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  • #61
    Yeah I don't have chores for the horses. Mine are all on pasture, round bales, no stalls. They aren't fed on a schedule because I believe that can lead to colic rather than prevent it. If they miss dinner they don't even notice. They maintain weight fine, even the harder keeper. Dh mows the yard around the house but that's it. They are only groomed when ridden but the ones not in the huge pasture get a 4-corners check daily. The mares in the big pasture wear their feet down pretty darned well with no intervention because they move so much. The others get done as needed. I do occasionally have someone else do that though I'm never thrilled with the results. When I go back to riding the Arab will get boots instead of shoes as keeping shoes on him is a full time job. Little things like that make a difference.

    Minion, I had a Bjorn that I hated so I got a mai tai from infantino. Its great for shopping when she's sleepy since the baby carrier can't go on the cart, and we haven't used it since she was 3 months anyway. I wish I had it earlier.

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    • #62
      Originally posted by fordtraktor View Post
      Over on Eventing some young twentysomething scolded me for admitting that I have to drive when tired. If she ever has kids she will understand why I said I haven't been un-tired in five years. You know, right around the time I got pregnant with #1.
      I almost piped up on that thread then decided it wasn't worth it. The only way for me to avoid driving tired would be to take a cab to work every day. Or give my kid away. Or just quit my job.
      "smile a lot can let us ride happy,it is good thing"

      My CANTER blog.

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      • #63
        Originally posted by caffeinated View Post
        I almost piped up on that thread then decided it wasn't worth it. The only way for me to avoid driving tired would be to take a cab to work every day. Or give my kid away. Or just quit my job.
        Can we all start a "haven't slept soundly in years" club? #1 never slept worth a darn. Is now 4 years old and sleeps through the night 90% of the time, so he is ready to go at 6 am every day. #2 (how did this happen with #1 around?) Wakes up once a night, and like her brother is ready to make it happen at 6...no sleeping in and with my mommy super powers of being on alert 24/7...I've got one ear open for trouble at all times. Had a pregnant coworker complain a couple of months ago about how TIRED she was..."I felt like I'd just closed my eyes and blinked and suddenly it was morning"...my response "Oh my God, how AMAZING would THAT feel to sleep that soundly!"

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        • #64
          One time I drove out to the farm (keep in mind, this is a 1.5 hour drive), parked the car on grass looking at the pasture, and took a nap. I think I spent about ten actual minutes of the visit petting my horse, who no longer really cares about me at all unless I have carrots.

          btw, anyone have hints for getting a kid to sleep past 4 AM in the morning? He sleeps through the night but thinks 4 am is prime time to get up, though he wants to lay with me and snuggle (but not sleep) for two hours. I'm trying a wake-up light but he is resisting my attempts at pavlovian conditioning.
          "smile a lot can let us ride happy,it is good thing"

          My CANTER blog.

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          • #65
            I don't want to make anybody jealous but DD#2, which is little breeches #3 has slept 8-12 hours straight through since she was 3 months. The other night she went 13. I know everybody says that little ones shouldn't go that long without eating, but she is 97% for weight and actually off the chart by 1 1/2" for height. She just likes sleep. Which is nice, because the other 2 didn't sleep through the night for a long time. I am seriously getting more sleep than I have in years.

            I fell asleep driving with DD#1. It was like 11am and I had just picked her up at the sitter's after getting on a bunch of horses. Freaked me out to no end.
            Originally posted by The Saddle
            Perhaps I need my flocking adjusted.

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            • #66
              Originally posted by caffeinated View Post
              One time I drove out to the farm (keep in mind, this is a 1.5 hour drive), parked the car on grass looking at the pasture, and took a nap. I think I spent about ten actual minutes of the visit petting my horse, who no longer really cares about me at all unless I have carrots.

              btw, anyone have hints for getting a kid to sleep past 4 AM in the morning? He sleeps through the night but thinks 4 am is prime time to get up, though he wants to lay with me and snuggle (but not sleep) for two hours. I'm trying a wake-up light but he is resisting my attempts at pavlovian conditioning.
              How old? We have a rule for DS who is now 4 that the sun has to be out if he wants to get up. Because he would wake up at 3 or 4 and want to watch Spiderman
              Originally posted by The Saddle
              Perhaps I need my flocking adjusted.

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              • #67
                I did not see much change in my horse life with one child, two has been far more challenging. Plus they are 7 yrs apart so whereas we were getting to the point of independance, my daughter has dragged us (not unwillingly) back to toddler land.

                Like most, the biggest hit has been to showing. I haven't shown personally for several years. I have a young horse boarding and showing with my coach, I get vicarious pleasure from that. And my son started showing this year and I am having a blast being a pony mom. I can take my daughter along and keep her safe and happy if I am not trying to show at the same time.

                If I show myself I am basically unavailable to my kids for an entire weekend and that is just a no can do right now as I work full time away from home and I don't see enough of them during the week. DH does more than his fair share of child care during the week but on the weekend he is busy with farm stuff and work stuff. As much as I try to "enable" him having a recreation life, he just won't do it.

                I see a light at the end of the tunnel a couple of years from now when daughter is 6 and a bit more manageable at a horse show and son is 13 and able to get himself and pony ready for the ring. Assuming he is still riding and showing (god be willing )

                You need to be super organized, let go of anything you don't absolutely have to do and accept you will not be Martha Stewart. Learning to live with less sleep helps too lol.

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                • #68
                  I am just lucky I guess, because DD was such a good baby. Easy as pie for sure. And I never slept at night anyway.
                  Just like our eyes, our hearts have a way of adjusting to the dark.--Adam Stanley

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                  • #69
                    My daughter was one of those "up at 4 am every day" kids. And that was only after the age of two--she was up several times a night from birth until two.

                    She is 20 now, and I must admit, I snicker when I call her and wake her up. I tell her it's going to take years for paybacks to be done.

                    Rebecca

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                    • #70
                      I kept riding and competing (eventing) while having two kids. For me the main compromise was work, and I knew that I wanted to cut back to a part-time schedule after having kids. I went from working full time as an attorney to working 24 hours per week (but more with emails), and I switched from doing litigation to a less intensive practice. DH has been very supportive, and we worked out before having the kids that I wanted to keep riding and competing. Another compromise was dropping back down to Training level, but last year I finally made it back to Prelim. The obvious other compromises are housekeeping and immaculate tack. Now both daughters (ages 11 and 8) are riding and doing Pony Club, and last year we did an event where we had three generations riding at an event (my mother still events as well). It's crazy, but fun.

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                      • #71
                        Originally posted by vali View Post
                        I kept riding and competing (eventing) while having two kids. For me the main compromise was work, and I knew that I wanted to cut back to a part-time schedule after having kids. I went from working full time as an attorney to working 24 hours per week (but more with emails), and I switched from doing litigation to a less intensive practice. DH has been very supportive, and we worked out before having the kids that I wanted to keep riding and competing. Another compromise was dropping back down to Training level, but last year I finally made it back to Prelim. The obvious other compromises are housekeeping and immaculate tack. Now both daughters (ages 11 and 8) are riding and doing Pony Club, and last year we did an event where we had three generations riding at an event (my mother still events as well). It's crazy, but fun.
                        Now this is what I am talking about. We did horse shows as a family, still do. There were times at local shows that we had cousins kids grandma and grandpa. It was a blast. And so was Pony club. Like I said that thing that suffered somewhat was house work, and DD is now an adult so I really dont have an excuse for it still suffering.
                        Just like our eyes, our hearts have a way of adjusting to the dark.--Adam Stanley

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