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  • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Lazy Palomino Hunter:
    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by copperdolly:
    After reading the thread entitled "Too fat to ride???" I was just curious as to what other riders weigh. If you feel like commenting, how big is your horse compaired to your weight?

    Show like you are #1, train like you are #2.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    I am 5'9" and about 107 (give or take a pound or two either way).

    I ride hunters.

    Alison

    *Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups*<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    Thought I would add a pic of me riding.

    If I had a "conformation picture" of me, i would post it

    Alison

    *Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups*
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    • I thought I would add my 2 cents....I am 20 years old, 6'1 tall, and I weigh 145 lbs I have a D-Cup bra, mostly due to my birth control pills, but was always pretty chesty. I ride a 15 hand horse. I have also battled eating disorders since I was 15. If you are already upset with this thread, please don't read my post, and please don't criticise anyone. It doesn't matter what size you are, as long as you're beautiful on the inside.

      I come from a European family, where most foods were prepared in mass quantities and often came with rich, thick cream sauces. The theory was eat more, be happy. When I was about 14 or so, I weighed nearly 200 lbs. I was disgusted with myself, but my mom justified it with 'oh you're just growing' which I was, but I wasn't eating properly to fuel it, so I was almost always hungry.

      I took a job that consisted of a lot of sitting around, and fell into the old, I'm bored I'll eat phase. I met a really nice guy, who I thought cared about me, and later discovered he was telling all his buddies how he would 'score with the fat chick'. I heard about this from a friend, and vowed to get skinny to get back at him. SO I went on the 'binge and purge diet.' That lost me a bit of weight, but, in my eyes not enough.

      I progressed further and further, until by the time I was 18, I weighed about 170, having struggled with my weight constantly.
      That summer, I met a very good friend, who was also very skinny. We went out to alot of clubs and bars, and I wanted to look as good in tiny clothes as she did...

      So we developed our own diet-Literally: the Iced Cappucinos from Tim Horton's and as many cigarettes as we could smoke to kill the hungriness (ciggies are an appetite suppressant)diet. I also started taking uppers to keep myself active and busy at all times. I was down to about 135, and looked like a walking skeleton. I wasn't eating hardly at all, had constant shakes and refused to eat or drink in front of anyone. I was always tired and looked like crap. I all but stopped getting my period, and looked pretty pasty. My fingers were yellow from all the smoking and my hair started falling out too.

      This summer I met a wonderful guy, who has been trying sooo hard to help me, and with his help, I feel I can do anything. I am gaining weight, and feel better. He cooks me great dinners, and we love to go out together, and he always comes out to the barn to see me ride. I work out lots too. I love him with all my heart, and I'm terrified to thnk where I'd be without him. He has so much confidence in me, and we have a blast together. Some days I still look in the mirror and hate the way I look, but then I think of how much muscle I have, how 'cut' my abs are going to be, and how tight I'll look at the clubs, and I think I'll be ok. I don't think it really matters what you look like, as long as youre healthy. Muscle weighs more than fat, and IMHO, I'd rather see a 'heavy' more muscular girl than a twiggy unhealthy looking one like I was.
      Cheers
      ~**Unofficial founder of the Tall People Clique**~

      Member of the Klutz Klique, Thread Killer\'s Clique, and the Mighty Thoroughbred Clique

      \"Private Pyle-What is your major malfunction?!\"
      -Full Metal Jacket

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      • I'm about 5'7" to 5'8" and weight around 150 lbs for the last year. I have no problems with my weight, could care less about it actually. My 15.3 mare carries me around just fine the way I am.

        Jessica
        Jessica

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        • AIn'tNoFoolinAround-
          Great to know you are doing well! Im um, ya,well, kinda lets see..."struggling" lets call it that
          How did you get better? In other words, what is your secret?
          You can email me if you'd rahter...indyanajones2000@yahoo.com

          THanks and good job!

