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It's a MIRACLE! The last hearing was today 11/10, update on p. 13

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  • Applesauce! Anything worth having is worth FIGHTING for. Don't let a moment go by that you and your family and friends are not working to keep Reese with you. If, God forbid, Reese does go back to her birthmother, you will at least be able to say, "We did everything we can."

    You sound like this is what you are doing already. Come to us anytime you need to cry and be angry and anytime you just need a hug. You're going into battle, and we're right there with you.

    She's a beautiful little thing. I hope and pray that she stays with you and the mister forever.

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    • OMG... I just "tuned in" to this thread... amazing that it is even POSSIBLE that Reese could be returned to a woman who abandoned her at the hospital. She no more needs that baby than... she needed another baby.

      Shaking my head in disbelief, and jinging oh so hard for your family, Applesauce!
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      • Jingles from the Great Warrior Volunteer and the Wonderful Ground Pounder!

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        • Jingling like a madwoman over here! that is NOT Right!!!

          Reese is incredibly beautiful!!!!! She looks like you too - how weird is that? I love the picture of you holding her, what a glow you have about you. You and Reese deserve each other. I feel terrible for that woman's 2 other children. Reese deserves a good chance at life. I am praying hard for a GOOD outcome (meaning you and Mr. A take her home permanently!)

          Keep us updated.

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          • Oh my, AP, she's an absolute angel! I've never seen such a sweet face!

            I'm jingling my curb AND tractor chains (pulling out the heavy guns for you ) that you get to keep her. Reese deserves a good home, like any other child, and she obviously won't get it with her birth 'mother'. Some people just make me sick.

            Thank the gods there are people like you who are so willing to adopt and provide a loving and nurturing home.

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              <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by goobs:
              She looks like you too - how weird is that? I love the picture of you holding her, what a glow you have about you.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

              You know what's funny? You are about the third or fourth person that has said that she looks like me!

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              • Well she does!!! I always like to think that adoptive babies aren't really adopted. They just got a little lost on their way to earth from heaven until their parents "find" them.

                You are one very beautiful mom. My fingers are crossed very hard for you and Reese. She is breathtaking. She really is.

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                • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by goobs:
                  Well she does!!! I always like to think that adoptive babies aren't really adopted. They just got a little lost on their way to earth from heaven until their parents "find" them.

                  <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  Goobs, that's beautiful.

                  Applesauce, you have my love and prayers. There's a reason Reese found you, and you her. I also agree with getting an adoption attorney, or at least getting a consultation with one..

                  (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) and BE STRONG.

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                  • I missed this thread for a couple days....

                    She is adorable and yes, she does look like you.

                    I am jingling like crazy for you and Mr A and that adorable little girl. Unless that judge wants to see that kid in 15 years doing exactly what her mother is doing now, he ought to let you keep that child and give her the opportunities she would never have otherwise. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you all!

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                    • Jingling curb chains and sleigh bells for you here.

                      Please let the judge make the best decision for the future of this beautiful baby, and for applesauce who so obviously loves her.

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                      • I second and third those who suggest both the adoption attorney (IMMEDIATELY!) and trying to contact the birth father.

                        I'm keeping fingers, toes, and everything else crossed for you. Reese deserves to have you as parents, and you deserve to have her.

                        May EVERYONE (including her s*&t of a birth mother) get what they deserve.
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                        • What a lucky baby!!!
                          What lucky new parents!!!
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                          • Sending prayers your way...

                            This brings up sad memories for me: 23 years ago, we were told a lovely red-haired little girl would be ours, sending our families and friends into frenzies of preparations. I was given a baby shower, the room was freshly painted, the crib was set up. At 9pm, the evening before we were to pick her up, we were told the paternal birth grandparents had shown up at the termination-of-rights hearing to request custody. Six months later, we were blessed with the adoption of our son, but it was an agonizing time. And six years later, we adopted our daughter...who has the name we had picked out for the first cherub.

                            Praying hard for you...

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                            • &lt;&lt;I already thought about the attorney issue. My step father is an attorney and is doing research as we speak. However, because she is still officially in custody of the state and at this point we are foster parents, we don't have any say in the matter at this point. It's not until parental rights are terminated (hopefully) that we can actually begin the adoption process.&gt;&gt;

                              if you get all your ducks in a row with an attorney specializing in this now, then you will be that much farther ahead when the time comes for you to begin formal adoption proceedings. and do try to get the birth father involved NOW - get him to sign away all rights immediately, so he doesn't come back to haunt you in the future and you find yourselves going thru this all over again.

