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A Bit Bittersweet

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  • A Bit Bittersweet

    The first day of the New Year will always be a bit bittersweet for me...

    For our wedding, DH realized my dream of making my own dressage horse from scratch, so together we bought Wasabi from my BO. She was my dream horse. Quiet, tolerant, good looking...

    Then, on New Years morning, we got a call from my BO's husband to get out to the barn because Sabi was down and it didn't look good. She'd somehow managed to her hind legs between the bottom of her stall door and the floor, and torn them to shreds. I'll never forget the look on the vet's face when he showed up. I remember my BO asking 'the hardest question' and then him suggesting that we take her to the clinic to really see what was going on. So we did. She loaded like a dream, and was perfect for x-rays, despite the pain that she had to have been in.

    He suggested that we put her under so we could clean out the wounds. So we did. I wish I had given her a snuggle before. They led her right past us, and she stopped and looked at me. I told her it would be fine, and I'd see her on the flip side.

    After about an hour of waiting, the vet came back in with a syringe full of joint fluid. She had holes the size of bottle caps in both pastern joints. He showed us how he could push fluid right through. What was more, she had torn both rear check and suspension ligaments. He said that he could repair it, but that she'd would hardly have a chance of being even pasture sound, and that was if she didn't get an infection. She would have had to be on stall rest for a long time.

    So we made the decision to let her go while she was still under.

    I just wish I could have said goodbye.

    RIP my little Sabi. June 2011- Jan. 1, 2012. We miss you! Her name plate and little leather halter are hanging up in my entry way. I touch them both every day. I have some tail hair in my jewelry box as well.


  • #2
    (HUGS), wish I had some perfect words that would make it better......


    • #3
      How sad, I hope you get another chance someday and she guides you to the perfect one. Godspeed.
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      • #4
        You DID say goodbye...

        "When life gives you scurvy, make lemonade."


        • #5
          So sorry - the first anniversary has to be the hardest, but as another has said, one day you'll be guided to another, even if there is always a place in your heart for Sabi.



          • #6
            As Grandma used to tell us in such situations, only those that have them can lose them.
            That is part of the deal.
            Glad you had her, even if you did lose her.


            • #7
              I am so sorry. Such a sad day for you Remember, it doesn't have to be "goodbye" but "until we meet again".
              Certified Spiritual Medium/ Animal Communicator


              • #8
                Aw man... I'm sorry.. So sad to read.
                Race training and retraining Thoroughbreds.


                • #9
                  Ugh, what a rough beginning to the new year. So sorry for your loss.


                  • #10
                    I am sorry you had to go through this. Sabi was truly special; incredibly sweet, affectionate, very well built and an awesome mover. Sometimes there isn't any any sense to be made of these things. Just know that you gave her the final gift of peace instead of forcing her to go through the hell that treatment would have been. You're due for some good horsie karma.
                    "The captive bolt is not a proper tool for slaughter of equids they regain consciousness 30 seconds after being struck fully aware they are being vivisected." Dr Friedlander DVM & frmr Chief USDA Insp


                    • #11
                      Here's another shot of Sabi with her mom, Willow just so everyone can see what an amazing filly she was.

                      "The captive bolt is not a proper tool for slaughter of equids they regain consciousness 30 seconds after being struck fully aware they are being vivisected." Dr Friedlander DVM & frmr Chief USDA Insp


                      • #12
                        I am so sorry. It is painfull to let them go.


                        • #13
                          Oh God. My heart broke for you. Am so glad you had thAt last little moment of communication when she looked at you. RIP beautiful Sabi.
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                          • #14
                            I'm so sorry! You did the right thing letting her go while she was under. You did the right thing. You did the right thing.

                            I'm so sorry.
                            I have a Fjord! Life With Oden


                            • #15


                              • Original Poster

                                Thank you, for posting the picture, Ptowne, you took some really lovely ones that day!

                                She was a special girl. She got DH hooked on horses. I gave her Momma a lifelong home with a job, so I feel like I have a little piece of her still. It's just hard to see such a wonderful girl go away. I'm sure you all know.

                                Thank you for the kind words. They made the day a little easier. I really appreciate them.


                                • #17
                                  That is so sad, Im so sorry for your loss.


                                  • #18
                                    The Equine Wellness and Nutrition FB Group - Come join us!!


                                    • #19
                                      Oh no!!! I am so, so sorry for your loss, poor little girl

                                      Rest in peace Wasabi

                                      (((((((((big hugs)))))))))


                                      • #20
                                        I'm so sorry -
                                        "If I am fool, it is, at least, a doubting one; and I envy no one the certainty of his self-approved wisdom."