          ** Proud member of the Klutz Klique and the Appaloosa Clique**
          If riding were all blue ribbons and bright lights, I would have quit long ago.
          ~George Morris

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          • Ain't and maybe Miss Capital:

            I have been where you are- Overweight from too much Italian cooking, lost a lot of weight (for a guy) in my late teens, early twenties, and struggled through my twenties to find my own body image, and to find my "peace" with food. Just want to say that there will come a day when you this issue will be put to rest- it may rear its ugly head from time to time (I have permanent metabolic damage left over from my battle, but I can manage it), but for the most part, good eating and exercise habits, lots of love from friends (and even a "special" friend), and, for me, an increased faith in the Creator, have all resulted in a very healthy outlook on this subject. As my friends battle the middle aged bulge, my issues have already been resolved- I believe my weight will never change for the rest of my life.

            Good luck- hang in there!

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            • I've been stewing about this, so have to chip in -

              I'm 40, 5'10", about 140 pounds, and admittedly on the thin side. You can see my ribs. Now, if I were my horse, I'd put me on a high fat diet. BUT, I'm a 40 year old human with both parents having diabetes and heart disease, so I'm not going to do that, and I'm going to continue with my low fat, low sugar diet. I eat lots of lean meat and vegetables and fruit, as well as my fair share of carbs (so maybe the low sugar part is a stretch), and eat as much as I want. I also exercise every day and ride about 5 times a week, so I don't think it's surprising that I stay thin, and even my riding coach, who remarked that I'm skinny, said that I have more than enough energy. And, I don't think I'm dangerously thin.

              My rant is that anyone and everyone feels they have the right to come up to me and say "You're too skinny." How come that's okay, when most people would never think of walking up to a person with a little more padding and saying "You're too fat," at least without being willing to be punched? I understand the dangers of eating disorders, but being too far either way is dangerous. Social culture is a funny thing...

              End of rant.

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              • This thread has had me on a roller coaster - mostly pretty disgusted, then feeling like some people are actually normal out there, then scared for some people...

                I totally agree with the point of What Would You Think if Your Horse Were Too Skinny? I'll take the big, fat, shiny one any day!! THe scraggly skinny guys with bones jutting out everywhere and dull coats and no forelock can stay in the barn, THVM. Same thing goes for us, a wisp of a rider does not look good to me- Ineffective, and usually not a solid, supporting ride for the horse. I've got a mare who is a fnatastic looking hunter - nice and round and muscled up. If some skinny thing got up on her, she'd look silly! With a substantial animal, you need a substantial rider or the "suitability" is all off. This may be too OS for me, but all these anorexic looking juniors (not ALL of them, but you know who I'm talking about) up on their 17.2h hanoverians in teh big Eqs look ridiculous. It makes an otherwise very attractive animal look like a BEAST!! We all know certain GP rider who looks disgusting on a horse, and all I hope for every time is that the horse takes care of her, cause if she fell, she'd snap right in front of me.

                All the numbers being posted here are ridiculous. Please, any of you thinking you're too big compared to any of the "110 ish" posts, remember who might be posting these things. If you have complete faith that everyone on here is being completely honest and accurate with those statments, then you deserve to feel badly. I mean, honestly, what percentage of women are EVER completely honest about their weight? They might be relatively close, but I can guarantee you NONE of them erred on the high side!

                I have to say, I'm pretty darn comfortable with my weight. I'm definitely taller than average, and fit most of my clothes well. I'm FAR more worried about finding things with long enough sleeves and pant legs than what the number on the tag says. Seriously, if wearing such and such a size is such a problem for anyone, then cut the damn tag out!! I choose to be more focused on whether my leg is effective enough then what my breeches size is. Those things are cut all funny anyway, and trust me, the judge can't see what size my TS are. It's the leg that gets me the ribbons TYVM.

                It's really wild how riders get so focused on being skinny. Think of men - the BF would just DIE if he fell below 200, for fear his friends would pick at him for being too skinny. I can't tell you how many men have said it's a relief to hang out with a woman who isn't constantly putting her body down, and are always looking for compliments from them. That gets real old real quick. Ask any guy: A woman's confidence about her body is one of the sexiest things out there. (I'm just fine with the BF's eyes on my a$$ too much to tell me how my changes look. "What change? Why do you ask me about that? I just like watching you go over the jumps so I can check out your 'form!'")

