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  • #61
    I voted "other". It depends on the person and the context. All the vets start out being called Dr Lastname when we are conversing in a professional capacity. A couple of vets then went to being called Dr Firstname. (And we enjoyed saying "Oh, no Dr Bill!!" )And a couple asked to be called by their first names. (Yeah, I have dealt with a LOT of vets over the years!)
    Some of the vets I have spoken with about non-veterinary stuff - then it goes to first names.

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    • #62
      There are three vets at the practice that we use for our dogs and the fosters. The head doctor, whose grandfather began the practice, usually gets Dr LastName. The other two are a little more laid back (one of them just told me on a voicemail message, to 'Holla back'.... non-ironically) and i usually call them either first name alone, or Dr FirstName. Normally, and in other practices, i use the Dr title and last name, but here the vet techs and office staff are really casual and call/refer to the doctors by their first name, so I took their lead.

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      • #63
        I am surprised that no one has mentioned what the veternarian calls them. Now if you are fairly young, obviously you are called by your first name. If you are a geezer like myself, and a vet calls me by my first name, I try to follow suit, especially if they are a lot younger. I call everyone I do not know well by their title and last name but I am a bit formal (according to my children). It irks me no end when a medical doctor I do not know well calls me by my first name.

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        • #64
          Originally posted by trafalgar View Post
          I am surprised that no one has mentioned what the veternarian calls them. Now if you are fairly young, obviously you are called by your first name. If you are a geezer like myself, and a vet calls me by my first name, I try to follow suit, especially if they are a lot younger. I call everyone I do not know well by their title and last name but I am a bit formal (according to my children). It irks me no end when a medical doctor I do not know well calls me by my first name.
          I agree! My vets are Dr. X (occasionally first name, but only if they instigate it). My physicians are also Dr. X and I was interested that when one called me back with the lab results (usually the nurse does it), he referred to me as Dr. Lilitiger. I thought it was very respectful. I'm a psychologist, and I refer to my clients as Mr. or Ms. When they tell me "Oh, call me Charlie" most times (but not all, almost never for forensic work) I'll say, "Fine, call me Lili". I think its at the doc's discretion to initiate informality.

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          • #65
            When I'm talking face to face with him he's John, when I'm refering to him in the third person, he's Dr lastname.

            We've known each other for 15 years, he's cried with me as he put my mare down, we've been assortedly bled on, snotted on, pooped on and smooshed by cranky horses over those years, so yes, we are on a first name basis.

            My small anima vet is John, too. Saves a lot of confusion

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            • #66
              I use Dr. [First Name] but that's because my vet introduced himself that way and all the people in the office address him that way as well. Of course, if you saw all the consonants (especially c's, z's, w's, y's, gawd I think he has every consonant in his last name) you would be grateful to stick to a 3-letter first name.

              I think it's respectful of the person's position and education to address them as they see fit, especially in that setting. Even without the education factor I think it's just polite. I'm a teacher, and of course my students call me Mrs. [last name] but I pretty much expect their parents to do so as well, even if I am younger than them, which is not often anymore I address each parent by Mr/Mrs/Ms [last name] as well. If we know each other outside of the professional setting, that's a different story and I don't mind being more casual. What's cute is how students I taught a dozen years ago, now with advanced degrees and yes, doctorates, cannot seem to deal with dropping the "Mrs" and just calling me by my first name. It's just too "weird" for them so I let them keep doing it. I would not have any problem calling one of them "Dr." if they became my vet or physician.

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              • #67
                I use the first name only. However, when in the presence of other people, I introduce my vets as Dr.

                I think after I pay tens of thousands of dollars to a vet, I get to call him by his first name. (My defendants always called me by my first name, except when they called me girl dog. Nancy Grace was always called Miss Nancy by her defendants. That's too Gone with The Wind for me.)

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                • #68
                  Originally posted by trafalgar View Post
                  I am surprised that no one has mentioned what the veternarian calls them. Now if you are fairly young, obviously you are called by your first name. If you are a geezer like myself, and a vet calls me by my first name, I try to follow suit, especially if they are a lot younger. I call everyone I do not know well by their title and last name but I am a bit formal (according to my children). It irks me no end when a medical doctor I do not know well calls me by my first name.
                  You are a mature woman. Your husband is a geezer, although he is Dr. Geezer.

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                  • #69
                    Originally posted by JenEM View Post
                    Well, I voted for FirstName, because that's how I address my primary vet. Her staff calls her FirstName when I call the office, and her horse lives in the stall next to mine, so I see her a good bit outside of working hours
                    Of course if you know them personally, you don't use the title. And (old school) only Medical doctors use their titles socially (as opposed to PhDs).

                    lol, when I was actively involved in dog showing, there was this guy who INSISTED on being called "Dr." all the time when addressed. Always. I looked him up. He had a PhD in phys ed. But he introduced himself as "Doctor" everywhere, had it on all his dog showing business cards and advertisements. It was pretty funny.

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                    • #70
                      Eh, it's kind of interchangeable for me. My two main vets (sports medicine and general) I call by their first names; I see them enough! They come to my Christmas parties and garden parties, we're "personal" (non-work related) friends on FB. Other vets in the area tend to introduce themselves by their first and last name, no Dr. attached, so usually they end up being called by their first names as well. The vets I use up north, however, have aways been Dr. Soandso. Couldn't tell you why, but that's just the way it went.

