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Do you ever dream about getting to pick out your own horse?

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  • Do you ever dream about getting to pick out your own horse?

    Just wondering.

    I've helped several friends horse shop and while it can be frustrating, it's been really neat to see them find "the horse" instead of "a horse".

    I've never gotten to go horse shopping. I've had horses my entire life....but they've always been horses that were already in the family or in the case of one of my horses now, one that I kind of tried to upgrade even though I knew she was a nutjob. Sort of a "this is the horse you've got--make it work" type deal.

    I grew up doing the same with dogs. I had dogs my WHOLE LIFE and never got to go pick one out til I was 25....I am just in love with my dog. Good breeding, great disposition. Love him. But growing up in the country, we always had plenty of dumped dogs to take in.

    So anyway...given that I have one older confo Mr. Potato head mare who is AWESOME mentally and fun...but not that athletic, and one who is a wench that I'm tired of bending over backwards for...

    I am dreaming of the day when I can go shopping for the horse *I* want. One that has the personality AND the brain AND the body and can do what I want to do.

    Ahhh....to dream.

    Tell me I'm not the only one who has been in horses 30+ years and has yet to pick one out for themselves.
    A good horseman doesn't have to tell anyone...the horse already knows.

    Might be a reason, never an excuse...

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    BuddyRoo - you're not the only one in your 30's yet to pick out a horse. I'm right there with you. I window shop for horses...several times a week, and have been for several years now, and frankly, have no business doing so.

    I had/have a horse, retired, and in all reality, I can't describe her as mine any more anyway - I pretty much gave her away to a good home, with a promise that I'll always take her back. That was five years ago...

    She was the first horse I ever bought - which was when I was about 28. I bought her not because I wanted her or needed to buy her, but due to sympathy and naivete (a terrible combo when it comes to horse buying). I went to look at her for a kid. And bought her because she was skinny. I justified buying her - used her to teach lesson on. Or tried to anyway. But her lot in life was to be a pasture ornament I think.

    I'd been riding most my life, was a groom, showed a ton, did all kinds of riding in all kinds of places on all kinds of horses...none of which were mine, nor did I ever get a say in what happened with them, as they were typically sales horses that belonged to others.

    So now I just window shop. And wish. I'd love to have my own place, get a knock around horse and also a project horse and just have fun. But by the time that can ever happen, I'll probably be too old to do it.

    Now any horse-y moments for me come vicariously through my step-daughter. She rides instead of me because we can only afford for one of us to ride. I figure - I had my chance, it's her turn. Which pretty much just sucks. (martyr anyone?)
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    • #3
      Buddy Roo... I am so sorry that you've never been able to find 'your horse'. Jingles for you that one day you'll be able to go shopping for 'the one'.
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        #4
        Oh no..don't get me wrong...I've had lovely lovely horses....

        It's just that they became lovely to me. And I do what they can do. Not necessarily always what *I* want to do.

        Right now, I really want to jump some stuff. LOL I need a big dumb TB gelding who wants to take me there...tee hee.

        Anyway. I am blessed to have what I have, don't get me wrong. I've just never gone and picked one out.
        A good horseman doesn't have to tell anyone...the horse already knows.

        Might be a reason, never an excuse...

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        • #5
          You are so not alone! The past 2 horses of 'mine' were not picked out by me.

          The first horse was to be my daughters new prospect. I took over the reins after about a year. Turns out he was a great horse for me, but unfortunately died 2 years ago.

          The horse I have now is my hubby's trail horse. Trying to make him into a low-level eventer is interesting, to say the least. I think I was tricked into this one though. We only had one horse at the time (when at one point we had 3) and DH wondered if he could buy back his trail horse. Of course she would sell him back to us! Then I picked up an old broodmare who was on her way to Mexico - couldn't let her go like that. Then DH decided I needed a new truck and trailer. So with all that expense, there are no more $$ for me to get my own horse. Not complainin', just sayin' . . .

          You ride what you have. It makes us better riders and better horsewomen. (But it sure would be nice to pick one just for me.)
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          • #6
            Do you know what? I don't go horse shopping. I have the world's best trainer, and even though I don't tell her to look for a horse for me, when the time is right I get an email or a call and she says "I have the horse for you" and I don't question it, I get that horse! It has only been twice, but the first one was a dressage schoolmaster I paid $3,000 for and the other was a 17 h. TB eventer who couldn't stay sound at Prelim who was FREE! (And FYI she also finds $50,000 horses for people but that's not my budget!)

            My trainer is the BEST at matching people and horses and I am quite certain I would not do as good a job as she does matching me with an equine personality. I told her I wanted a horse that looked like it was crazy but wasn't really. My TB is gorgeous and looks like he should be a lunatic but he and I know I have to keep my leg on on walking trail rides! I am tempted to go on and on about him, but I suspect no one else would be as interested as I am!