                I really could care less what some stupid scale says, they're all different anyway. In my book, it can all be judged by how you look coming over the last fence on course. If you're blue in the face, you need to evaluate your fitness. If you're grinning from ear to ear, I think you're doing something right!

                Which came first, the truck or the trailer?
                Which came first, the truck or the trailer?

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                • <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by RixChik:

                  My rant is that anyone and everyone feels they have the right to come up to me and say "You're too skinny." How come that's okay, when most people would never think of walking up to a person with a little more padding and saying "You're too fat," at least without being willing to be punched

                  End of rant.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

                  Could it be because being skinny is associated with mostly positive qualities...beauty, self-control, hard-work, success. Whereas being overweight is associated with negative qualities...laziness, lack of self-control, being a slob, etc?

                  My rant: why does everyone assume that because I am a tad overweight that I eat like a pig, never work out, and sit in front of the TV all the time? I had a friend who ran track in college stay with me for a month...boy was she surprised when she left. She kept telling everyone how active I was and told me she was surprised to see that I didn't 'overeat.' I got the body my genes determined that I should have (just like skinny people did) and trying to change it too much is futile...so I would appreciate it if society would stop "blaming" me for being larger.
                  Keith: "Now...let's do something normal fathers and daughters do."
                  Veronica: "Buy me a pony?"

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                  • It made me very sad to hear that some of you are struggling with your self image. I struggled with anorexia and bulimia for three years...I started off just not eating. And if I did...it was a couple of crackers here, a half of a plain bagel there, all recorded in my highschool day planner. I was fully immersed in my riding and my body was constantly craving sustenance b/c of the exercise. I even started to jog religiously and do at least 100-200 crunches a day and I stopped having my period. I was constantly on the scales. I was 16 years old, 5'4" and trying desperately to lower my weight from 105 to 100. My parents had been concerned but I had been crafty in concealing it from them.

                    My mother finally confronted me and told me that if I did not start to eat, she would not let me ride anymore. I had been showing all year on the "A" circuit in the children's and this ultimatum devastated me. So, I started to eat...and that's also when I started to make myself throw up. I can remember so badly wishing that I could eat whatever I wanted like normal people and not feel bad. I went to Mexico on a humanitarian aid trip that year...seeing people who did not have a choice but to go hungry seemed to trigger something. It hasn't been easy and every once and a while I struggle again but I am no longer obsessed with my weight.

                    To those of you struggling...DO NOT GET ON THE SCALES!!! I have no idea what I weigh and am happy that way. For the first while, go for a jog after you've eaten a meal if it makes you feel better. Also, find someone who you can be accountable to. It's hard to admit that you have an issue I know...and for those of you who are telling yourself that you don't...that's a sure sign that you do! Please, please...find someone you trust and ask them to help you through this.
                    \"Don\'t go throwing effort after foolishness\" >>>Spur, Man From Snowy River

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                    • To answer the original question: Less and less every day. To hell with the scale - my jeans fit!


                      Pax et Bonum - Inverness
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                      • Not fair, Inverness! Mine are getting tighter and tighter every day!

                        "I can justify anything!"
                        \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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                        • Time for me to hop up on my soap box....

                          When I was 13, I decided I was too fat. Looking back, I realize I was not fat, or even pudgy. I was just solid and muscular. I was about 5'7" and I wore about a size 10.

                          By the time I was 14, I had starved myself down to a size 0 or 2. I could not wear ladies size xs panties...they would fall off!!! My high school contacted child services. I had to go to my doctor for weekly weight checks. My body had no reserves. I got a sinus infection in August and it did not clear up until the end of March!!! My nerves in my left arm and leg became afflicted with a disorder which put me in a wheelchair.

                          I had a promising future with riding, but I lost the last 4 years of my junior "career". I had to learn to walk again while my friends were at horse shows.