                      Then again, I also call my personal physician by his first name. Granted, it is concierge medicine, so I am certainly paying for that kind of privilege/access, but it's not terribly weird to me.
                      Nine out of ten times, you'll get it wrong...but it's that tenth time that you get it right that makes all the difference.

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                      • #71
                        I've known my vet since shortly after he got out of vet school over 20 years ago. I've always called him Scott. When he calls me he says, "This is Scott" not Dr. W. So I've always felt that's how he wanted to be addressed. He is very informal.

                        My other vets are a married couple, both veterinarians. I refer them as Mister Doctor B----. and Missus Doctor B----
                        "My biggest fear is that when I die my husband is going to try to sell all my horses and tack for what I told him they cost."

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                        • #72
                          I call my vet by his first name because he's been taking care of my animals for twenty years. I call the other vets in the clinic Dr So-and-So because I don't know them as well.
                          I realize that I'm generalizing here, but as is often the case when I generalize, I don't care. ~ Dave Barry

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                          • #73
                            I think that's the point. Of course if someone says, "call me Scott," then you do. And of course over time and shared experiences we become more informal with people, so the poll is saying more about the different levels of relationships each of us have.

                            But if there was a new vet: not a family member, not someone you've known forever, but a new vet, what would you call them?

                            A new doctor gets out of the truck on your farm, says hello, I'm Sally Smith.

                            Would you say - the first time - "Hello, Sally" or would you say, "Hello, Dr. Smith"?

                            I'd say, "Hello, Dr. Smith." If she said, Call me Sally, I would. If she didn't, I'd always call her Dr. Smith.

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                            • #74
                              Originally posted by Anne FS View Post
                              I'd say, "Hello, Dr. Smith." If she said, Call me Sally, I would. If she didn't, I'd always call her Dr. Smith.
                              Yes.This.

                              But what I was going to add to my earlier post is that of course if makes a difference if one also has a longstanding social relationship with someone! My mom's small animal vet (used to do large as well) has put down two horses, as someone else said, been cried on, pooped on, etc. and comes to Christmas parties. He came to see her when she was in rehab this winter. They for sure are on first names!

                              So, if Dr Smith and I went on for years and she came to my house and I saw her socially, I imagine it would become Sally and Lili!

                              I will say that there can be lingering sexism in this-my office landlord is also a psychologist and I have heard lawyers refer to him as Dr. Landlord and me as Lili, and I have to remind them actually I am Dr. Tiger. Back when I was in grad school a professor (female) noted that students would interrupt her work(knock on her door) to ask where a male colleague was because they "didn't want to disturb him".

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                              • #75
                                lilitiger2, that reminded me of this: http://www.funnyvet.com/index.php/ca...?g2_itemId=553

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                                • #76
                                  Originally posted by Equibrit View Post
                                  I am always perplexed as to why anybody would use "Esquire" in the US ?
                                  Esquire is an appropriate title in the U.S. For example, when I address a letter to another attorney, I address it to "Firstname Lastname, Esq." Then I usually start the letter "Dear ____" if I know the attorney or "Dear Mr. ____" if I don't.

                                  When I sign documents on behalf of a client, I also indicate my title as "Esq." so that it is obvious that I am acting in my capacity as attorney for the company, etc.

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                                  • #77
                                    Originally posted by FineAlready View Post
                                    Esquire is an appropriate title in the U.S. For example, when I address a letter to another attorney, I address it to "Firstname Lastname, Esq." Then I usually start the letter "Dear ____" if I know the attorney or "Dear Mr. ____" if I don't.

                                    When I sign documents on behalf of a client, I also indicate my title as "Esq." so that it is obvious that I am acting in my capacity as attorney for the company, etc.
                                    Definitely use used in writing. Does anyone ever say it out loud, though? "May I speak to Esquire Smith?" Not really...

                                    To the OP...I usually refer my vets Dr. So and So but call them by their first names. Most of them refer to themselves and introduce themselves using their name and not their title, so it has never seemed awkward to me.

                                    The bigger issue for me was referring to my kids' teachers as Miss So and So....when they were 23 years old.

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                                    • #78
                                      Well...before my vet got married I called her Dr. Neiss...even though when she called me she introduced herself as "Jennifer"...then she got married.
                                      Honestly...I am not sure WHAT name she goes by now...the Vet voicemail box lists her as Neiss-Melcher...website still says Neiss, cell phone voicemail says Melcher...so, now I call her Dr Jennifer, lol.

                                      Thankfully she is very laidback. Now...the surgeon we had at UGA was Dr. Axel Beccar Varela....and since I have NO idea how to say his name and thanks to his LOVELY Argentinan (sp??) accent, I cant quite get a handle on how he pronounces is...so, I call him Dr Axel, lol. But, I would call him anything he wishes....sigh.
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                                      • #79
                                        Originally posted by Proud To Be Spotted View Post
                                        Doc. As in "What do you think about this Doc." But, if I am talking to his office staff or anyone else it is Dr. (last name).
                                        This.
                                        "And I will be an embarrassment to all
                                        Who have not found the peace in being free
                                        to have a horse as a best friend."

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                                        • #80
                                          Originally posted by Anne FS View Post
                                          lilitiger2, that reminded me of this: http://www.funnyvet.com/index.php/ca...?g2_itemId=553


                                          yes, I reserve that for my husband!

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