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  • #21
    Hugs from CA. I am really sorry. I've done the same thing and it's never easy, that lump that lives in your throat. When it's over, you will feel some relief, and then you will know it was the right decision. You are 100% right when you say you'd like to plan it for a good day instead of waiting for it to be an emergency. Better a day too soon than a day too late.

    Give your girl lots of grain and hugs, and then send her off. She's going to a wonderful place.



    • #22
      I'm so sorry. this is the hardest part of being a good horse mom.
      "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
      The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.


      • #23
        I'm sorry Cherry. You are doing the right thing.
        Originally posted by barka.lounger
        u get big old crop and bust that nags ass the next time it even slow down.

        we see u in gp ring in no time.


        • #24
          Cherry, I am so sorry. But you are making a courageous decision, putting your horse's situation ahead of your own desire to keep her with you.
          ((Hugs)) to you at this sad time.


          • #25
            Awww, Cherry, I am so sorry. What an incredibly hard decision to have to make. Sending lots of hugs and jingles your way.

            Godspeed, special mare.


            • #26
              I'm sorry about your mare. Hugs to you.

              Go softly, little mare, and fly swiftly over the Bridge.
              Don't tell me about what you can't do. That's boring. Show me what you can do. - Mom


              • Original Poster

                Thanks, everyone....

                In a few hours it will be over, but the waiting is the hardest part....

                My husband has control over the time he can take off work. I asked him to take today off and he'll be with me for moral support but I actually think this will be harder on him than me. He really loves this little horse even though he's not a horse person and thinks of her as a big dog....

                My goal was to give this horse a home where she would be loved, never starved, be protected and not sent to slaughter--I'm happy to report "mission accomplished!". I wish this for all horses!

                We've had a "good run", so to speak--I've had her for fifteen years....
                "I'm not much into conspiracy theories but if everyone thinks alike you don't need a plot!" ~person from another bulletin board whose name has been long forgotten~


                • #28
                  I will have you, your husband and especially your sweet mare in my thoughts today.

                  Never doubt you did what was right for her.
                  *friend of bar.ka*RIP all my lovely boys, gone too soon:
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                  • #29
                    So sorry for your loss.
                    "The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." Albert Einstein



                    • #30
                      Cherry, I'm so sorry. There really aren't any words, other than the things everyone else has said - you KNOW you are doing the right thing. Also, look on the bright side: you gave your brave little mare a *fantastic* life and the kick-asp retirement that every brave little TB mare deserves. You're a fantastic horse mom, we all know that.

                      Hugs and jingles.
                      "The standard you walk by is the standard you accept."--Lt. Gen. David Morrison, Austalian Army Chief


                      • #31
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                        • #32
                          Cherry, my heart goes out to you and your husband today. What better thing in life than to be loved and cared for.

                          \"If you are going through hell, keep going.\" ~Churchill~


                          • #33
                            Your in my prayers today, and I also feel you are doing the right thing.

                            Jingles and hugs. She was lucky to have you for all those years looking out for her.
                            Last edited by Saidapal; Oct. 16, 2008, 09:42 AM.


                            • #34
                              Big muzzle kisses to you, Cherry. From another TB. As Willem would say, "This it be right."

                              I am very happy you are thinking of giving another TB a home.
                              Special Horses - equine volunteer to assist equines in need!


                              • #35
                                Oh, Dear. You three will be very much in my thoughts today. My once-in-a-lifetime, best dog ever corgi has spinal arthritis that is rendering his hind end useless. His attitude is still great, but half the time on smooth floors, he is dragging himself. So, I'm facing the same thing shortly. You have my sympathy, in bunches.
                                "One person's cowboy is another person's blooming idiot" -- katarine

                                Spay and neuter. Please.


                                • #36
                                  Oh Cherry, I just read this and I'm sorry. She's had such a wonderful life with you and you with her, I'm sure. The ottbs you'll soon meet will soak up every bit of your care and be better for it. That's a fine tribute to your mare.


                                  • #37
                                    Hugs to you and to your mare. So sorry. You are doing the right thing not to let her suffer anymore. She has had a well-loved life with you, a life any animal would be lucky to have.
                                    I tolerate all kinds of animal idiosyncrasies.
                                    I've found that I don't tolerate people idiosyncrasies as well. - Casey09


                                    • #38
                                      I am so sorry you have to make this decision. Just remember, this is hard on you, not the horse, which is at it should be. What is hard on the horse is that knee ... and trying to move without pain.

                                      Euthanasia is not a bad way to go ...


                                      • #39

                                        thinking of you today.
                                        TQ(Trail Queen) \"Learn How to Ride or Move Over!!\" Clique


                                        • #40


                                          I had to put my old mare down on Oct.3rd. I had posted about her impending date since March. I finally made the call. My vet and the man that took the body were so wonderful throughout. I e-mailed them thank you notes and wanted you to read the note that Walter wrote. He is the man that took her body.

                                          Best wishes, pines4equines

                                          Walter wrote:
                                          It was an honor to be there and to help a friend through a difficult task. You gave Mary Ellen dignity in passing and I'm sure lots of love in her life. We all will pass back into earth in the great cycle of life but the energy that gives our soul it's spark is never destroyed and we carry that with us and pass it along in our journey through life. Mary Ellen passed the flame to us that day and we shared our spark of life with one another too. Take care June and my best to your mother as well. Don't be a stranger, contact me if you need anything. -Walter
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