                          I am able to walk and ride again. I have arthritis in my back and hip. I lose some use of my left leg now and then. I am 25 years old and I am now 5'11" and wear a size 6. The sick thing is, I still feel fat, but I'd rather be able to walk and ride than wear a size 2.

                          PLEASE.....If you are obsessed with your weight, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. Pleasing someone like GM by having stick like thighs is NOT WORTH LOSING YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!
                          Beth

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                          • I wasnt going to respond to this thread because I think it could be a damaging thread. There seem to be a lot of people who are well below a healthy weight and yet seem to think they are very fat. People should look at the BMI index (i think it is BMI)it can give you a better perspective about what an ideal weight is.

                            Also, i assume that since this is a riding related board, most people are getting at least some excercise- if you are below your healthy wieght, you do need to be aware that while you are exercising, you may actually be working off muscle rather than fat- your body can only burn the extra calories, then it starts in on your muscles.

                            I wasnt going to post my weight but I changed my mind- I am not riding now (stupid university) and I gained some weight after being with my boyfriend for awhile. I realized that I was not eating healthy at all and was doing next to nothing exercise wise. Last August, I realized how unhealthy i had become- yes, my first thought was "oh my God, Im so fat" but truthfully, I wasnt really fat, just not in great shape. I am 5'5 and before I started working out I weighed about 170 pounds- I still looked good (actually, i had nicer breasts then...lol) but I wasnt healthy. Now I am down to about 150-155 depending on the time of month. I realize that I am never going to be a size 1 and i dont care- size 8 is healthy for me and my body type.

                            Sorry about the REALLY long post but I felt like I had to point out that many of you who say you are fat are in fact not at all, I actually havent read a single post here where I left thinking that the person was dangerously overweight. Please, everybody, talk to your doctor, not your friends, fashion mags, other riders- talk to a doctor about what is a healthy weight for you, your body, your lifestyle.
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                            • When I graduated high school I weighed 115 and was 5'8". Now, some 20 years later I am 160 and 5'8". Then I looked like a skinny boy. Now I look like a normal, moderate weight curvy woman (ask Mr. Larosa, he'll confirm it!). I was often very sick as a kid, and had irregular (usually nonexistant) periods in my teens. I gained 30 pounds in college and rarely got sick and got some curves, which interested the boys, which made me happy.

                              Today, I look at the very wonderful beautiful wife of my trainer and I think she is so healthy and the good kind of fit skinny. I tried to give her an old riding jacket that didn't fit me any more. It fit her the same way it did me -- way too tight. A few months later, she was going through her closet and she found a jacket that she thought would fit me because I am smaller than she is, or so she thought. It was the same jacket in a different color that I had tried giving her. We both look at each other as being smaller than we are, but yet her husband has often remarked when one of us has forgotten something like boots or show shirts that we should just wear each other's things and we are shocked -- "no way I could be that thin."

                              The moral of this story is that if you are healthy and happy and in the range of good weight for your genes, then you are beautiful. People will think you look good, regardless of whether you are a size 6, 12 or 18.

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                              • You and Marie are both perfect, imo.

                                "I can justify anything!"
                                \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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                                • 4'9 about 85 lbs. I am an adult rider. I ride a medium. I fit the smalls better, though. Lori

                                  Editing because I replied after reading page 1, skipped to page 8 and whoa!!!
                                  I erred on the high side of my weight, I think. I have to stay away from scales most of the time. I was anorexic back in my early 20's. Never could get into purging (I gave the girls at the hospital a hard time about this, too. I found it much easier to just NOT EAT than to ICK throw up). I got down to 67 pounds and was dying--literally.
                                  I may weigh myself every few months or even go over a year. I can pretty much tell my weight by the way I look (I am over 30 now). Measuring tapes are a no-no, too. 6' models with 18 inch thighs would get me all upset. I have rider's legs, they are not skinny. I hate it.
                                  I think as long as society pushes "thin is beautiful" girls and women will struggle with their self image. It is ingrained in our heads from a young age. I also cannot pick up most magazines. Gets me feeling inferior.