            Here's hoping you go horse shopping soon!
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            • #7
              LMAO! So I'm not the only one Buddy Roo???
              I've had a handful of horses...loved a few of them in a HUGE way. I didn't so much choose them as much as either they chose me or they were the ones who fit my budget (one was $1 LOL) and my late mare was chosen by my husband.
              So let's see, I've had:
              A 14.2hh fat as buttah Appy mare (she was the one for $1) but we made do very well because that's how I got into jumpers. She was awesome oddly enough.
              A few handfuls of resales...bought to rehab, polish and resell. I probably can't even remember them all, a few really nice ones for jumpers but I needed the resale money. So never kept those.
              A few years out of horses and ready to get back into them....hubby fell in love with a 17hh Dutch mare. Dressage only according to that mare. I adored her, but we had zero in common, I love jumpers and she hated leaving the ground unless it involved spooking. Not to mention I'm short and looked like a spider monkey on her.
              Bought a 14.3hh APHA gelding...pretty decent for WP. Chose him because I knew the owner and needed a horse to keep Diva Mare company at home. Adored him, real character, still no jumper.
              Bought another 14.3hh AQHA gelding. Reining bred and trained. Still no jumper. Was a replacement companion for my mare because they became inseparable. he's a really cool little dude and I may see if he likes leaving the ground.
              Just 3 weeks ago bought a 15.1hh Appendix Qh gelding. Western. Again. Finally broke down and bought myself a western saddle, LOL! Although the new boy has prospects of becoming an eventual low level jumper. Bought him through ac4h for the great price and the chance to help a horse out and I needed a companion to my companion horse since my mare has passed away.
              Oddly enough...last 4 horse purchases were all chestnut which I usually find a boring color. One oversized spooky dressage mare, 3 western discipline geldings. I ride jumpers. Well, used to.
              My The Horse would be something bold, forward, NOT spooky or timid, NOT tall. Extras would be Appy Sport Horse (preferrably the Wap lines) and icing would be spots or something not chestnut and not grey.

              Or...I could be convinced to have a fun, all around type try a little of everything in the lower levels and trail and game on Baroque horse of spectacular looks and dark color. yeah, like those are easy to find for less than Ivy league college tuition, LOL! (Lusitano...my other fave)

              I also had to laugh over the dog thing...my current dog is one of the very few I've chosen over my lifetime. Being a wildlife rehabber and used to be a dog rehabber I;'ve almost always had confiscated issue canines...and a handful of illegal wolf hybrids. (I'm licensed for the confiscated ones since they're illegal around here) Loved all those dogs...how could you not? but this dog, my Chase, was chosen for his ease of ownership as well as for loving. And he's a birght spot in my every day.
              You jump in the saddle,
              Hold onto the bridle!
              Jump in the line!
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              • #8
                I've been dreaming about this since I was 10 years old or younger (I'm 46 now). I've never been able to own a horse, but I am hoping that this dream will come true for me soon -- maybe in the next year or so.
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                • #9
                  Horse shopping is too much pressure for me. What if I pick the wrong one? I just don't trust my judgment that much .

                  But I do understand - I've managed to inherit some pretty good horses, but still, they've always been someone else's castoff or a rehome.

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by thatmoody View Post
                    Horse shopping is too much pressure for me. What if I pick the wrong one? I just don't trust my judgment that much .

                    But I do understand - I've managed to inherit some pretty good horses, but still, they've always been someone else's castoff or a rehome.
                    I TOTALLY hear you. If given the chance to spend 2k....let's just say at no cost to me...I'd probably look at 100 horses and be totally paralyzed by self doubt.

                    But still. What if I DID come away with THE ONE like my friends have? Eh? eh? How cool would THAT be. LOL

                    Just dreamin'.
                    A good horseman doesn't have to tell anyone...the horse already knows.

                    Might be a reason, never an excuse...

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                    • #11
                      i did get to go horse shopping once. found the horse of a lifetime and gave him to dd to ride. it was not a match and he was sold. he is for sale now but we are down to 2 horses (my retired guy and dd's sweet mare) and it needs to stay that way. my heart breaks everytime i think of that horse.

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                      • #12
                        Dream???
                        More like a nigfhtmare!

                        The last time I went actively shopping for a horse (20 years ago) it took me 2 years to find Music. I dearly love her, but she didn't work out as an eventer. Much better as a dressage horse.

                        The horses I have bought since then appeared when I wasn't actively looking and it was MUCH less stressful.
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                        • #13
                          Ah, yes, but then sometimes the dream is just that...a dream!

                          Lets not forget the number of people who shop for "the one" and end up with "the one who didnt' work out"! At least you didn't spend $30-50K or more for a horse that didn't work out.
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                          • #14
                            My big problem when I do start looking for myself is that I'm SUCH a sucker for a horse with a sob story. How else would I end up with HRH Avery for God's sake??! It's not like I don't KNOW better; I can pick apart confo & analyze brains as well if not better than most. But invariably I end up buying some poor rattletrap old sucker whose performance-oriented humans plain don't want him any more.

