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It's a MIRACLE! The last hearing was today 11/10, update on p. 13

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  • Please refer the judge to the COTH BB.
    We'll show 'em what a good family we'll be for Reese! All of these aunties, uncles and equine relatives as well. A fine extended family for any little girl!

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    • Congrats to the Applesauce Family - we'll keep our fingers crossed here!

      mizzwade
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      • Jingling like mad here! She is a beautiful baby and I hope it all works out for you and your family!!

        ~Jilltx

        "If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten"
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        • Jingling here, too! (wish I had more arms, they'd come in handy right about now)

          ~I smile because he's my brother. I laugh because there's nothing he can do about it!~
          ~This is *way* more fun than doing something productive~

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          • Reese is adorable! All of that cute red hair! I'm jingling like mad for you, and I hope everything works out for the best and you and Mr. A get to give her the loving home she deserves.

            Now a newbie at Mary Washington College!

            ~Oh how I wish I were still riding~
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            • Many jingles and prayers for all of you!

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              • I want to PT you Applesauce, about this, let me know if its ok to do so.

                Tara owned by Boo the wonder pinto
                Tara


                A horse already knows how to be a horse;
                The rider has to learn how to become a rider.
                A horse without a rider is still a horse;
                A rider without a horse is no longer a rider.

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                • what a doll! that second pic, she just seems so wise. an old soul for sure.

                  I definitely concur with HSN, you definitely need to get an adoption attorney. and ask around and see if you can get another judge on the case, claiming bias. if it can be shown that the judge consistently rules agains social services you should have grounds for getting another judge on the case. where is the father? has he signed away all parental rights? make sure to get him all tied up in this, too, lest he come back in the future and you have to go thru this all over again. we should be able to deafen that judge with all this jingling!

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                  • Oh I'm jingling like mad and hoping that the court system sides with justice instead of blindly following the letter of the law.

                    You have given Reese the best gift in the world: (no, make that two gifts: the green satin dress is to die for!) your love for the first few days of her life, when there was no one there for her. I'm praying that you'll be given the opportunity to continue that for the rest of your lives.
                    They don't call me frugal for nothing.
                    Proud and achy member of the Eventing Grannies clique.

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                      <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by IrishGreen:
                      I want to PT you Applesauce, about this, let me know if its ok to do so.

                      Tara owned by Boo the wonder pinto<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                      Tara,

                      It's fine if you would like to PT me.

                      "Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." quote from the tv series M*A*S*H
                      Visit my farm at www.hiddenrockfarm.com

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                        <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by canada3dayer:
                        what a doll! that second pic, she just seems so wise. an old soul for sure.

                        I definitely concur with HSN, you definitely need to get an adoption attorney. and ask around and see if you can get another judge on the case, claiming bias. if it can be shown that the judge consistently rules agains social services you should have grounds for getting another judge on the case. where is the father? has he signed away all parental rights? make sure to get him all tied up in this, too, lest he come back in the future and you have to go thru this all over again. we should be able to deafen that judge with all this jingling!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                        I already thought about the attorney issue. My step father is an attorney and is doing research as we speak. However, because she is still officially in custody of the state and at this point we are foster parents, we don't have any say in the matter at this point. It's not until parental rights are terminated (hopefully) that we can actually begin the adoption process. We are talking MONTHS! The father hasn't been involved in the case. He hasn't signed away parental rights at this point, but it's the mother that is supposed to be doing what the judge orders her to do to "prove" herself capable of having Reese back. Unless she signs away parental rights or the Social Services is able to prove her unfit, we are stuck.

                        As far as the judge. Good point in that he may be biased BUT he is the bench judge and in decisions such as this, he has to hear them, you can't get a substitute.

                        As I sit here and type this she is lying next to me, her big wide eyes are searching around and she is just cooing and making little noises. It's the most precious thing. Whatever happens, I'm thankful for this time we've had her in our lives.

                        Yes, she does have wise old eyes. I just hope it's God's will to let her stay with us forever.

                        Next hearing or the review is in another month. She has to start visitation with the birth mother but they are only 2-3 times a week for 1 hour and they are supervised visits. Yesterday the social worker showed up with a little bag of clothes from the birth mother. They reeked of cigarette smoke!! I'll be a good person and wash them and I'll dress her in one of those outfits for her visits. I'm trying to play nice here. But it's hard. Like I said, I know I'm being selfish but I just can't help it as she's taken such a hold of our hearts.