                                  Founder and sole member of the "Nobody Clique"

                                  [This message was edited by Lori on Mar. 21, 2003 at 09:58 PM.]
                                  Proud to have two Takaupa Gold line POAs!
                                  Takaupas Top Gold
                                  Gifts Black Gold Knight

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                                  • Wow reading everyone's posts was certainly interesting..

                                    I'm 5'4" and about 120-125 lbs. I have one of those pear-shaped bodies that is really thin on top (with no boobs ) and with a rounder butt and thighs. In highschool I was one of the skinniest girls at 115lbs. There were few girls who wore size 1 or 0 and we made fun of them for being so skinny. All through that time I had a positive body image, and was confident and happy with myself. I took a year off from school, and when I hit 20 I began to get a little rounder in the hips.

                                    Now I'm in college and that positive image is starting to change. I walk around the campus, and I go to pub night, and I am one of the heavier girls now. Everyone is a size 2 or less and that is so scary! When did it become cool to be a skeleton with your skin hanging off your bones?

                                    My boyfriend says he loves my rounder hips which makes me very happy. I try hard to fight the desire to get skinnier, and I try to eat healthy and ride as much as I can, and stay fit. I am one of the few that is happy with myself.
                                    "Show me your horse and I will tell you who you are."
                                    "Pocket Aces" Vegas
                                    "Sergeant Pepper" Pepper

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                                    • One of the things I like about being an ammy is that we can do/wear what ever we want, and no trainer who wants to live to see tomorrow is gonna give us any grief. As a kid I remember being told I was getting fat (just before a growth spurt) by my trainer, and I always wore the "slim" kids clothes. I was devastated, but I was already not eating enough for the calories I was burning with riding and everything else (see above post). Thankfully I started to eat more just to spite the trainer rather than going the more dangerous route -- it would have been so easy to do it.

                                      Duffy, thanks for the complement above. For those of you who don't know queen Duffy, she too is a goddess is every way. :

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                                      • HAHA, Larosa! So not true! But thank you anyway. Us ammies can use all the MAS (mutual admiration society) we can get!

                                        "I can justify anything!"
                                        \"Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed.\" -- Ralph Waldo E

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                                        • Any tips on getting to a friend with an eating disorder?

                                          One of my friends "Sarah" (I've been going to school with her since kindergarten) has one. She won't admit it, and she gets angry and defensive whenver someone tries to talk to her about it. It started in 8th grade, I think..she lost 23lbs that year. She was looking pretty gaunt, and her hair was getting damaged. This year (9th) she seemed to be getting better, as in she was happy with who she was, etc.

                                          I remember earlier this year, we were talking about a mutual friend of ours who always is saying how skinny she is, etc..(and she is, but not crazily skinny, just thin) and Sarah was saying how much that bothered her, when our friend said that. She also mentioned that I didn't flaunt my weight, though I weighed less than she did, and that she was so proud of losing that much weight, and how she felt happy about her looks. I told Sarah that she was really fit before (which she was) and she didn't need to lose all of that weight. Sarah smiled.

                                          So the year goes on, and she eats lightly, but at least she eats!! A few months ago, though, she spiraled into her problem again. She skips lunch, works out AND rides everyday. She is really, really sick. Her hair is damaged and frizzy, her skin is pale, her clothes hang off her..and she used to be soooo unbelievably pretty. She was muscular, athletic, naturally tan. NOT FAT AT ALL BY ANY MEANS!! Though she wasn't a stick, she was thin and really healthy.

                                          My friends and I don't know what to do..she won't ever talk about it, and gets so mad. Her parents realize that she has a problem, and some people told teachers last year. She lies, though, to her parents and tells them she eats at school. She is so gross right now.

                                          Please help. Those of you who have had eating disorders in the past, your imput would be appreciated!

                                          "Friends don't let friends have mullets."
                                          \"Friends don\'t let friends have mullets.\"

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