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I need serious advice - divorce pending, reducing herd

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  • Originally posted by Kryswyn View Post

    When asked how she handled the volume of dogs and cats she oversaw being euthanized daily, the former head of the ASPCA of NY said, "I never worry about the ones that have been PTS, it's the ones who are still out there, cold, scared, hurt and hungry that keep me awake at night."

    Dr Mengele ?


    • Originally posted by clanter View Post
      Dr Mengele ?
      He let some live....


      • Original Poster

        Hi All, I've come to update -- no good news. Things have gotten worse. I'm asking for cyber-support again, as it helped me so much before. This man is insane, and he has his family believing him....things do not look good today.

        I believe I have court on or around the 9th. Please, please jingle for us. We are not going into the new year with hope, and we just need to feel that again.


        • many hugs and crazy jingles for you!
          Hang in there, this too shall pass!


          • More hugs and jingles! You can and will get through this. We've got your back.
            What's wrong with you?? Your cheese done slid off its cracker?!?!


            • You and I are following the same path time wise and my STBX gets more evil, vindictive and vile each day. Every morning I wake up to a "nasty gram", threats or bullying. In speaking to my wise Sister while at the brink of him breaking me, she said "just think how misriable his life is if he's got all this energy to spend trying to hurt you:. She's right, keep that thought in the back of your mind when things get tough. Happy New Year, it will get better.


              • casper324 is sadly correct. Know this, that this dark path WILL lead to light. Part of the mean-method is specifically in order to get you to crack, to do or say something, anything that can and most certainly will be used against you. Don't fall for this old trick.

                Hang in there. There is life, wonderful life, awaiting you in your future. {{{{HUGS}}}}


                • You are messing with his ego and men can't handle that. Such wimps.

                  Just do what you have to and Do.Not.Let.Him.Get.To.You!!!!

                  Jingles for strength from KY.
                  \"Horses lend us the wings we lack\"


                  • I knew he'd play hardball. PM me after tomorrow and I'll give you some advice. And give you my cell #.


                    • Hugs, jingles, best of wishes. One day the clouds will break.
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                      • Original Poster

                        I will Cloudy. It's awful. I'm losing the farm.


                        • Originally posted by hundredacres View Post
                          I will Cloudy. It's awful. I'm losing the farm.
                          Hang in there!


                          • Hundredacres, I am so sorry you have to continue to go through this. I promise I will continue to keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers and I'm so sad that you are losing your farm. Please keep your spirits up and don't let your nasty ex bring you down. <3


                            • So sorry you are going you are going through this. Prayers and jingles.
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                              • Jingles and good thoughts! You and your daughter will come out of this better, stronger people. (((Hugs)))
                                *OMGiH I Loff my Mare* and *My Saddlebred Can Do Anything Your Horse Can Do*


                                • Hugs


                                  • I am so sorry you are losing the farm. Is that for certain? If so, try to look at it not that you're losing the farm, but regaining your life. Once this is over, you can rid yourselves of the toxins and uncertainty that are currently weighing you down. I've always tried to follow Miss Scarlett's mantra......"Tomorrow is another day".

                                    And in the meantime, jinglejinglejinglejinglejinglejinglejinglejingleji nglejingle
                                    In an age when scientists are creating artificial intelligence, too many of our educational institutions seem to be creating artificial stupidity.—Thomas Sowell, Is Thinking Obsolete?


                                    • Jingles op. I am so sorry for you but it will resolve and you will be a stronger person. Sucks now, to be sure, but your best defense is a strong offense. Trust me, I know about unhinged people with evil endeavors. It isn't a bed of roses coping with memtal illness and vile mean.

                                      I truly hope that 2014 brings you to a better place. I join the legions of others who are jingling for you. Best wishes for a better 2014!


                                      • ((((((((HHHUUUGGGSSS)))))))) to you and your girl.

                                        And save everything to a disk for your lawyer.
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                                        • I am sure it is impossible to believe now, but when the dust settles and your heart has some time to heal when it is all said and done, you will see it worked out for the best for you regardless of what happens. Jingles, stay strong.
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