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I need serious advice - divorce pending, reducing herd

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    omg that is hilarious!

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    • HA, I've been following your thread but don't think I've commented. I am so impressed by your tact and courage. I hope everything works out well for you and your daughter.

      Very best wishes and encouragement from my corner

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        Thanks katarine...thanks everyone!

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        • Pulling for you.

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          • Tidied up my posts . . . my MIL would be so proud (considering that's the only housekeeping I've managed in weeks )
            "Let's face it -- Beezie Madden is NOT looking over her shoulder for me anytime
            soon . . . or ever, even in her worst nightmares."


            Member, Higher Standards Leather Care Addicts Anonymous

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              2horsey...thank you!

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              • Originally posted by dressagetraks View Post
                OT, but it might give you a needed laugh. Talking about things you shouldn't say on FB coming back to bite you, I saw a hilarious story yesterday. This was actually on a local news station site, with names and town and statements from the police, so apparently really happened. Turns out that two drug dealers decided to advertise their drugs on FB. I'm serious.

                The police "liked" the idea. Appointments set up, dealers appeared with drugs and without a clue, and out came the handcuffs. Nothing like making law enforcement's job easy for them.
                Oh, lord. That's like a local teenager here who put pics of his product up on Instagram with prices. The pics were shared with a cop I know, and he had DEA on it within hours. You would think people would be smarter than to post their illega activities on social networking sites.
                "I did know once, only I've sort of forgotten." - Winnie the Pooh

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                • cloudy and callie, great advice as usual! :-)
                  hundredacres, my heart goes out to you. There is a special place in hell for men who walk out on their families. At least I hope there is.
                  Sending jingles and positive energy your way. You sounds like a great Mom and horse Mom.

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                  • well at least you know where they are and that they are safe and not being pushed from pillar to post and end up god knows where

                    you do what you have to mate - do it a stick by it- dont ever be told or think you have done the wrong thing because you have not

                    you do whats right for you and yours---------- period

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                    • just thinking of you, hundredacres. take care.
                      United States Cat Dressage Federation

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                      • I just saw this thread and want to send jingles to the OP. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Hang in there, hundredacres. You are doing a good job taking care of your daughter. All I know is that stbexh will regret his behavior later in life. And your daughter won't forget how he has handled this situation. Prayers sent your way...
                        It's only when a mosquito lands on your privates that you realize there is always a way to solve problems without using violence. fb meme.

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                        • Looking in on you ~ Jingles for a productive but 'boring' week ahead ~ ((hugs))


                          First ``` Condolences for your loss ~ I'm SO very sorry ~ ((hugs))



                          Sending Jingles & AO for a productive but somewhat 'boring' week ahead ~

                          Stay strong ~ take the 'high road' ~

                          Plan your work and work your plan ~
                          Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "

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                          • Thinking of you and crossing everything for a successful hearing tomorrow!
                            ((( <3 )))
                            "Let's face it -- Beezie Madden is NOT looking over her shoulder for me anytime
                            soon . . . or ever, even in her worst nightmares."


                            Member, Higher Standards Leather Care Addicts Anonymous

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                              Thanks so much you guys.

                              The hearing was cancelled because STBEH agreed to the provisional items we asked for. SO the major work lies ahead. In the meantime, we are here, and okay.

                              I have someone very interested in my Haflinger - for a behavioral program, no riding at all. They need a big puppy dog, and he fits the bill. They're close...I'm crossing all parts for this one. I can hardly look him in the eyes....my heart breaks over again, each time I walk out there and see the horses.

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                              • Originally posted by hundredacres View Post
                                Thanks so much you guys.

                                The hearing was cancelled because STBEH agreed to the provisional items we asked for. SO the major work lies ahead. In the meantime, we are here, and okay.

                                I have someone very interested in my Haflinger - for a behavioral program, no riding at all. They need a big puppy dog, and he fits the bill. They're close...I'm crossing all parts for this one. I can hardly look him in the eyes....my heart breaks over again, each time I walk out there and see the horses.
                                Look at it from this angle:
                                The Haffie gets to step out in the world, use what you taught him and pass on your compassion! He will do so much more good in the program than in the pasture, and all the love he can possibly absorb! You are not abandoning him, you are sending off to college!
                                Originally posted by BigMama1
                                Facts don't have versions. If they do, they are opinions
                                GNU Terry Prachett

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                                • Your old horse looks from the picture that you posted on another thread to be in very good condition. I hope you can keep him. Tell the judge it's like having an old dog. Judges relate to keeping old dogs alive even if they think horses are just "livestock."

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                                    Oh Alagirl, college is a perfect analogy . cloudycallie, the old one is a foster, and she is staying, and will be supported by the organization. I'm so relieved for that - she's 33 and doesn't need to be another victim of this situation by suffering from the stress of moving. If we do end up moving to another property, she'll come along and have my 2 mares who she's been with for 6 years. She's very special to a lot of people.

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                                      Mini update: the thoroughbred mare is at her new-old home. This wasn't too hard because she's back in a wonderful place with many talented PC'ers who love her.....but it represents the beginning of the end of *something*, and I feel a tiny bit emptier than I did before. She wasn't happy about being on the trailer, even though she's never, ever had trouble before. It's not the first time it's happened, horses seem to want to stay here .

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                                      • Hugs to you. These dark clouds shall pass as well!
                                        Originally posted by BigMama1
                                        Facts don't have versions. If they do, they are opinions
                                        GNU Terry Prachett

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                                        • hey hey girl------ your winning mate its not like you wont see them time to time
                                          and you know in your heart the old girl isn't going to be around for much longer but
                                          she safe for that time left with people who love her just as much as you do
                                          and haffie ok to bonus ------ your winning - think
                                          horses are a comodity as in a sale able item as in an asset good job your hubby hasn't realised that and got his hands on extra dosh by trying to sell them

                                          as by the time divorce come through they wont be an asset - but remember that for the ones that are left-------- sell them to me as i cant get them ha ha for 1p and i will you a receipt to outfox him that way they are forever yours ha ha to far away haha, i had to do that with a mate buy her horse for 10p and kept him for three years until she could afford to keep him, but i sold him back to her for 10p so she didnt lose him in her devorce

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