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  • #21
    I like reading them as well, just because then I know I am not the only one who deals with this crap at boarding barns. I seem to have special abilities at picking the crazy ones. I have been at some amazing barns, but boarding is not my favorite. I would love to have my horse at home. Sadly, it is not a option at the moment.
    "No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world."
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    • #22
      Ha it is always fun when its someone else. Unfortunately, I'm usually in the thick of it and expected to referee. Can I actually get a paying job as the voice of reason?
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      • #23
        OP -- I love your post. The barn drama threads are a great knock in the head when I sometimes think about taking on boarders again.
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        • #24
          Originally posted by Anne FS View Post
          Nothing sadder than a middle-aged drama llama.
          Except a middle-aged drama whore that involves her children
          Originally posted by The Saddle
          Perhaps I need my flocking adjusted.

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          • #25
            A bit OT, but in keeping with the idea of living vicariously through others....

            Crone, when are you going to update your blog? I seriously love it, and kind of stalk it, in a non-creepy way.

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            • #26
              Originally posted by Oberon13 View Post
              A bit OT, but in keeping with the idea of living vicariously through others....

              Crone, when are you going to update your blog? I seriously love it, and kind of stalk it, in a non-creepy way.
              So true! I read through the whole thread waiting to comment about Crone updating her blog. For those of us that cannot have our horses at home, Crone, your blog is to us what barn drama threads are to you. Please write more soon.

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              • #27
                The threads are great. Nothing like seeing it from a distance. Living through it, no effin' way.
                Courageous Weenie Eventer Wannabe
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                • #28
                  Originally posted by The Crone of Cottonmouth County View Post
                  y'alls collective wisdom.
                  As strange as it looks, the correct form is "y'all's." The word is possessive.

                  In related news: WTF with people using apostrophes willy nilly? Even goodly educated folks are slipping 'em in ever'where. That trend has surfaced here on COTH, too.

                  Did y'all not get past 3rd grade? What happened? I understand leaving 'em out. But why put 'em in?
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                  • #29
                    Originally posted by mvp View Post
                    As strange as it looks, the correct form is "y'all's." The word is possessive.

                    In related news: WTF with people using apostrophes willy nilly? Even goodly educated folks are slipping 'em in ever'where. That trend has surfaced here on COTH, too.

                    Did y'all not get past 3rd grade? What happened? I understand leaving 'em out. But why put 'em in?
                    Yes, they are confusing me, that don't know English grammar, just go by the seat of my pants and mirroring what I see others do.

                    Please write in the kind of English we can emulate.

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                    • #30
                      I have been at the same for for 8 years. I have watched it change hands to different "barn Managers" mixed in with a very control barn owner. Oh the things everyone told me. I kept most of it to myself but it was very entertaining. I learned the hard way to watch what you say to people...great life lesson. Horse people with too much money and no sense are INSANE. haha

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                      • #31
                        I too come here for my ride on the drama llama since the barn where I board is, somehow, completely drama free.
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                        • #32
                          Originally posted by HorsefaceDee View Post
                          I have been at the same for for 8 years. I have watched it change hands to different "barn Managers" mixed in with a very control barn owner. Oh the things everyone told me. I kept most of it to myself but it was very entertaining. I learned the hard way to watch what you say to people...great life lesson. Horse people with too much money and no sense are INSANE. haha
                          Hmmm, around here, insanity in horse people is equal opportunity.
                          Horse people here don't even need to have too much money or any other qualifications to be crazy horse people.

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                          • #33
                            http://www.languagehat.com/archives/003514.php You made me look, mvp. Not horse related in the slightest but interesting in an insane way.
                            Courageous Weenie Eventer Wannabe
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                            • #34
                              Originally posted by mvp View Post
                              As strange as it looks, the correct form is "y'all's." The word is possessive.

                              In related news: WTF with people using apostrophes willy nilly? Even goodly educated folks are slipping 'em in ever'where. That trend has surfaced here on COTH, too.

                              Did y'all not get past 3rd grade? What happened? I understand leaving 'em out. But why put 'em in?
                              Feel better?

                              I'd use the eye roll emoticon, but it's not nearly big and e'x'pr'ess'ive' enough.

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                              • #35
                                Originally posted by mvp View Post
                                As strange as it looks, the correct form is "y'all's." The word is possessive.

                                In related news: WTF with people using apostrophes willy nilly? Even goodly educated folks are slipping 'em in ever'where. That trend has surfaced here on COTH, too.

                                Did y'all not get past 3rd grade? What happened? I understand leaving 'em out. But why put 'em in?
                                Ordinarily I might say "that's an off-topic-day post, why bring it up here/now?" I surely don't want people to obsess over their grammar and spelling just to type in a horse forum. (That goes against my nature but I'm trying to be more tolerant...)

                                However, today I saw an apostrophe in the word "does". The line read "So-and-so doe's not live here". So today, all attempts at tolerance have been temporarily shelved, and I'm my old crotchety intolerant self.
                                Shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you? You are at your very best when things are worst.
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                                • #36
                                  How to combine two zigs or zags on this thread in one action: correct the notes on the white board at the barn that have misplaced apostrophes And yes, I have gone back and returned the apostrophes to their original incorrect places when I realized that it would probably insult someone and therefore cause more drama.

                                  I can't help it, my day job includes editing!

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                                  • #37
                                    Originally posted by Bluey View Post
                                    Hmmm, around here, insanity in horse people is equal opportunity.
                                    Horse people here don't even need to have too much money or any other qualifications to be crazy horse people.
                                    you are soooo right.

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                                    • #38
                                      Originally posted by mvp View Post
                                      I understand leaving 'em out. But why put 'em in?
                                      My "smart" phone often decides if it wants a word to be plural or possessive, even if I want the opposite of what it wants. I have given up trying to reason with the smartphone. It just doesn't want to listen.

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                                      • #39
                                        Originally posted by Bluey View Post
                                        What surprises me regularly is how mean some are towards others, as reflected in the stories that cause the drama and some of the responses to them.

                                        Rather than live and let live, there seem to be more than their share of people that go out of their way to be hurtful to others.
                                        Don't get me wrong, I very much agree. Internet + anonymity = loss of good judgement. I have to stop reading threads when they reach the level of antagonizing the OPs and creating "witch hunts."
                                        Don't fall for a girl who fell for a horse just to be number two in her world... ~EFO

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                                        • #40
                                          I board at a large barn that's pretty drama-free, although we have had blips of drama in the past. I find barn drama threads just fascinating but I think people are interesting. Yes, I was a Psych major.

                                          Really, just fill a barn with midde aged women who treat 1200 lb animals like their children. What could go wrong?

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