                        "Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." quote from the tv series M*A*S*H
                        Visit my farm at www.hiddenrockfarm.com

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                        • Many, many jingles coming your way, applesauce. It makes me furious that the system encourages and incentivizes taking adoptive children AWAY from their best shot at a successful life, and puts them back in the hands of deserters and abusers.

                          In Reese's case that best shot is very obviously with you, so much jingling will happen out here in northern california.

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                          • Just my opinion but...

                            It doesn't matter if the actual adoption is still a ways off. An experienced adoption attorney can advise you of your rights starting now. If your stepfather is doing the research for you, make sure he is speaking with attorneys that specialize in this.

                            Here's a link you can go to for more info: "Adoptive Families" website - attorney info This organization can also inform you about adoptive parents groups in your area, which are often extrememly helpful both pre- and post-adoption. (I used to volunteer for one.)

                            Here's another site to look at: American Academy of Adoption Attorneys

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                            I'm just the mom....

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                            • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Applesauce:
                              Okay, here's the scoop. Yesterday they had the preliminary hearing. Things didn't go as planned! Supposedly the birth mother showed up claiming post-partum depression and said the reason why she left the hospital was because she had to go home and attend to her other children. Ummm....so she left the 15 month old and the other toddler at home ALONE?? Anyway, the judge almost bought her story...he almost gave Reese back to her. Because of her lifestyle (drugs, partying, numerous men) he did grant a continuance for another hearing in the afternoon which gave Social Services time to get their evidence together and in order. There is also the paternal grandmother that has stepped forward to say she wants to raise the baby.

                              So, we have her for another 30 days. Social Services is bound by law to investigate placing the child with the family if at all possible. I understand that and ultimately want what's best for Reese. BUT...I can't help but be selfish because she has captured our hearts in the few short days she's already been with us. We just adore her and love her to death.

                              So here's the deal. Jingle for God's will. Pray the the judge actually does what's best for Reese...*keep fingers crossed* that she gets to remain with us. Right now we have no say in what happens...we are just babysitting for the state. Doesn't seem fair but we went into this knowing there was still a risk she would be returned...but we also had no idea that the birth mother was going to come foward like this.

                              Pray for us and little Reese. We are just drained emotionally. But on a lighter side she is just the sweetest baby. She hardly EVER cries. Just wakes up and starts cooing to let us know her presense and that she's hungry or that her diaper needs changing. She just lays there and looks around with her big china doll eyes. She's the most precious thing I've ever seen.

                              My poor horses haven't seen me in about 3 days. When Mr. A gets home, I'm going down to the barn and re-introduce myself to the beasties.

                              Again, I can't thank everyone enough for their well wishes. Mr. A and I have read each and every post that was written. We love you guys!

                              "Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." quote from the tv series M*A*S*H<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                              Major Jingleing here. The thought of the birth mom showing back up briefly ran through my mind and I have been praying she wouldn't show but dang it she has. Hopefully the state will do what is right and give you permenant custody of that beautiful darling!!!

                              Hummm, a home with a loving adoptive family or a home with druggie mom..... shouldn't be that hard of a decision for the judge.


                              "You are under arrest for operating your mouth under the influence of ignorance!" MPD Officer Beck

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                              "You are under arrest for operating your mouth under the influence of
                              ignorance!" Officer Beck

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                              • Applesauce that is flat out crazy.

                                Please get a good family lawyer to help you with this.

                                It would NOT be right for her to go back to her "biological family" -- not after drugs, abandonment, etc. are all factored in.

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                                *London*Hannah*Kirsche*
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                                • Major, major prayers here for, as you asked, God's Will.

                                  I join the others in saying I hope Reese can stay with you and Mr. A.

                                  We are here for you, Mr. A and Reese with love, hugs, prayers and anything else we can do; just let us know!

                                  prayers continue, June
                                  \"The world\'s greatest achievements often happen on the edge of chaos\"

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                                  • Jingle Jingle down in dixie - she's just gorgeous!!!

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                                    • I hope everything works out for you, Applesauce. Reese is very adorable and deserves loving parents like you.

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                                      • Jingles, jingles, and more jingles!

                                        What a gorgeous girl she is... She is so lucky to have you loving her!

                                        Amy
                                        Amy
                                        "No philosophers so thoroughly comprehend us as dogs and horses." - Herman Melville

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                                        • I'm jingling like crazy!

                                          Keep a positive attitude and remember if God leads you to it, he'll lead you through it! Surely the judge will consider the living conditions the birth mother (deserter) would provide Reese. Yes, a good lawyer is necessary. Not one to threaten the judge, but just knows his stuff. If it's necessary for character witnesses, I'll bet some of us here can certain take care of that!

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