. I have no idea what is happening to her other 2 children.

                          So, again we wait for the second hearing in about another 25 days. I feel a little better about things but the courts work in mysterious ways. Continue to jingle and pray!

                          As a side note, the doctor said she's doing wonderful and is in perfect health. She's gained weight and looks fabulous. Everyone at the doctor's office was just beside themselves with how beautiful she is.

                          So that's the latest.

                          On the horsey end of this, I managed to get down to the barn and present my 3 yo TB to the potential buyer. That didn't go as well as the doctor's appt. While she absolutely loved how good his ground manners are and how quiet he is, he's just quite the "ride" she's looking for. Oh well.

                          Again, thank you everyone for the kind words and lovely well wishes.

                          "Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." quote from the tv series M*A*S*H
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                          • How sad. I mean it is good for Reese and your family. But what a tragedy for this woman and her other children.

                            Reese is lucky to have you there for her. I made me laugh when everyone said she looks like you. I thought I was seeing things because I think she does too.

                            Still jingling.
                            See those flying monkeys? They work for me.

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                            • I'm jingling and praying that Reese will soon be all yours. I daresay that the birth mother's mom didn't exactly do a great job with her own daughter, what would she do now in raising Reese?

                              I pray that you have the strength to fight the battle ahead. A friend of a friend in in a similar spot right now and it has been brutal.

                              I agree with the consensus, Reese does look like you!

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                              • ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

                                Remember: document, document, document. Everything. Every bit of interaction with the social workers/birth mother, everything.

                                Stay strong, we love you....

                                &gt;^.,.^&lt;


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                                • best wishes appleasauce. wish you lots of luck!
                                  while working in the criminal division of a county courthouse i had an opportunity to watch women addicted to drugs get pregnant repeatedly, test positive for drugs during their pregnancy. most of the time the children are either raised by relatives or get turned over to DYFS. it's such a depressing cycle to watch. i do hope that reese will stay w/ you in a healthy, happy household.
                                  again, good luck, i'm keeping my fingers crossed.

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                                  society to an informant society." Rep. Dennis Kucinich
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                                  • Reese is so lucky to have you and Mr A. God bless!
                                    ~Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away...

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                                    • Applesauce,

                                      I thought of you today at FPP, and little Reese.

                                      Hopefully the no-show will be in your favor in 25 days.

                                      I sure do hope you get to be her mom, those pictures are precious.

                                      Jingling away.

                                      Mel

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                                        <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by SaddleFitterVA:
                                        Applesauce,

                                        I thought of you today at FPP, and little Reese.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                                        I wish I could have been there! Hopefully we BOTH can make the get together next Spring! How was it? Who all showed?

                                        "Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." quote from the tv series M*A*S*H
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                                        • Prayers continue...love to you and Reese and mr.A....
                                          June
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