Help with tactfully getting out of a very sticky situation.HOW IT ENDED PAGE 17

[Whisper]

Sure, that'll work! Hmm, would putting a helmet cover over the tinfoil interfere with its effectiveness?

[talkofthetown]

Sure, that'll work! Hmm, would putting a helmet cover over the tinfoil interfere with its effectiveness?

That would be the "stealth mode" looney repeller. No one would know it was there, but it'll still do its' job!

[lindat]

You all are hilarious tonight!!!!

[horse-loverz]

That would be the "stealth mode" looney repeller. No one would know it was there, but it'll still do its' job!

Awesome... I'm gonna make one for me AND my trainer.... Then I'm going to get a paton(sp?) on it and make a mint...


*** Hmm maybe I could slip one under Pat Parelli's cowboy hat... then he would have empty demonstrations... part one of my evil plan is coming together.. muhahahahahahah********

[equinelaw]

I want tin-foil glasses. Most of my crazy info comes in visually--not through brain waves

[Amwrider]

OK, so maybe we need to have another smilie, one with a tin foil colander on it's head and tin foil glasses.

[talkofthetown]

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[horse-loverz]

Thanks for the hat I'm going to need it.

Ugggh it gets worse.. Parent A called me AGAIN last night.. at 11pm... evidently Parent B says that since he is not a corporation he and she cannot enter into a contract together so he wants the agreement/contract to be between the kids.. in the kids names only...... Where is the fruitbat???? Parent A was calling to ask what I did to be able to enter into a contract with Ex-Trainer.. I told her I was breathing.... seriously WTF??? I told her that 2 minors could not enter into a contract together and have it be legal. That the contract needs to be between the 2 chronologically aged adults (cause at this point I question the maturity) who are going to be financially responsible for the pony need to sign the contract. I again gave her the name of the equine atty I used and strongly suggested she call her. Maybe I need to change my number...... again. ..

[arena run]

And to think... at first our sympathies were w/Parent B.


LOLOLOL


Oh my. sylvia

[jeano]

Maybe its time to start sending parent A an itemized bill for non- professional consultation every time she calls. Explain that your fee will escalate every time you are asked, and that your advice will remain the same. Then start sending notices that her account is overdue. Then turn it over to a collection agency.

[Tamara in TN]

[QUOTE]

Thanks for the hat I'm going to need it.

Ugggh it gets worse.. Parent A called me AGAIN last night.. at 11pm...

that alone would get them the boot from us...what utter, selfish, rudeness...

[JanM]

H-L--if someone called me at 11 p.m. the only thing they would get is "Who Died?", and when it turned out to be a stupid question I would make them sorry they called me after 9 p.m. and bothered me, they would be told in no uncertain terms what to do with their phone and their question, followed by the slamming of my phone receiver. (It's O.K. I have spare phones). What kind of idiot thinks it's acceptable to call someone with small kids late at night about c$*( like this? You definitely need to tell A and B to shove it and bother someone else, and that the next call will be reported to the cops--maybe they will buzz off then. And I would make a police report if they bothered me again. Some people are so totally self centered that they refuse to be considerate of others-because in their world it's all about them. If you make a police report about harassing calls I think most phone companies will change your number for free--at least it will save you some bucks.

The nerve of some people simply amazes me-and the stupidity. Bill Engval the comedian is right-stupid people need to carry a sign warning people so the rest of us can treat them appropriately and be ready to cope with their idiocy.

[dacasodivine]

On the bright side if I give the kids my crayons and a Contracts 4 Dummies book and some lined 2nd grade paper I'll bet they would probably come up with something better than their parents will

I'm thinking you should give both parents A and B a copy of Contracts 4 Dummies and a box of crayons!

Did you say anything to her in regard to the time she called? One night around midnight you should call her and ask her something stupid. Nah, she might then think you guys are buddies and bug you all the time. Never mind.

[ChocoMare]

HL: I know you're trying to be the adult (obviously the only REAL one) and be polite, but anyone calling me at that hour would no longer hear "polite" in my voice. Once I found at that said caller was not a family member involved in a 5-car pile up or near death, the caller would then be subjected to my lecture about how calling after 9:30 (at the latest) is just plain RUDE, selfish and inconsiderate!!

Deep breath....

It's time for a stand-down with A and B, (and have Trainer as innocent by-sitter/witness in the corner). You simply say: "Any dealings you two want to finagle is between you. I hereby declare my independence and do not wish to hear another word. No more calls at 11pm at night (staring at A), no more drama, nothing. The only words I want to hear are 'Good evening. How about those Wildcats? Did you have a good ride?' - brief pause- Do we understand?! Gooood!" ....

...and walk out a victorious woman who has released herself from this sordid, childish and entangled mess!

Then you can sit back and watch it all implode.

[Ambrey]

2 words.

Caller I.D.

[LSM1212]

2 words.

Caller I.D.

Yep.. have to second that. Seriously... just ignore her calls. And when you do see her and have to speak to her... say, "Here's the name of the atty I used... call him/her." And just keep saying that over and over again no matter what she says. Hopefully, she'll get the hint. If you say anything else, it just feeds her "need".

Side note: H-L works nights... so maybe that's the reason for the 11pm call. But still... to call you at work and at that hour. Not cool... unless, of course you asked her to. *wink wink*

[talkofthetown]

Good for you for sticking with it! If she IS a terrier, you can always just kick her and send her flying

[MidlifeCrisis]

Hmmm...I'm thinking along the lines of handing Parent A a contract that states that Parent A is responsible for all expenses including lessons for child B until such time that child A and child B can ride at the same level. At that time, the contract could be renegotiated. Then when she throws a fit, you can say that you wrote a contract to the best of your ability. And then run like heck

[RNB]

*RNB overnights HL a special tin foil hat and shades to help protect her from all the loonies she seems to attract.*


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[ESG]

Absolutely not, MidlifeCrisis! Any further acknowledgement of Parent A's presence on this planet by HL will be taken as tacit agreement and compliance with her (Parent A's) agenda, and efforts to involve HL will redouble.

HL, tell Parent A that unless she leaves you alone, you're getting a restraining order to keep her away from both you and your family. I don't think you need to worry much about Parent B; he's too busy using his racehorse cocktails on himself to be much trouble to anyone else. Kinda makes you think that that's what Jeff Spicoli from Fast Times at Ridgemont High turned out like.

Actually, probably the best option for you would be to refer Parent A to trainer next time she tries to bully you into "helping" her. And refuse to say anything else. No matter what, do not be drawn in. Even the most persistent bullies eventually get the message, if rebuffed often enough. And if she doesn't? Well, there's always the restraining order option. And I'd think about mentioning it to her, too. Threatening (and being willing to carry out) legal action, has a way of cracking the head of the most tenacious of idiots and letting in a bit of sense.

Good luck, HL, and to your saintly trainer, too.