                              &lt;&lt;Unless she signs away parental rights or the Social Services is able to prove her unfit, we are stuck... ...Yesterday the social worker showed up with a little bag of clothes from the birth mother. They reeked of cigarette smoke!! I'll be a good person and wash them&gt;&gt;

                              may be too late, but I'm thinking this would not be a good idea - or at least not all of them. keep some reeking for evidence. reeking of cigarette smoke would indicate she cannot/will not provide a healthy environment for an infant. arm yourself with research on the effects of secondhand smoke on babies' development, enlist a pediatrician, get affidavits from the social worker who picked up the clothes as to their condition and 'aroma' when s/he did.

                              &lt;&lt;She has to start visitation with the birth mother but they are only 2-3 times a week for 1 hour and they are supervised visits.&gt;&gt;

                              good that they are supervised! can you get an unbiased 3rd party to be present during these visits, to testify as to how birth mother interacts with Reese? now she might be all Perfect June Cleaver mommy at first, but, especially if 3rd party is the same every time, at some point her true colours will come out.

                              &lt;&lt;Like I said, I know I'm being selfish but I just can't help it as she's taken such a hold of our hearts.&gt;&gt;

                              NO YOU AREN'T BEING SELFISH!!!! you're thinking of what's best for Reese! she came into your lives at this point for a reason. keep posting here, if you want to PT me go right ahead; I'll give you my phone number and if you want to call me and talk go right ahead. I'm not an attorney but I do have a lot of law enforcement experience and have many cop friends in different jurisdictions; we'll help you however we can. between all of us on the BB we're bound to pretty much cover all the bases for ya.

                              as for judges who return children to obviously unfit parents, yeah, it's absolutely amazing the idiocy that goes on in these situations. blood may be thicker than water, but it ain't necessarily better. and stupid often overrules everything!

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                              • Applesauce: she is beautiful. Absolutely precious, and her going home outfit is fantastic.

                                I would highly recommend a family law attorney who is experienced with adoption issues to help guide you through the process. A lawyer will not only be your advocate in the process, he or she can look into having a guardian ad litem appointed who will represent the best interests of Reese. Sometimes a guardian ad litem can be a big help to potential adoptive parents. Plus, having your own, experienced, attorny who is familiar with the court and the law in this area can take some pressure off of you right now. One resource you also might want to look into are Child Advocacy clinics located at local law schools. They may be able to recommend people who might be less expensive but still very good. The University of Michigan (nowhere near you, but very well respected) has a wonderful Child Advocacy clinic that was run for a long time by Suellyn Scarnecchia, a fantastic lawyer who has alot of experience with these types of issues.

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                                • So much good advice here; I really don't have anything to add.
                                  Fingers crossed and curb chain jingling!

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                                  • Applesauce - What a lovely little one. You are definitely glowing in the photo!

                                    As an adoptee, let me thank you for opening your home and heart to this child. Goobs was right on with the observation that we adoptee's just got a little lost on the way down from heaven... I am tremendously lucky and blessed to have the most wonderful caring parents and family. They are so special to me. They told me I was adopted as far back as I can remember and I always felt it made me extra special, not different. I am also continually thankful for my birthparents, and that they realized, for what ever reason, that I would be better off being adopted, than with them. I am certain that was not an easy decision to make.

                                    I will jingle like crazy for you, that these folks realize what an incedible gift they will give to Reese to let her go and be adopted by you and Mr. A.

                                    Brenda

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                                    • What a beautiful little girl. I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts for a happy ending.

                                      I don't know much about these things, but one thing that occurred to me was that the birth mother and grandparents may just be feeling guilty. If this is part of the situation is there anything you could do to ease this and make them realize how much better off the baby would be?

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                                      • Prayers and jingles from GA. Reese is lucky to have you in her life.

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                                        • MAJOR jingles and prayers for you. I am sad to report that the first thing that crossed my mind when I saw your original post (right after the tears in the eyes for your joy) was "oh, God, the mother is a psycho and they may not have heard the last of her". There is a case ongoing now in Grand Rapids of a total crackhead unfit mother who after 4 YEARS has decided she now wants her kid back, AFTER agreeing to termination of parental rights. They actually took this poor little boy out of a loving home and put him back with his dirtbag birth mother, although you can be sure it's being fought all the way.

                                          I don't say this to distress you (and hope I haven't) but mean to point out that you are not alone--there are some legal precedents being set and hopefully in your case the child's best interests will prove to be paramount! Whatever happens, you have given this little one a loving introduction into the world and that is all we can ever hope to do for our kids, no matter what happens after. Bless your heart and best wishes!

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