I'll miss UDBB. IME... both these boards are actually mostly civil, with a ton of interesting, thoughtful, experienced, and wise people available mostly at your beck and call 24x7. They won't always say what you want to hear... but sometimes that is what we need. Over the years, I've received invaluable advice and support from many of you, and I hope I've been able to contribute back here and there.
If you read something that upsets you, ask (1) if it's really about you personally. Pretend it isn't and go on your way. If you can't do that then (2) try to pretend you never read it and let the person who wrote it think that their message was tragically ignored, a waste of time, pixels, and electrons.
Those two strategies go a long way towards productive interaction.