                            Case in point: I'm snooping around the known consignments to the big fall ASB sale at the end of the month. Now, logic would dictate I'd be looking at the culls from the big-name breeders - a lot of those weanlings would do JUST FINE and then some in other disciplines. So I look, I analyze, I make a list, and then... who pops up announced as a consignment but a faithful little 12 y/o gelding I saw at a show over the summer packing little kids around, who's so fugly-but-cute only a mother could love him, with NO resale value whatsoever because he was not then (and assuredly is not now) Entirely Sound Behind.

                            So who's on the top of my list to look at in KY? Take a guess...

                            So the moral of this, BuddyRoo, is that it's not always THAT much fun to Pick Your Own.
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                            • #15
                              Definitely. While I love my horse dearly and would never trade him for anything, part of me would like to go find a horse and do the whole horse hunt thing.. I love looking on CANTER and the Finger Lakes horse listings and imagining if I could get one.. (there aren't many for me to choose from, as I'm kind of picky.. must be: 1. A GELDING. 2. Bay. 3. A GELDING. 4. 16h (or a wide 15.3h). 5. A GELDING.)

                              Unfortunately, my horse won't live forever, so I'm sure that someday I will be picking out my own horse... and wishing my horse was still around so I wouldn't have to.
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                              • #16
                                *sigh* I like to look at Dreamhorse. Not because I need another horse, but because I like to try to pick one out for myself. I have always had the horses that picked me, never the other way around. I hope someday I'll be able to choose one for myself, but I fear that there will always be one that needs me waiting to pounce and proclaim me as his "person", and how can you say no to that?
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                                • #17
                                  I dream every single week of this but..................................it also entails winning the lottery. That way, whether it is a good match or not, be she sound or not, it doesnt matter. She will have a forever home.

                                  OH yes, I know she is a mare because, about 9 years ago, I found a mare for sale, she was 4 then. She was in VA, and her name was Playgirl. I fell in love with her and have never ever gotten that mare out of my head. I wonder whom and where she went to and what did she do for her $45,000 dollar price tag. I would have bought her in a heart beat, without a prepurchase even had I had the money.

                                  But, I do plan on winning the lottery. I spend it every week on you guessed it, the horses and dogs and giving tons away to other rescues. NO fancy house, a tiny tiny one. HUge barn, huge with all the horsey likes. And every week, I have fun spending it in my mind.

                                  I guess in fact, I do have my dream horse. I have 30 or so of them. Each of them has something about them that is a favorite, couldnt be better so what would I do with another. hahahah Love it.
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                                  • #18
                                    Originally posted by BuddyRoo View Post
                                    I am dreaming of the day when I can go shopping for the horse *I* want. One that has the personality AND the brain AND the body and can do what I want to do.

                                    Ahhh....to dream.
                                    Well, I got my first horse at 12 and my parents and instructor had been on a search, he had been carefully picked out, and he was everything I needed at the time.

                                    After him, every horse that came into my life was sort of random-- a weanling filly that was getting tossed by a breeder, an older arab gelding whose owner (my aunt, sadly) was entirely absentee, a gelding who was in horrible condition and who I just couldn't leave at the dealer's, and now a friend's teenaged TB that has run out of options in life.... you get the picture....

                                    Except Dan. He was the horse I always had in my head, and my dreams, but never expected to own. In planning for his arrival, I sometimes wondered if he'd truly be everything I hoped he'd him be... sometimes expectations can kick us in the ass.... but he really was, absolutely, and positively. Down to the letter.

                                    I'm not inclined to go looking again for another horse. If horses find me, I guess that is ok. But since my "dreamhorse" fantasy was fulfilled once in my lifetime, I consider myself lucky.

                                    BR, maybe it is time to find YOUR horse. Maybe you're at that point. It is a totally different experience than having random horses come your way.

                                    I bet THE horse is out there for you, somewhere, waiting for you to find it...
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                                    • #19
                                      I've had horses for 30 years too... I guess I've probably picked out some horses. But somehow I get the feeling that they have all picked me.

                                      I think horse shopping as an adult and choosing "just the right" horse would be a unique experience. I don't know if the results would be anymore satisfying than seeing the stars align and having the latest "right now" horse land in my lap.
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                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by War Admiral View Post
                                        Case in point: I'm snooping around the known consignments to the big fall ASB sale at the end of the month. Now, logic would dictate I'd be looking at the culls from the big-name breeders - a lot of those weanlings would do JUST FINE and then some in other disciplines. So I look, I analyze, I make a list, and then... who pops up announced as a consignment but a faithful little 12 y/o gelding I saw at a show over the summer packing little kids around, who's so fugly-but-cute only a mother could love him, with NO resale value whatsoever because he was not then (and assuredly is not now) Entirely Sound Behind.

                                        So who's on the top of my list to look at in KY? Take a guess...

                                        So the moral of this, BuddyRoo, is that it's not always THAT much fun to Pick Your Own.
                                        War Admiral... if I told you how many horses followed me home from Tattersalls....
                                        Grey Horse was the last one. Mom asked me to help her pick a broodmare package, and what did I raise my hand for? A 2 yr old green broke gelding I had seen from a distance once. (I still remember his face from that one quick glance) I knew better than to go up to take a closer look, but he got me in the end
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