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It's a MIRACLE! The last hearing was today 11/10, update on p. 13

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  • I'm so very sorry. Reese, as I think we all agree, would have been far better off with you. The wheels of justice grind slowly, and sometimes badly. Perhaps the grandmother will realize she doesn't really want to raise another? We can only hope, for her sake. Be comforted in the knowledge that you did the very best by her, and hopefully you'll be rewarded for that somewhere down the line.

    Please don't let this put you off trying to adopt. Give yourselves time to heal, and then go for it again. This is from an adopted child who is eternally grateful that her parents never gave up, and ended up with her in the end.
    In loving memory of Laura Jahnke.
    A life lived by example, done too soon.
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    • Oh Geez. I was really happy until I read this.

      I will pray that Grandma comes to her senses.
      "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
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      • I am so very sorry. You and your family have been in my prayers and are even more so now.

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        • I'm so very sorry. I can only imagine the pain you are going through right now. You and your family are in our thoughts.

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          • aw, man, A, that really bites. keeping fingers crossed and jingling for you that it doesn't work out with the grandma and you will get Reese back.

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            • Reese -- please don't eliminate adoption. Its VERY different from being a foster parent. Foster parents are seldom able to adopt at the end because there is no determination -- at the beginning -- that adoption is the ultimate goal. But most intended adoptions end happily! They really are two totally different "tracks".

              In the meantime, be comforted (to the extent you can) about the difference you have made in that little girl's life, and how it may have (hopefully) motivated the grandmother to do her best.

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              • So VERY sorry things didn't work out. At times like these I have to struggle VERY hard to remember that which comes very easily to me when things are good: "things happen for a reason".

                I hope the reason will become clear to you in time. You gave this little innocent baby the best possible start in life, and that is a deed that nobody who knows you will ever forget.

                (((hugs)))

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                • The only word that comes to mind is a 4 letter S word......

                  No words will do justice to your broken hearts.

                  may time heal the wounds.

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                  • Oh NO Applesauce! I just can't believe the direction that this has taken! how utterly devastating for you and your husband and for Reese. I'm going to keep jingling and praying and then I'll jingle and pray some more!!!!

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                    • I'm so sorry to hear your news. Jingles & prayers for both of you.

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                      • Awe, sooo sorry! Just remember that you helped her in the beginning!

                        *The horse stopped with a jerk, and the jerk fell off*
                        ~Dani

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                        • applesauce, Please know that you gave that baby a wonderful start full of love and happiness. If she is never yours again, you gave her that most precious of things - love.

                          And I agree that it is not yet over. Things may turn around before you know it. If not, take a deep breath and prepare to love another baby. There's so many out there that would benefit so much from being with you.

                          Now, go hug that baby and those horses.

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                          • I'm so sorry. I realize that you need time to grieve, but please don't give up on adoption. I was adopted after spending 3 months in foster care (this was in the pre-abortion era when there were lots of babies). My parents did not think that they were going to be considered for a second child so they hadn't applied. One day my mom ran into the social worker on the street, and the social worker said, "I have just the baby for you." [I think that it had something to do with me having eczema and my mom being a tolerant pediatrician who wouldn't get scared off by a flaky baby]. Anyhow, you never know when things will work out serendipitously like that. Who would have thought that a chance meeting on the street would determine my family? So don't give up because there is likely a baby out there who needs you as much as you need him or her. Oh, the eczema cleared up pretty quickly, so I turned into quite a catch .

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                            • Oh Mr. & Mrs. Applesauce I am so very sorry
                              I had been hoping for you.. All I can say is I feel for you both right now I don't have the right words though... So sorry...

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                              • Oh 'Sauce - I am so very sorry. I was really hoping that you would get that little doll. What a crying shame - those people don't even deserve her. What a crazy world we live in....
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                                • $%@#!!!!!!!!! Hang in there Applesauce. IT sounds trite, but sometimes you just have to believe in fate. We see it all the time in our line of work, the good and bad side of it. Cherish the wonderful memories you had with Reese and know that no one can take those away from you.

                                  Something good almost always seems to come out of something bad. It may take a bit but that something good will find you!!!

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                                  • I am still praying for all of you. It isn't over 'til it is over. And it isn't over yet. Just keep loving her.
                                    See those flying monkeys? They work for me.

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                                    • I'm SO sorry. Please don't give up, there are so many children out there who need someone to love them.

                                      Go hug the horses.

                                      We are ALL still jingling for you and Mr. A. Who knows what tomorrow might bring?

                                      {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

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                                      -Louisa May Alcott
                                      "My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world." ~ Jack Layton

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                                      • Oh, I'm so sorry.

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                                        • Applesauce, I believe it is a quote from Churchill that ends with "make a difference in the life of a child." You have made an incredible impact on Reese's life. She felt love, safety, compassion and caring. Your hearts must be broken at the moment but when you were needed, you stepped up to the plate. There is another child out there who needs you as much if not more.

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